Bracelets tied to sex for children?

[Must_B_Free]

I was listening to some conversation in the airport. These women were saying that kids were having oral sex as a rite of passage in junior high. They said kids were starting at 12 years old. I also thought I heard that they said they have bracelets that represent which sex tacts they have acheived.

Gee, when I was a kid we had beads on leather string for our accomplishments. We were called Weblos, but it has nothing to do with sex.

[Taxloss]

1. It's an urban legend.

http://www.cnn.com/2003/EDUCATION/12/10/sex.bracelet.ap/

Just moral panic.

[lvx35]

4. The irony

The media freaks out, and the kids hear about it from the media:

"Mears is concerned that younger children might hear the sex bracelets lingo and "think it's cool." But regardless of the age, she and other experts say parents shouldn't freak out."

Making whatever questionable sexual aspect the bracelets have in childrens mind a complete creation of the media, making them cool and grown up to young kids. Lovely.

[lvx35]

2. A rite of passage?

Geeze. I was reading somebody...Johb Bly? Richard Campbell? Anyway, his whole critique of our society was that we lack true rites of passage which are a really important part in human development present in societies all over the world. I was skeptical, but hearing this, they may be right!!!!

[Debbi801]

3. Sad but true...

This ties back to the whole "Rainbow Party" thing.

There are two versions to what a rainbow party is, neither is pretty.

One relates to the bracelets--apparently the color bracelets the teen wears relates to what sexual practices the teen is willing to participate in.

One relates to multiple lipstick colors worn by the various teen girls at the parties.

i find this so sad. That 12 yr olds think oral sex is a perfectly acceptable thing to do at parties, because after all they're not really having sex infuriates me. i have a 12 yr old and the concept is very scary. I think the abstinance pushers are responsible for this in a lot of ways.

[coloradodem2005]

5. How? Not that I disagree with you.

[lvx35]

8. I agree too.

the "speak no sex" approach of the abstinence crowd ignores the fact that kids will figure this stuff out on their own, from the Internet, etc. Its important to be frank with kids about sex using the ABC approach. (Abstinence, Be faithful, Condom in order of desirability.)

[FreedomAngel82]

15. Yes

I'm for sexual education. I think in high and junior high school's there should be an optional class at least so people can see if they like having it around.
If people think kids aren't going to have sex they're really fooling themselves. When I first heard that pre-teens were having sex at parties and didn't consider oral sex to be sex I flipped out. I mean, duh, it has the word "sex" in it!

[Ian David]

7. That's gross. They should all just pass around the orb

[Eric J in MN]

9. Amanda of Pandagon says that Rainbow Parties are an ubran legend.

http://www.pandagon.net/archives/2005/06/by_the_way_no_o.html

[Debbi801]

14. I've read about this from too many sources...

Parenting magazines, People magazine (I know, not a paragon of reality, but still), from women I work wtih who have teen aged daughters who have discussed this happening with them. From my 12 yr old who has heard about them from school. There is also this book that has been covered on the news here recently: http://www.thewbalchannel.com/news/4724927/detail.html?subid=10100681

[Eric J in MN]

18. Did any of these people actually get invited to a Rainbow Party?

nt

[kittykitty]

6. Yep, Must_Be_Free, tis true. See the message. I'm glad you were a Weblo

http://www.gaycityusa.com/JellyBracelets.htm

Jelly bracelets are thin rubbery bands which can be worn — singly or interconnected — on the wrists, ankles, or around the neck. They are available in an array of colors, and about $3 buys a pack of fifteen, making them one of the more reasonably-priced fad items to come along lately. .......

These bendable pieces of colored rubber have become a sexual code to many teens, young adults and trendy people.

Sex Bracelet Color Codes
Yellow: hugging
Purple: anal sex
Red: sex, coital or oral, lap dance, (alternate meaning: with no condom)
Blue: blow job
Black: sexual intercourse, coital or oral, (alternate meaning: with condom)
Orange: kissing, necking, bare breasts
Green: cunnilingus or outdoor sex
Clear: whatever you want
White: flashing or gay kiss or french kiss
Glow in the Dark: with sex toys
Red & Black: 69
Pink: licking butt or analingus
Silver: fisting
Gold Glitter: make out
brown: toss my salad ie analingus

Jelly bracelet fashion accessories have been around since the 80's. But instead of a fashion statement, they may be making a statement about your kid's sex life.

Children in school are using them in a somewhat more subdued code:

Black: sex, coital or oral
Orange: kissing
Yellow: hug
Blue: oral sex, or lap dance
Red: Body contact, lap dance, french kissing
White: Friendship
Green: give a flower, or touch me or hug
Pink: flash your stuff
Purple: holding hands
Gold Glitter: make out

[kittykitty]

10. On the other hand, who can remember what all those colors stand for?

[FreedomAngel82]

16. Weird

And here when I was a little kid I loved jelly bracellete's. :shrug:

[Bluebear]

11. PHOTO: Hmm. Look at this trollop!

[TahitiNut]

12. These are among the most prevalent "Conspiracy Theories" ...

... and the most ridiculous. Yeah, Mr. Fundy, the teenagers across the country are magically organized better than al Qaeda, able to coordinate their rituals and codes in ways totally hidden from their parents and guardians, despite being under continuing direct supervision by their "enemy" (parents).
:sarcasm:

GeezuzFreakingKeerist! If these "conspiracies" are such a threat to the incompetent nincompoops burdened with raising and educating kids, then what hope does anyone have of ferreting out the terrorists?


As far as I can see, these freak-outs are the product of the residually paranoid delusions of adults who never got over having nightmares because "someone's talking about me" or because they never got adequately socialized as teenagers themselves. Get fucking over it!

[Island Blue]

13. I don't know about the bracelets,

but middle school (jr. high) kids having oral sex IN SCHOOL is a pretty big problem in my school district.

[Nikia]

17. One of the big problems I see with this

Aside from any current or future emotional issues is that these children don't seem to realize that they are at risk of getting STDs from this practice. They really believe that it is a no risk activity and do it without considering that doing it without a condomn promiscusly puts them at risk of contracting diseases and spreading them to others.

[PowerToThePeople]

19. When I was 12, some kids had sex. Nothing new here. n/t