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TygrBright Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 12:15 AM
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In the Mean Time...
When did we turn things over to the mean people? And is there anything we can do to take things back, without becoming mean people ourselves?

Don’t get me wrong. There have always been mean people and, being what they are, some of them have always managed to claw and stab and manipulate and threaten their way into positions of power. A certain percentage of TPTB has always been comprised of mean people. Yet in the past, the percentage has seemed much lower. When I was a lot younger, the breakdown of People In Charge looked something like this:

10% Mean People
20% Well-Intentioned Incompetents
40% Totally Clueless Indifferent Morons
20% Barely Competent Timeserving Drones
10% Decent, Hard-Working Public Servants

It wasn’t optimal, but we managed to muddle along with the few public servants and timeserving drones, and the rest of the makeweight was at least benign and relatively non-toxic.

Lately it seems as though the percentages look more like this:

10% Well-Intentioned Incompetents
20% Totally Clueless Indifferent Morons
50% Mean People
10% Barely Competent Timeserving Drones
10% Decent, Hard-Working Public Servants

The difference is critical. As long as the mean people were a sufficiently minor component in the mix, their toxicity was diluted to the point where it couldn’t do too much damage. Unfortunately, like many toxic substances, their effects in large amounts are exponentially potentiated.

Mean people suddenly abound in government, in business, in the media, in religion, in the military, in entertainment— even in education! They’re transforming our society into a cruel, brutish, Darwinian environment where anyone not mean enough to hold their own has the choice of either becoming mean or becoming sidelined, irrelevant, or utterly destroyed. How did it happen? When did we cross the threshold?

Fairly recently, meanness was not generally socially acceptable, and the overtly mean were tolerated only so long as they channeled their meanness into outlets where it could be legitimately useful, like the military or law enforcement. Yet even in those institutions, meanness was seen only as an occasionally-useful tool, and one that had to be used sparingly and with much control and discipline.

Oh, like many socially-unacceptable characteristics, meanness had a measure of nonconformist subcultural appeal, a daring fly-in-the-face of conventionality that served to keep its societally-useful aspects alive. Yet even in the entertainment/media culture, the “Misunderstood Anti-hero” or “Heart of Gold” device usually alleviated meanness. It was understood that the flinty, seemingly-hardboiled ‘mean’ person might have been embittered by misfortune but, given a chance to demonstrate her/his essential character, ended up making significantly non-mean choices, even at the cost of personal hardship or death. To the truly mean were allocated the roles of villains and antagonists, portrayed as unamiable and unadmirable. Thus were the essential values that make a large, complex, heterogeneous society possible preserved.

Films, literature, and television back then could somehow explore complex issues of moral ambiguity and yet still clearly portray the social and ethical superiority of not being mean.

At some point, though, the anti-hero lost his heart of gold, and yet retained the glamour, the tacit approval, the admirability, of his protagonistic portrayal. Moral ambiguity became more ambiguous still, in the face of a “to the victor go the spoils” philosophy. Win-at-all-costs “heroes” were portrayed as more admirable for their cleverness in cheating, breaking the rules, taking the law into their own hands, or dominating others than sniveling, weak, vacillating but rule-abiding characters. The end began to justify the meanness, as it were. And from there it was all downhill.

Sports commentators and journalists lauded players who could be violent, brutal, and vindictive against opponents without actually breaking the rules— or at least, without getting caught. Gangsters, thugs and criminals became the icons of youth music. And Americans began believing that “mean” was the only way to be effective, powerful, and potent. No more quiet, principled heroes like Atticus Finch or George Bailey. They’re just too quaint, too sentimental, too antediluvian in their approach. They’d get totally pwned by the thugs and gangstas of today’s mean, violent entertainment, proving their essential pussiness. Now we have guys who dispense “justice” and “righteousness” with shoulder-mounted missile launchers and expensive special effects.

And somewhere along the way, the real damage began.

A few dacades ago, when mean was socially unacceptable, a mean politician or public bureaucrat did her or his best to hide their meanness, and pretend they weren’t mean at all. Exposure and confirmation of real meanness was tantamount to political suicide and virtually guaranteed a quick trip to history’s Dustbin of Oblivion and/or Odium. Oh, they could do mean things, but they had to figleaf them with protestations of nobility and good intentions, and do them in such a way as to keep the victims of their meanness under a very thick rug. They could stay in office only so long as they convinced enough voters that they weren’t actually mean, just making difficult choices where no good alternatives were available. Sophistry has never been entirely absent from public discourse.

But in the mean time of today’s America, it is no longer necessary to pretend not to be mean. A politician or bureaucrat can succeed brilliantly so long as she or he simply directs meanness in ways that appeal to an increasingly mean electorate. Public discourse descends from sophistry to invective, and the rant has become an art form. The only effective form of criticism, it seems, is intentionally cruel and biting satire, or hate-filled jeremiads. Do unto others what they’re doing to you, only do it faster and meaner.

“Civil” society hasn’t been so uncivil in years.

Just how many years? I thought about that in an effort to understand these mean times, to see whether there be any ray of hope in the cyclic pendulum of history. What does it take, I wondered, to get people who live in mean times to eschew the value of meanness in favor of civility, however insincere or artificial it may feel? When was the last time America lived in a stew of mutual recrimination, unabashed corruption, blatant predation, yellow journalism, purple prose, and fractured, factionated communities divided among themselves?

William Jennings Bryan’s famous “Cross of Gold” speech was given near the end of the last such period in American history. At the end of the nineteenth century, America was sharply divided between haves and have-nots, ruled by an oligarchy of monopolistic businessmen and corrupt Party bosses who made all the real decisions behind closed doors and barely troubled themselves to figleaf their voracious self-interest with pious public statements.

Reform efforts had been underway for decades, making little headway, but at some point the balance tipped, the pendulum passed its midpoint, and the have-nots began to assert themselves. Yet in the early days the fight for social and economic justice was pursued by the same methods that had been used to keep the balance of power with the oligarchs. Violence, corruption, cronyism, and all the trappings of meanness were appropriated to arm far too many of the warriors for a more equitable society, a tactical decision that certainly embittered and probably prolonged the struggle. As long as the oligarchs could point to the hateful rhetoric and thuggish tactics of their opponents, those opponents could be easily framed as the perpetrators of horrific bombings and public outrages that set their work back again and again. Nevertheless, they had real justice on their side and they made progress.

And then, the public discourse seemed to grow less mean. More hypocritical, perhaps, more insincere and cynical and even stultified, as the gray flannel suit, conformist tie, and measured, unemotional rationalism became the accepted currency of power. And meanness certainly persisted in many aspects of society and culture, cloaked in a moribund respectability that rendered it all the more noxious. Yet as meanness lost its sway, those struggling to reform society began to perceive that their struggle could be advanced, battles won and even victories grasped without resort to being mean. Martin Luther King was the exemplar, but there were dozens, even hundreds, of gentle warriors who firmly demanded change, progress, and justice. They opposed meanness without being mean, and this time many listened, abjured meanness, and profound changes slowly began.

What happened to bring about the change from a society that rewarded meanness to a society that penalized meanness? Doubtless there are dozens of factors, but what struck me vividly was rather discouraging for us today. Meanness seemed to take its first blows during the Depression, and to be really struck low during World War II. It suffered minor resurgences but was kept well in check during the early years of the Cold War, as America soberly faced the very real threat of Soviet nuclear weaponry. Only as the Cold War wound down in the face of the increasingly obvious collapse of the USSR, and the long nightmare of Viet Nam, did America seem to rediscover the attraction of meanness.

I sincerely hope that doesn’t mean we cannot overcome the current mean time without an economic collapse and sustained, broadbased misery on the scale of the Depression. I hope it doesn’t take shared national sacrifice on the scale of World War II, and existential threat to the degree of Soviet ICBMs aimed at US cities to make us give up the sick pleasures of viciously deriding and victimizing each other to achieve our political ends.

