So I chose to lose a GOP Bush voting (though Boxer too) friend over...

[NNguyenMD]

a comment she made about Micahel Moore.

I've always known her to be kind of a ultra consevative GOP idiot, but she's the type who relishes in not talking about politics or the world (b/c she doesn't like to keep up with it) and would have rather live life with her proverbial ears over her head, yelling "la la la la la la la I can't hear you!" all along the way.

But this time, I don't know what came over me but I just couldn't resist making her look like an idiot one last time. I was reading through her online journal where in one of her entries she takes a brief swip at Michael Moore, complaining at how much of a negative effect he has on "people's rationale" or whatever the fuck thats suppose to mean.
But anyways, so I go onto my Xanga page, where I have a decent readership among many of our mutual friends, and I skewered her comments. However, I would like to note that I did everything I could to preserve her anonymity in my entry, and just spoke very generically about a friend's journal entry comments (basically so no one would have known that I was talking about her).

And I wasn't even being mean. You can get to my Xanga site from my profile page in fact and read for yourself if you want to. But to make a long story short, she replied to my entry IN A PUBLIC FORUM!! thinking that it was still between me and her.

This is where things really went down hill. She gives me this meaningless, though well intentioned, rant about why she said what she said. So I don't know what came over me, I couldn't resist piece mealing her second comments in a very sarcastic, biting kind of way, but I did try to be cordial at the end of it, opening the way to more discussion. But its not like I called her names, or suggested that she was an idiot (which she is).

So in her latest entry in a clandestine secret blog that she's forgotten that she's told me about, she speaks of her frustration of with me and choosing to effectively end whatever remaining friendship that we had left, and accused me of taking her private comments and sharing them with all my friends, as if she didn't know that she was posting in a VERY public place like xanga.

Anyway guys, thanks for listening, I just want to make it clear that I don't feel bad at all about this. It was getting pretty boring talking to her anyways as politics and news are always off limit topics with her. Better that she knows where I stand than having to deal with her idiocy further.

[lonestarnot]

1. Cherio ol man! Shake off the residue, believe me this person NOT friend

as these people do not know how to have a friendship.

[tk2kewl]

2. If she voted for Boxer and *Bush she is either schizophrenic or

she just likes to jump on band wagons

[NNguyenMD]

5. you hit it right on the nail, though I say its probably both

[GalleryGod]

3. Another One Bites the Dust

What folks say on-line they would never dare, whilst within "Slap-your-mouth" range.:spank:

This is the TRUE and lasting legacy born in the bowels of the Newt Gingrich "GOPac" teaching series. We must all work through it-but never yield to them.

Thanks!:yourock:

[NNguyenMD]

7. thanks man, you guys are great at least here people listen to each other

No man You ROCK!

[w4rma]

4. She posted comments to a blog and then later said that they were supposed

to be private and that somehow her posting those comments meant that you had somehow shared these "private"!?! comments with all the readers of you blog?

Insane. You don't need the headache of putting up with that BS.

[Tsiyu]

6. You know, just a few moments ago

I was thinking how pleasant life is since I cut off my Repuke friends. I see now what time-wasters they were, and how I was always having to appease them, go where they wanted to go, put up with their bullshit, while I was told I was "psycho" for supporting Kerry or any Dem.

I realize now that one gal, college degreed though she may have been, was so ignorant, I never really had any decent discussions with her. She was all about HER life. We had common interests: animals, travel, camping, 420, hot men. But I could never see her progressing beyond where she was. I want to keep growing and changing for the better, even at 45.

I realized this morning that I have PEACE.

And lots more time to enjoy!

[Nothing Without Hope]

11. Good news: it's even BETTER after 45

I had to smile at the "I want to keep growing and changing for the better, even at 45." Actually, I've found the pace of that can actually pick up as the years continue to pass. In fact, I think it has to.

[Tsiyu]

12. Thanks for that good news, NWH!

And kudos to anyone with the guts to rid yourself of toxic, dumb people!

[GetTheRightVote]

8. I do not have much to do with Repub friends anymore myself

They tend to be self centered people anyway, with little or no regard for other people in this world. The few Repubs friends I have would do nothing for another human being even if they could though they do have a nice up front face they give to the world. They also tend to love their money a little more then I believe is sane and they would not part from it for anyone.

I have so little in common with them anyway. I use to try to understand them but I have finally concluded that I can not because I care about what happens to other people and I now align myself with the Democrats because of it. My repub friends do not understand it at all.

They say that everyone must make their own way and they are not going to help them with it in any way. This is to selfish of a world view for me and I do not wish to associate with them because of their selfish views. So what can I say, like the people who care about other people, that's about it.

:kick:

[Nothing Without Hope]

9. I doubt the friendship was all that close - reality avoidance doesn't help

If this person is so blatantly avoiding unpleasant reality in politics, chances are there are other areas of her life where she's doing something similar. This produces a kind of determined superficialty, an "anti-wisdom." In my experience, these people can be fairly adept at clever chatter, but under it all there are huge areas that are closed off as if they aren't even there. Sooner or later, a long-term friendship needs to be able to go into those areas.

Easy for ME to say, but I tend to think you're better off without her, unless you work together and would face awkwardness daily if not on reasonable terms (not the same thing as friendship, more a social ease). There are so many better ways to spend the time and emotional energy otherwise spent on this dead-end relationship. I hope you now meet new people who have the capacity to be true friends. Not only is this a good thing in itself, but the best way to banish the hurt and anxiety (mild but probably there, along with some guilt feelings) left over from that relationship is to replace them with the positive emotions and excitement of new, real friendships.

Don't worry about your former "friend," I imagine she's already rewritten her script for "reality" to fit you into a role that promotes and reinforces her comfortable self-image. These people tend to be rather resilient that way, as long as the reality that they are so determined to avoid doesn't come crashing in on them.

I suspect that on some level you were totally fed up with her and what happened was an expression of that, a way to get her out of your life. Just my opinion.

[NNguyenMD]

13. you hit it right on, thank you for that =)

[NickofTime]

10. Repug's are Delusional, Avoid Them!