OKAY, IT IS Mother's DAY! Shall we be happy or sad. I'm going with

[anarchy1999]

the happy side!

OKAY, It is OFFICIAL! HAPPY MOM's Day to all the great Moms' here (happy part)

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It's Mother's day, and I miss my mom real bad (died 12/31/04) (Sad part)

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=104x3617350

Now enough is just plain damned enough.

No more pain today, okay? We appreciate it, we mourn for you all but can we please find a way to find some good, some happy and remember all our Mom's might have meant to us, may they be living or otherwise. Sorry for the harshness of my tone, I'd just like for everyone to make someone feel good today.

[Spinzonner]

1. Why not just let people feel - and verbalize - what they feel

and just ignore what you don't wish to be involved with or 'subjected to'.

[beam me up scottie]

2. You can make people feel good

by letting them grieve if they need to.

[anarchy1999]

7. Hey Beam Me Up, you can also make people feel good by

directing the energy in feeling bad to feeling good. Care to try?

Grieving is good, but sometimes, just sometimes, there is happiness in getting ahold of ones grief and letting it go.

[beam me up scottie]

8. Sorry, I don't take prozac and I'm not 5 years old anymore.

I prefer to feel all of my emotions.
There is nothing wrong with people grieving or feeling sad. It is healthy and normal.
Trying to stifle your emotions or medicate yourself is unhealthy.
Leave people alone, they don't need the happiness police telling them what to feel.

[anarchy1999]

10. Of for heaven's sake, please stop.

Hope you have a nice day.

You are 100% correct, grieving is good. I simply suggested that today might be a good day to grieve and find solace.

I did not suggest anyone should try and stifle one's emotions, I just suggested it might be "nice" to think about the good. To feel good about the love and the emotions one felt towards their "mom".

Once again, Happy M' Day, Beam Me Up, Scottie, peace be with you and go hug a Mom.

No place, in any thread for Mother's Day did I suggest in any way anyone should take drugs. Just for the record. I just implied it would be "nice" to remember a mother's love.

[beam me up scottie]

13. Most humans are capable of feeling

more than one emotion at a time.
Most of us are also able to find joy in any number of things but your suggestion that I direct "the energy in feeling bad to feeling good" was condescending and inappropriate as was your op which read "Now enough is just plain damned enough. No more pain today, okay?"

I'm sorry that you do not understand the depth of emotion some of us feel on days like this.
That's fine, I'm sure Hallmark has plenty of happy cards for you to choose from.
As for me, I feel no need to advertise either my happiness or my grief. My emotions simply are what they are.
I accept them for what they are and people for who they are.

[Piperay]

3. A person feels what they feel

and they are entitled to their feelings. If you want to keep in a happy frame of mind than just skip threads that bring you down.

It hurts people when they are sad and grieving to have someone tell them not to. Telling them that they shouldn't feel that way and then wanting them to bottle it up is very insensitive to their pain. When people are hurting they need to let it out and it helps to share with others.

[anarchy1999]

4. The general point, however harsh is find some joy. Remember the love.

That was all.

Please do not attack, not today.

I'm just a mom.

[Piperay]

5. Happy Mother's Day

to you! :pals:

[anarchy1999]

6. Thanks, go hug a Mom, and make everyone around DU feel better

today, it's all I ask.

[freeplessinseattle]

9. Now that just seems plain mean.

what's wrong with someone reaching out in an effort to find some happiness, hope, support, what-have-you? There's plenty of other threads with sad subjects, why should we tell people that their pain doesn't matter today because it's a day for other people to be happy, so just shut up and save talking about your grieving for another day, but make sure someone's not having a birthday, or wedding, it might bring them down, or help them appreciate what they have now even more.

[anarchy1999]

11. I'm sorry you are offended.

Go spend the day grieving, okay? Don't ever for the life of you even begin to think about reveling or playing with the joy your Mom may have found in living her life and loving you.

I sure as hell don't want "bring them down, or help them appreciate what they have now even more."

So sorry.

I just wanted today to be pleasant for everyone. I missed.

[atommom]

15. But grieving a loss and cherishing fond memories aren't mutually

exclusive things at all. And when a loss is fresh, remembering the good times can sometimes make the grief seem even more acute ... because it is then that you appreciate the magnitude of your loss. That's why survivors may look at you funny when you tell them to remember the good times ... because they probably are remembering the good times, and that's a precious and bittersweet experience.

I don't mean to attack you at all. It's just that I'm far too familiar with this terrain, roadblocks and all. ;)

[HeeBGBz]

12. My Mom's gone and I have to work

It's just another corporate induced guilt riddled spending day.

My Mother's Day will be celebrated if my kids decide to call me later.

It's a mixed emotion day. Woo Hoo.

[atommom]

14. 12/31/04 may sound as if it's a long time ago, but it really isn't.

Having lost both of my parents, I've experienced those resurgences of grief, especially on "special days." Coming to grips with the death of a parent is not instantaneous, and it doesn't happen all at once. And strangely, being told to lighten up doesn't make it happen any faster. People who are uncomfortable with that just have to look the other way sometimes. :shrug:

Happy Mother's Day, all. :party: