"I regret my abortion!"

[Bluebear]

"Of course, I was pleased as punch that the option was available to ME when I made that choice. But now I am campaigning to overturn Roe v Wade so that none of those young women following me will have any 'regrets' later. Oh, and don't plan on society supporting your little one either, move to France hippy's."

I don't get this tactic.

[Swamp Rat]

1. "GOOD!... YOU BABY KILLERS!"

That's what you say to those idiots. :eyes:

[ComerPerro]

8. Murderer!

These people are admitted murderers!

[Patriot Acts]

2. we need more....

....poor young adults to rectuit for the New American Century.

[SoCalDem]

3. Haven't you ever known an EX-smoker or EX-drunk??

or a Born-again?? THEY saw nothing wrong with living THEIR lives as they saw fit...but then THEY reformed, so EVERYONE has to be just like them :)

They call it "holier than thou"..:puke:

[ComerPerro]

6. Exactly

"Who cares what I used to be like. The point is that I have been born again. But you are a vile sinner, and you will most certainly go to hell."

[MemphisTiger]

25. That is the point of being born-again

you have admitted that you are a sinner, BUT you have accepted Jesus into your heart and make a vow to live your life in accordance to Christ teachings. It's not enough to talk the talk, you MUST walk the walk. That is where most self-proclaimed Christians fall apart. If they do proclaim Jesus as their savior, but do NOT live what they preach, they never accepted Jesus into their heart. When they reach Heavan, Jesus will say "I never knew you."

[wildmanj]

29. worship

why would one want to worship a jewish reject when they can talk to the man/woman with all the marbles---religion sucks---reach out and touch the spiritual and then one has something to hang their hat on

[Az]

32. And we all know what Jesus said about abortions

Er... he did say something about them right?

[TWiley]

9. I thought the correct term was

"Ass Holy"

[ComerPerro]

4. Wow, look at those two murderers

Murderers walking free in the streets. Has it really come to this?


Disclaimer for the sarcasm impaired: I am, of course, not of the opinion that abortion is murder. However, according to pro-lifers, abortion is murder, and the 40 million or however many abortions is a genocide. Therefore, since these women have had abortions, they are murderers. It doesn't matter that they regret the decision. The pro-lifers are honoring these murderers. That's my angle here. If you still have a problem, flame away. But I might have gone to sleep.

[EFerrari]

10. lol. nice, I wanna copy. n/t

[Patriot Acts]

11. Kill Iraqi babies......

.....not our own!

I thought the republitards were going to save this one for a while... pull it back out in 2008

[EFerrari]

5. It's a big sweep. Because anyone who goes through that

has moments of grief.

Aka, gross manipulation.


I saw one of these creeps on CSPAN, and she was very effective. Claimed abortion screwed up your body, your mind and your heart for EVER.

Lied about the stats on what keeps abortion rates down. Just ugly as possible.

on edit: add in bloom

[Patriot Acts]

7. Thats ok....

....wire hangers will work all the same.

[jmowreader]

49. Wire hangers are so 1950s!

First, where can you even get a wire coathanger anymore except a dry cleaner?

And second, now we have Menstrual Extraction. Much safer.

[melv]

58. but the wire hangers will come back and Menstrual Extraction will

go byebye if we let these people have their way.

[gumby]

12. Oh LOOK......

Women are soooooooooo stuuuuppppiiiiiddddd.

They just don't know what they want.

One day it's a manicure, the next day it's an abortion.

Get down with my publicity already. Get down... Get down...

Did the Walrus say that?

[Patriot Acts]

13. after reading this....

.....it's clear to me, prostitiution should be legal!

[no_hypocrisy]

19. And government-subsidized as well, including free health screens for

employees, Social Security, and protection of employees' rights.

[Festivito]

14. The tactic is to educate that abortions can leave regrets.

It doesn't seem hard to understand.

Our government protects us from bad meds, bad beef, bad drugs, yet it failed to protect their minds from regret.

Of course they would not add to their sign: So I'd like your abortion to be botched, or that I'd rather my abortion had been botched. Some may feel they would have chosen not to have one if it had been illegal, and they have a point.

However, I think for some, government saying abortions are illegal means they can blame government for not having stopped them rather than blaming themselves.

[Maine-ah]

15. at this stage in my life

I regret mine as well, but I will not take the choice away from other women.

[derbstyron]

16. My Ex Mari regrets hers as well

We've talked about it.

And she wouldn't do it again.

But she is still stridently pro-choice
and would not take the option away from another woman.

[no_hypocrisy]

17. You regret losing your viriginity as a corollary, I suppose . . . .

[southernleftylady]

18. most people REGRET theirs but wouldnt take the CHOICE away from others

period

[The Flaming Red Head]

20. Sometimes they cross over the line have one done

and then are back picketing the clinic the next day. I know someone who was writing a book and told me a few stories about that happening.

[Inland]

21. "I regret having to put you in prison for your abortion. Okay, I don't"

Can I redeem myself from my regrets by putting you in jail for the same acts? Gee, Thanks!

[d_b]

22. Is that a Mcdonald's bag?

[Inland]

74. I think Starbucks.

[WLKjr]

23. I don't get that website name

silentnomoreawareness DOT org


no more awarness? silent? WTF does that mean?

[MuseRider]

24. Uhhhh

Who doesn't? I have never known anyone who doesn't regret it on some level.

[The Flaming Red Head]

42. you just met someone

no regrets.

[melv]

57. you just met another one

no regrets, either. Boy, you are popular!

[Pastiche423]

67. And another

No regrets, only relief.

[bicentennial_baby]

77. Not I !

I don't regret it one bit, one iota...It was and still is one of the best decisions I've ever made.

[slor]

26. I regret their birth. n/t

[SammyWinstonJack]

45. I regret their support of a mass murderer in the WH n/t

[AzDar]

27. When I first saw this desperate crap, my first thought was to counter with

" I had an abortion, and am sooooo GLAD I was able to" ads.
I'd be happy to be featured, myself. Hey, nobody WANTS to have an abortion; it's a terrible thing.... so if you don't want one, don't have one..but don't tell me I can't!


On edit: Here in AZ, they are running a series of tv ads featuring
women who now say they regret their abortion, because they're now infertile, need counseling, etc...the implication being that all their
subsequent difficulties were caused by the procedure. Yeeeesh.

[Bridget Burke]

28. How nice--time for a trip to DC & a parade! (& a bit of shopping?)

No child care worries for them!

If they'd gone through with the births, they well might be regretting THAT choice.

[blondeatlast]

30. Regret not selling their pretty white fetuses to a desperate couple,

that's what they regret.

They could have paid off the Bonwit's card with the proceeds.

Edit: Love the shopping bag; it says a mouthful, don'cha think?

[CTyankee]

31. The point is and always has been

that women are moral agents and can make up their minds about abortion. Forcing women into not having that moral choice is immoral in itself. Most women I know who have made the choice to terminate know the deep ramifications of that choice and they know they did the right thing. Making abortion illegal does nothing but kill women.

[Gman]

33. Very guilt ridden

and this is their way of trying to fix that. These women should be pittied because they are really full of remorse.

Regardless of choice, what woman does not regret her abortion? It's what I tell people who disagree on choice. That is that no one on the choice side is happy about abortion. No one likes abortion. And I think most choice people privately think abortion is wrong. The issue is one of choice and not making the procedure prohibited from those that want it.

[Tansy_Gold]

50. Sad and unfortunate, but not "wrong"

Gman wrote: And I think most choice people privately think abortion is wrong.

I have to strenuously disagree with your wording: Most choice people don't think abortion is wrong at all. They think it is the serious but right option for those who are faced with the tragedy of an unwanted pregnancy. And the reasons for "unwanting" are many and personal and often they are the cause for the "regret" and the "grief," but not the abortion.

I doubt any of those women, or the other thousands who routinely march against other women's right to terminate a pregnancy, was ever forced to abort. She chose to, and for her at the time it was the right decision.

We all regret decisions we make -- I regret quitting college the first time, I regret not suing an employer who discriminated against me, I regret not buying that 57 Corvette when I had the chance. My sister regrets she married her worthless first husband; my brother regrets he married his worthless first wife. And we all look back with 20/20 hindsight.

There is nothing "wrong" with abortion. It happens often enough in nature and usually for a "good" reason, and I don't think the choices women make to terminate an unwanted pregnancy are ever "wrong."


Tansy Gold, out of the silence

[chicagomom]

34. And I regret

that you voted for Bush. Cause he's killed a whole lot more babies than you have.

[AngryOldDem]

35. Some do regret having the procedure done

Can't you respect that? And them?

[Bridget Burke]

36. Yes, but they've transformed their regret into hate.

Perhaps they decided to abort for the wrong reasons. But it was their choice. By marching with the anti-abortion forces, they've thrown in their lot with those who want to do away with choice.

I've never been in that situation, but I've had friends who ended pregnancies. They did not make their decisions lightly, but made the best choice they saw at the time.

If these ladies had decided to go ahead with their pregnancies, they might have regretted that decision, as well.

[MemphisTiger]

43. Is it the pregnancy that worries to-be mothers, or is it

being a parent? If it's being a parent, why not opt for adoption?

[Bridget Burke]

46. It was their decision.

I'm not a judge.

[melv]

59. bingo n/t

[AngryOldDem]

79. Don't know

It's not my place to judge them. On any score.

[Mandate My Ass]

61. Yes. To assume not having a choice or having made a different

one with its own risks and consequences is not only better but is the only acceptable solution is illogical at best.

[JI7]

44. not when they are trying to take away the choice from us which they

themselves were able to have.

[mondo joe]

48. I respect their regret - but not forcing it on others

Hey I regret having a third helping of dinner last night but that doesn't mean I get to set others' diets for them.

[CornField]

51. Yes -- that's exactly the point

I regret ever starting my smoking habit. Should I petition the government to make smoking illegal? Should the government act on it based only on my regrets?

I find the republican anti-choice stance to be very interesting. After all, this is the party that is supposedly for smaller government (i.e., less government intervention in the lives of citizens). It is also the party of you broke it, you fix it. Would they have sympathy for an elderly person who lost their retirement funds in the stock market (because of privitization of SS)? No, of course not.

Those who have no insurance should have known better.

Those who didn't put back for retirement should have known better.

Those who didn't opt for abortion and now need help raising a child should have known better.

But... for some reason... the party looks at these women with their regrets and feels the government should jump in and do the 'fixing'? What walking contradictions republicans have become.

[July]

60. Sure, people change their minds.

But I doubt that they regret that, when they made the choice for an abortion, they were able to get LEGAL, SAFE abortions instead of back-room, illegal ones.

I can respect that they have regrets. That they want to eliminate an option for women that they took advantage of when in a different state of mind, no, I don't respect that.

[LynneSin]

37. I'd almost guarentee these girls have never had an abortion

It's pretty easy to hand out signs and ask folks to carry them.

[Bluebear]

63. Goooooood call. "Parlockettes" n/t

[elehhhhna]

38. I doubt these women have HAD abortions. Reeps lie.

[lapislzi]

39. I do not regret my abortion

Not for one single second. It was the right thing for me to do at the time, and I would do it again. My life would be very different--and not in a good way--had I been unable to avail myself of that option. I feel fortunate that I don't feel the need to justify this choice to anyone. It was between me, my doctor, and my then-boyfriend (he had a say, but I had the veto). For context, this was 20 years ago.

I AM sorry that I became pregnant, but that is a very different matter.

Unrepentant to the end, that's me.

[Qanisqineq]

75. I don't regret mine either

I've had two. I was young and naive and living with an abusive man. I would regret bringing those children into the world and letting him abuse them also.

[ICantBelieve]

40. These people should be on our side...

We should be recruiting these people on the side of choice. Abortion should be safe, legal, and rare. Who the hell wouldn't "regret an abortion"? Jesus, it should be the toughest decision in a woman's life!

The very fact that these people are consider themselves "pro-lifers" means that we're letting the right wing frame our position.

[gollygee]

41. Some women regret having abortions, some women don't

Some women regret giving up their babies for adoption, some women don't.

Some women regret keeping their babies, some women don't.

The key is to make sure all options are available and safe so women can freely choose the option that is right for them specifically. Maybe those women were compelled in some way to have abortions and maybe it was the wrong choice for them. Parents have been known to make their daughters have abortions. If that's the case, it is an illustration of how important reproductive freedom is; it is not an illustration of why reproductive freedom should be taken away.

[tuvor]

47. Let me play devil's advocate.

As a man , you have no right to weigh in on how they feel. Walk a mile in someones shoes before you criticize.

Is that unreasonable?

ON EDIT: I suppose I should include all you ladies who haven't had abortions in this group.

[Bluebear]

65. As a man I believe I have a right to say ---it is a woman's **choice**

'Walk a mile in someones shoes before you criticize.'

Actually I am. You are right, abortion will never affect my life. But being an empathetic person, I stand on the side of women who should have the right to choose.

[mopinko]

52. hey, i have 5 kids

ask me about my regrets.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

53. These same RWers who prop up these 'ex murderers' are just as forgiving

of those in prison for having committed murder on adults too, aren't they? As long as they say they've found Jesus?

What's that you say? The Death Penalty? What's so "pro-life" about that?

[jdj]

54. I regret dropping out of college. It was perfectly legal then.

Of course, now that I regret it, it should be banned so no one else can make that mistake.

