Gals and guys, you just have to read this nonsense at the All Pro Dad site. Remember the Promise Keepers? Exactly the same type of nonsense - apparently now Jeb Bush's forte. (BTW - the rumours I hear in Florida as to why Jeb won't run for Prez is because his wife wife will not allow it! Hmmm.) . And a direct link to the Florida Dept. of Education? GRRR. Stereo typical attitude toward women, about 200 years ago!
http://www.allprodad.com/savingyourmarriage.aspAllow me to parse some comments, I was truly breathless (and not in a good way) today when I read this:
From the Save Your Marriage link - directed toward men from an Education Site???
-You haven't had sex, at least the way it's supposed to be, in ages.
-You find yourself wishing you were with other women.
-Divorce lawyers plaster their billboards all over the highway. Many television shows trivialize marriage and commitment. Friends are nudging you to put away *the hag* and get on with your life.
-Don’t expect her to necessarily start apologizing for her mistakes right away. Tell her you're committed to her and will do whatever is necessary to get things right. Tell her you love her. This can be very hard if you don't feel like loving her at all.
- You may think somehow that compassion gene skipped your wife, but *most of them have it in there somewhere*. It's just been buried under a mountain of resentment.
-Women are wired to be romantic. Men are wired to be sexual.
- Tell her she's beautiful. Talk about some fun things you can do together. Tell her she's beautiful. Share some good memories. Tell her she's beautiful. Get the point? You don't have to pretend problems aren't there in the marriage. You just have to put yourself in the right position to address those problems.
- *Don’t hammer her and tell her she's dumb about money and stinks at driving*.
-After you've admitted your shortcomings, been romantic, and tackled problems, it's time to spend more time together. And it *won't be so hard* because you will actually enjoy it now.
Criminey, could these christians be any more condescending toward women? We just just need to be coddled, don't cha know, since we spend too much money and don't drive well, but oh yeah, we're compassionate, somewhere deep down inside of us.