But I’m afraid nothing else will do the trick. I’d be grateful to anyone who could convince me otherwise.

pessimistically,
Bright
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silverlib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 12:51 AM
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1. Are we so shallow?
Many years ago, or at least it seems such, after the fall of Communism in Russia and the dismantling of the Berlin wall, my husband said that we Americans would have to find someone else to hate. He predicted the rise of racism.

He was right and he was wrong. We have taken many steps back in racial equality, but we have found so much more to hate. I would have never imagined.
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civildisoBDence Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 10:08 AM
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2. My own brother says invading Iraq was a good thing so we could show
the Middle East that we're "tough."

Tens of thousands of innocent people had to die so a few million mean-spirited assholes could feel DUUUUUUHbya's swagger?

Newsprism
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libhill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 03:41 PM
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13. Fuk 'em -
Edited on Sun Sep-24-06 03:43 PM by libhill
invading Iraq was like knocking over a peanut stand with an aircraft carrier. If the maniacs in power are allowed to invade Iran and China enters into the equation, we're going to have our asses handed to us on a platter. We'll see how macho these dumb fuks look then.
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 05:45 PM
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16. I heard someone say
Edited on Sun Sep-24-06 05:46 PM by Canuckistanian
That the invasion of Iraq was the military equivalent of beating up your grandmother.

There was already a no-fly zone. An economic embargo. The UN had already destroyed Iraq's most deadly missiles.

It was probably the most watched, spied on and scrutinized country in the world by the US.

The US knew exactly what weaponry they had (including that they had NO useful WMDs), what their troop strength was and where the command posts were located.

Any major army who coudn't win against an enemy like that doesn't deserve to call itself an army.
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libhill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 10:26 PM
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20. Exactly -
and now these mad men want a war with Iran? Stop the world, I need to get off.
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Bucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 10:17 AM
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3. As a barely competent timeserving drone, I say "bravo"
Well said. Oh, I could pick a nit here or there, but your vision is epic... and tragic... and true. Thank you for saying this.
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 05:48 PM
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17. Me, too
Although I'm angling for a promotion to get a Well-Intentioned Incompetent gig.
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Auggie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 11:06 AM
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4. Maybe meaness is a way to self-importance.
If we are dominate over someone else, doesn't it makes us feel superior?
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Jade Fox Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 11:07 AM
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5. Excellent piece, but don't blame Darwin.....
In a true Darwinian fight the Meanies are nothing without those rocket launchers on their shoulders. Meanies are cowards and weaklings. That's why most of them are chickenhawks.

Our current crop of Meanies feed on a sense of powerlessness rather than a sense of entitlement, though the wealthy are clearly footing the bill for Right-wing talk radio and book writing Meanies. The common Meanies have convinced themselves they have been victimized (you'd think every one of them were in the WTC on 9/11), and thus are justified in doing whatever necessary to counteract that victimization. That speaks of a sense of powerlessness, but a powerlessness that is extremely dangerous if inflamed as it currently is in our country. It's quite easy to find some Meanie posting on the Internet in favor of torture because the monstrousness of the enemy justifies it. That these sort of people know much about Radical Islam is unlikely, so the source of their frightening support of torture is in their head, and is being legitimized by Limbaugh, Coulter, etc., in the media.

The incivility of discourse is also a tactic of powerlessness. Today's Meanie heroes and heroines can not win and argument with logic. The Meanies have convinced themselves and their followers that the Left's jokes at the expense of "Conservative Idiots" is rooted in a similar meanness, rather than in disgust at Conservative hypocrisy and corruption.

The Meanies must be starved. David Brock is right when he says "It's the Media, Stupid". As long as the fears and fantasies of the Meanies are inflamed on a regular basis in the media, I'm afraid this country will be in trouble.
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ananda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 11:33 AM
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6. So, the question is..
.. how and why did so many people get so mean?

In the past ten years I've noticed how the theme of meanness has permeated into the media and film by way of the meme of doing whatever it takes for one's family, tribe, or country. Somehow this seems to make it socially acceptable, even if that means breaking the law, resorting to vigilanteism, or attacking or killing the wrong person. I really hate that scenario, but it's there and it's pervasive. Ugghh.

Sue
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tanyev Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 05:31 PM
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15. Let's not forget the repeal of the Fairness Doctrine under Raygun
in 1987. This ushered in the era of non-stop, unchecked, "all hate all the time" right wing talk radio that fed and nurtured a lot of meanness.
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GOPFighter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 12:05 PM
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7. There's meanness in all of us
The German people who supported Hitler are no different than us, they just happened to have leaders who knew just what buttons to push to allow the meanness to bubble to the surface, and then they provided them with enemies to hate and kill: non-Aryans.

For over two hundred years our leaders have understood the destructiveness inherent within us, and most of them have tried hard to keep us from letting the meanness take over. Unfortunately we now have an Administration that has no scruples. They are more than willing to push our buttons and provide us with enemies to hate to distract us from their real intent: to create a plutocracy in America. This Administration is very good at making our buttons easy to push: scare the people, make them poor, and tell them god says it's okay to hate and torture whoever they they identify as our enemies.

I don't think Americans today are any meaner than people in other cultures, we just have mean leaders who encourage us to feel our meanness and act on it. Someday, if we're lucky, they will be prosecuted for allowing the torture of prisoners.
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Auggie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 12:30 PM
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8. Excellent piece, by the way. Thanks.
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ArmchairMeme Donating Member (390 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 01:03 PM
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9. Fearful and big
It seems to me that mean people are at a disadvantage because they are less intelligent and very fearful of being exposed as incapable. They seem to use the distraction of their meanness to give them the upper hand. It only works just so long as no one calls them on it.

The current racism has it's own limitations as we are a country composed of many of the people we are being told to hate. The melting pot that America already has many muslims in all facets of businesses.
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bhikkhu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 11:43 PM
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22. Recall that "muslim" is not a race.
And Arabs and the historic Jews are essentially the same race, and Iranians are basically caucasian...etc. And "illegal immigrants" are mostly native americans. Racism is generally based on confused ignorance (and meanness).
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peacetalksforall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 01:05 PM
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10. What made people the opposite of mean?
Sense of community. Religion without excess hypocrisy. People who read literature and studied history. A keener sense of brotherhood and sharing.

It is natural for a young person to flinch at meanness that exists in literature that a Dickens or a (Harper) Lee brought to us - in type on paper.

I hesitate to raise the issue of what I think is largely responsible - television and film. Mean is in. Mean is smart. Mean in to be emulated. The child who read now watches and emulates.

I believe there has always been an element of meanness throughout all the decades with many of our leaders. The same television that brings us meanness that some aspire to - exposes the meanness of our leaders as demonstrated every day on C-Span.

In general, we don't vote the meanness out of our leaders - we reward them with another six years and let them pontificate meanness = Helms, Thurmond, Bennett, Stevens, etc. We reward the meanness of Fox, CNN, NBC, ABC by watching them and supporting the corporations that support them. And we may hold their stock and support those who hold their stock.

What is at its pinnacle presently, is the complete absence of memory and knowledge - what our grandparents or great-grandparents might have gone through when they arrived on this continent is what their descendent's dish out to foreigners in the country and all the people of the country them came from. So one of the opposites of mean is disconnect.

At the same time those grandparents and great-grandparents displaced and stole the natives and the slaves. Our heritage is mean.

But we did have eras of doing better and striving to do better.

The answer is with the little people - they must replace many leaders and relearn basics - after coming to a certain consciousness.
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Festivito Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 01:12 PM
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11. You might have to feel a little mean, alongside feeling a little justified
Do we need tremendous loss in order to reinvigorate the power of people? Well, it's probably the easiest method.