[lildreamer316]

55. I regret ...

..being stupid enough to not use protection and therefore putting myself in a situation where I had to have an abortion. We should make birth control mandatory for certian situations if ya wanna pass a law (please realize that is sarcastic...). Ah, the foibles of youth..

[oldlady]

56. I think the counter demonstration should be

pictures of women -- dead and bloody -- reading: she regrets her ILLEGAL abortion...more than you regret your legal one.

peace

[Mad_Dem_X]

80. I agree

I saw a photo once of a woman lying on a bathroom floor, dead from an illegal abortion. It chilled me and sickened me. As gross as it may seem, our side should have pics like that blown up and shove them in anti-choice people's faces. Maybe, just maybe, it would cause some of them to pause and THINK.

[Blue_Tires]

62. i posted something similar in the choice forum

"The only moral abortion is my abortion"


http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=217x1052

[ScreamingMeemie]

64. ...until next year when I find myself unexpectedly, and unwantedly

pregnant again. Sigh...

[Solly Mack]

66. and I regret their mothers' lack of one

Actually, I don't care if they do have regrets.

That's their regrets (and their hypocrisy)...no one else's...it doesn't give them the right to control others because they made a decision they can't live with...

they have convinced themselves they are helping others...they've wrapped their own guilt and shame into a do gooders cloak...as is almost always the case with those who project their own shame and guilt onto others in the name of "saving you from my own mistakes"

they are those "let me save you from yourself" types...surely in the top 5 of mentalities that need to be quashed out of existence ...

there are those who do good..and then there are "do gooders"...and the 2 have absolutely nothing in common.

Besides, if I needed saving...wouldn't I ask Jesus and not them?

[UdoKier]

68. I would tell them...

"Having an abortion is a big decision. You should have thought it through carefully before deciding. But then, you bible thumpers aren't big on thinking or introspection, are you?


Anyway, millions of women have done it, and DO NOT regret it because it was the right thing to do at that time in their lives. Millions of others have put kids up for adoption, and that's great too. Isn't it great to live in a free country? I intend to keep it that way."

[theboss]

69. The one on the right is cute...

Just sayin'.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

70. Fucking hypocrites

[geniph]

71. I regret that I bought a Chevy Cavalier in 2000

boy, was that car ever a piece of shit! Buying them should be made illegal so that no one else ever has to go through the heartache I went through.

Why, yes, I am a trifle snarky today, why do you ask?

Look, every single solitary woman that has an unwanted pregnancy has a completely unique set of circumstances. For some, choosing abortion is a heartrending choice. For others, it's just what you do if contraception fails (and it does fail). They have every right to regret their abortions, and to talk about their regrets - but let's not pretend that every single solitary woman regrets hers. For many, the overwhelming emotional response is relief. No one else can ever make that decision for another woman, and trying to force a woman to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term is just as immoral as forcing a woman to have an abortion of a wanted pregnancy. I think we can all agree the latter is a horrific idea - why is the former not equally as repellent?

How many of these women would have chosen abortion even if it were not legal or safe? I'd venture to guess a majority would - and then we'd have hospital wards full of women with septicemia or morgues full of exsanguinated women again. That is not an outcome anyone should desire. Making abortion illegal does not stop the termination of unwanted pregnancies - it just makes it dangerous.

[Withywindle]

72. Here's a great web site showing the other side

http://www.imnotsorry.net/


Positive abortion stories. Yes, Virginia, there is such a thing. No apologies.


Some women have regrets and some don't. I would try to never say anyone's feelings about their experiences are valid or invalid. That's what some people are doing here inadvertently or not, when they say "Of course all women regret their abortions." Well no, that's just not true.

[spanone]

73. At least you twits had the choice. Who the fuck are you to take it away?

edit: you should adopt a child if you are in such pain.

[ck4829]

76. They all have the same sign. That's a clear indicator that...

they want to take the individualism away from every woman.

[leftofthedial]

78. as of November, I regretted 56 million nonabortions

[Sugar Smack]

81. I had three female friends

who voted for Bush. ALL THREE had had abortions. All three seemed well-spoken enough, observant, intelligent. I do not get it. WHY? WHY??????? It makes me feel like I'm crazy. Two voted Bush because their parents did, and one, whom I'll call "STUPID" for privacy's sake, voted Bush because "Kerry's just a snob". I don't understand. How can these people I USED to know not know what's going on???

[Telly Savalas]

82. I regret some of the things I've written here.

Please, somebody, take away my freedom of speech so I don't say something else I'll regret!!!!!!!!!