This is a sad story..and a very bizarre, cold deciding factor ("procedure dictates...").
Think of how many young men and women are needing to remember (before they are sent off to fight chimp's war) to tell their parents/put in writing WHERE they would want to be buried.
http://customwire.ap.org/dynamic/stories/F/FALLEN_SON_CUSTODY?SITE=TXSAE&SECTION=US&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT&CTIME=2005-06-20-15-29-15The divorced parents of a Marine killed in the U.S. military's deadliest air crash of the Iraq war are fighting in court over where to bury their son. The Detroit-area judge who will decide the case scheduled a July 15 hearing on Monday and said she does not want it to turn into a "three-ring circus."
The parents are arguing over the choice of cemeteries - a new national cemetery that has yet to open or a paternal family plot.
"We should be talking about the wonderful things he did for his country, his family and friends instead of ... where we're going to bury him," Judge Diane Druzinski said.
Manfred Klein said his son never specifically talked about what should happen if he died. In military paperwork that Allan Klein filled out, he listed his mother as an emergency contact.
But officials said procedure dictates that the remains belong to the older of the surviving parents. Klein's father is 65, his mother 58.