Not the only method.

perhaps a little to resignedly,
Festiv

Did we hide our meanness through many years? We stole political power, stole land, stole people, and we propped puppets to steal resources. Have we run out of thieving outlets so we now turn upon ourselves?
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 01:38 PM
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12. first of all, K&N
second, :yourock:

third, I'm so glad you're my pal :pals:

now, to address your question;

people are mean when they are scared and there is lots to fear in today's world. I think the better (or different) question is when did we become such cowards? People need someone else to blame for their perceived failures.

part of the perception of failure in our society it's all about "toys" a bigger car, faster PC, smaller phone, or whatever the 'product de jour' is. We have lost the ability to find contentment in our lives through our own actions and in our own hearts. thanks to Madison Ave, we all feel "less than"

and it we are fortunate enough to have all the "toys" the fear is that we will be uncovered as the shams we are. most of the folks I know who "have everything" are either in debt up to their eyeballs or terrified they will be "found out" as not as smart, competent, sexy or whatever it is they built their persona on.

we Americans have turned into "fear biters" due to a neurotic fear of life.

How can we change it? I fear it will take a cataclysm to bring us back to basics. Home, family, community. Where we depend on each other and are judged by what we truly contribute rather than what we consume conspicuously.

Personal responsibility and intrinsic knowledge of our own worth give us strength. I am reminded of the character in "V for Vendetta" who found her courage when she realized that she could survive the worst they could throw at her and still have her 'core'

It is a personal journey that far too few of us attempt, but it is the only way to strength and from strength we find compassion and gentleness

I'm not sure I explained this correctly, but I know my personal journey has taught me that I can survive and fear is a waste of energy. and since you don't scare me, I don't have to attack you by being mean.

Thanks Bright, another fine post asking a difficult question :hug:



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cassiepriam Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 05:08 PM
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14. Americans lack morality and intelligence.
How else can we explain so many who do not know
right from wrong, or truth from lies?

Something is very wrong with the country.
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rnisson Donating Member (11 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 08:07 PM
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19. Meanness and fear are 2 sides of the same coin
They perpetuate mass fear, and all people can do to feel safe is lash out

Fear is by far the most socially destructive emotion,
not to mention it keeps people from doing what they KNOW is right.

Heres a Dune quote, I found it appropriate, its regarding saving yourself from fear.

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind killer.
Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
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illinoisprogressive Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 07:53 PM
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18. Many Things Brought Mean to the Forefront
I see it as the coming together of several things at once.
The movies went for the super realism and so, the heart of gold became silly, quaint. The anti hero became heartless in the strive for realism
In sports, the heat kept turning up in order to get more and more viewers. suddenly, it was no more gamesmanship but, win at all costs. Who placed 2nd was no longer good enough. Only first.
We had in the 80s the rise of Limbaugh who was at the time, new and fresh. But, his humor relied on being totally mean. No holds barred.
We had M. Douglas in Wall Street touting Greed is good. For greed to be good you have to lack compassion, caring or human emotion.
With all this came the coming together of the AWM (angry white man) who felt alienated and needed to proove himself as a man by being a bully. Bullies became the darlings and men who were human were seen as wimps.
This got into the equal opportunity so, then, women had to be mean as well to show thier "balls".
We also never grew beyond the culture of being Manly. That was okay when taming the country. But, once it was settled and becoming a society, instead of us evolving into a civilized nation we looked for more and more ways to keep that macho culture alive. Thoughtful, intellegent discourse, manners, ect., was seen as effete and european. Real men don't do that. The only way to go was to express it in mean and bullish and nastiness.
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ladym55 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-24-06 10:55 PM
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21. Thanks for the great and thoughtful post...
And to all the thoughtful responses. I mentioned our cultural of meaness just this morning to my husband(as a good Christian ran a red light on his way to church). I call it being in George Bush's America. We are led by mean, angry, and vengeful boys. They are supported by equally mean-spirited media voices that drown out discussion with bullying, logical fallacies, and pure venom. Our church pulpits are filled with mean voices who use the Bible as a means of intimidation. Then we add our worship of STUFF. We have to have more STUFF than the next guy and our STUFF has to be more expensive. So we consume, consume, consume ... compete, compete, compete. So we want the next guy to FAIL. We take pleasure in someone else's pain.

So we are left with lots of toys, lots of debt, and an emptiness inside. And we are scared and angry. And we are mean because we are looking out for number one. In the last six years, I have watched my own community become a colder, meaner place. In 2004 Bush supporters were intimidating voters INSIDE the polling place (because they could). Swapping insults is how we argue.

I have taught writing for 19 years and I'm leaving it for awhile because I can't face one more semester of students' venom-filled papers. The kids who are coming of age now only know how to argue like Fox News. Call someone names--insult an idea--trash a position without any support.

And the meanest people I know are Evangelical Christians. I hope they are REALLY proud of themselves.
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CrispyQ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-26-06 09:07 AM
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25. I have two Christian friends,
one is beginning to see that bush is anything but Christian. He has a 17 year old boy & other younger children. Perhaps he finally sees the inevitable outcome of a decades long war.

My other friend, however, was (hopefully, still is!) a wonderful, kind Christian woman who somehow ended up with a mean-spirited, fearful, zealot type. :cry: I am simply stunned that she married him & our friendship has not been the same since. She became homophobic almost overnight - to the point of telling me they would not consider adoption because they might end up with a homosexual child. ~gasp! There is a bright note, however! Her youngest (& favorite) child (9 or so) is already an outspoken Democrat. He is charming & very charismatic! He supported Kerry/Edwards in '04 & he warned the entire family that if they voted for bush they'd be sorry. They were confounded by that! ;)

I see a similar theme throughout this thread -- materialism over people.

"Venom-filled papers." :hug:
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Perry Mason Donating Member (50 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-25-06 04:55 PM
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23. Wow, I thought I was the only one...
We've all seen the bumper sticker "Mean People Suck".

I'd say over the past 6-8 years, I have been constantly noticing a dramatic increase in the number of people I encounter who are just M&N's (Mean & Nasty). An even greater spike occured after 9/11, sort of like a backlash against that week following the attacks when everyone everywhere was super nice and polite.

Public office is filled with people who can be explained with no other measure, they're just Mean. Public policy, particularly with regard to education and health care, seems deliberately mean-spirited. Public discourse, oy vey! I can remember a time when you could legitimately debate issues of public interest with people who did not necessarily agree with you and remain civil. One often learned things they might not have thought of in this fashion.

Not today. People everywhere are like, "You either agree with me or you're a #%@!! jerk!"

I don't like it. No wonder we spend so much time at my home watching old movies from the 1930's and 1940's (we've even debated WHY we do that)...it's no mystery to me...we long for a NICER time.
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CrispyQ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-26-06 08:50 AM
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24. Very thoughtful post,
& some great responses. Kicked & nominated.

I have noticed increasing meanness in our society over the past 10 years or so. Curtness toward service workers, dangerous & rude behavior on the highway, lack of sportsmanship in competition.

Somewhere along the way we abandoned our communities. We left behind a 'we're all in this together' worldview for 'you're on your own' worldview. We let Madison Avenue dictate our desires & not surprisingly, we now value things more than people. As our resource pool shrinks, people engage in ever more desperate & despicable acts to grab their piece of the action, regardless of who they have to step on to get it. We no longer view our neighbors as, well, neighbors, but rather as competitors.

I think we got fat, dumb & lazy. It took hard work to get where the USA was, then we rested on our laurels. We let our standards slip, we stopped paying attention. It's easy to do when you've worked hard for a long time & finally reach your goals. Next thing you know, you're no longer where you were & the real judge of character is, what do you do now?

Sadly, is appears America's 21st century character is badly tarnished.
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