My freeper husband just slammed me because

[GreenPartyVoter]

I slammed Bush for cutting the funding for the levees and that I am always looking to blame him for everything that goes wrong.

Said I always go after people in authority and cut them all down and that they do a better job than I could in their position.

*steam releasing from my ears*

[LordBinkyTheBuffoon]

1. You could do better then them

Hell, I could, and I'm none too bright.

[GreenPartyVoter]

78. I think most of us could.. and welcome to DU

[LordBinkyTheBuffoon]

82. Thank you kind lady!

[GreenPartyVoter]

83. :^) You bet. I am thrilled to see so many folks are finding their

way here. It is an oasis in the insanity.

[Rhiannon12866]

93. I agree with you, too! She could definitely do better!

So could most of us here because we'd be doing SOMETHING! Not just looking for photo-ops with aircraft carriers! This is a national emergency, for God's sake, and Bush* only took time out from his vacation to make a speech about WWII! Too little, too late, Mr. Bush*! The situation in NO has gotten out of control while you did nothing!:grr:

Welcome to DU, LordBinkyTheBuffoon! It's great to have you with us! And you sound plenty bright to me, LOL!:hi:

[Booster]

2. If your freeper husband is as insensitive as he sounds, I'm afraid

I would have to leave him. Sorry, but life is too damn short to live with such people.

[iconoclastic cat]

3. Dude, you married a freeper?

[GreenPartyVoter]

7. I did... and now the jerk is strutting around in his Secret Service cap

[Ravenseye]

16. Is he part of the secret service?

If not call him a poser and make fun of him. :) Does he like wearing costumes? Maybe if he wore a pirate hat he'd feel more manly. ARRRRR PIRATES ARE COOL SWABBY!

[GreenPartyVoter]

27. Freeper BIL and FIL brought it back from their DC trip for him

[Ravenseye]

28. So...

He's wearing a secret service cap...was never part of the secret service...and didn't even go there on a tour?

Sorry...What a tool.

[GreenPartyVoter]

34. He was just wearing it to tick me off. Gave it to the 5 yr old after that

[mattclearing]

54. You so totally almost made me crack up at my desk.

Must...not...laugh...*bites lip*

[Ravenseye]

102. AVAST YE MATEY!

Quit yer lip quiverin' and bring me some more rum! ARRRRR!!!

[kerry-is-my-prez]

69. Tell him if he's such a tough guy he should be there helping out....

I'd tell him he's a big wimp and chciekn to go there...

[elehhhhna]

19. toots, you have a serious problem.

My hubs can be a real asshat but if he were a freeper, boy howdy, i'd get him to a neurologist quick..

[GreenPartyVoter]

31. I am going back to not talking with him about politics or religion. It

sucks not being able to talk with him about the deeper issues in life... makes for a very superficial relationship.. but that's the way it is. I like him just fine when I can forget he's a freeper. *lol*

[elehhhhna]

49. okay. if it works, it works! Best to you both.

[GreenPartyVoter]

63. Thanks :^)

[oregonjen]

4. Quiety Google the LA newspaper reports regarding the lack of funding

Print it out and then give him something to read.

[GreenPartyVoter]

15. He doesn't care. He says that it was a toss of the coin and that

even if they had rebuilt the levess if they had come down I would have blamed bush for wasting all that money.

(Hubby is REAL good at putting words in my mouth)

[Eloriel]

5. Tell him you're a liberal, it's your JOB to quesetion authority

:evilgrin:

[KyndCulture]

6. well maybe JUST maybe everything REALLY IS his fault!

sorry to hear bout your hubby!

[autorank]

8. Read - implement "Lysistrada" - that will cool his jets!

[Jacobin]

17. LOL

That would probably do it!!!!

[skypilot]

33. Read - implement "Do It Yourself Divorce Kit"

*

[proud patriot]

9. What a horrible thing to say to you

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

18. Thanks *hugs back* He is usually an ok guy, but sometimes...

[proud patriot]

36. My husband is sometimes a jerk too

hopefully he'll apologize to you later :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

39. Well, no. He is like **. Never says sorry. The best I get is an aw-shucks

attitude and an olive branch like, "let's hang out and play a game".

But at least I get that much. Some guys wouldn't even do that.

[proud patriot]

58. Well friend

I think you deserve an apology even if it comes
tomorrow .

Do you apologize if you are a jerk to him at times?

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

75. Yes, and if I was a jerk in front of the kids then I apologize where they

can hear me. Modelling, dontchaknow. And it works, too, because the kids know how to apologize.. at least some of the time.

[elehhhhna]

10. That's insulting.

Flood his bathroom.
Empty the fridge.
Turn off the A/C.

Tell hi mto walk to safety asap.

[GreenPartyVoter]

21. Last year he told me that if I ever ran for office.. even school board..

he would not vote for me.

[elehhhhna]

29. He sounds sorta mean.

[GreenPartyVoter]

37. He can be. But so can I.. I am the queen of the sarcastic cut-down

[elehhhhna]

53. sounds familiar lol.

[Missy Vixen]

38. Here's the golden bullet

If he EVER says anything like the above to you again, calmly restate what you heard, then say: "I don't like what you said. Was it meant to hurt?"

If he does not respond, or responds with more of the same: "I don't like what you said. Was it meant to hurt?"

If it keeps up, I would seriously consider whether or not remaining in the marriage was a good idea.

Julie

[GreenPartyVoter]

42. Yeah, but that assumes I can keep my feelings in check long enough

not to escalate the mess. But I will give it a try. :^)

[FreedomAngel82]

43. Or even better

No sex.

[Carolab]

11. Read him the article from the home page that gives the facts.

It's CLEAR that the money was cut to prevent this, after months/years of entreaties to fix the levees.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=104x4552583

[Ravenseye]

12. I'd be honest

I'd tell him that people have known this could be a problem for years and both Democrats and Republicans are at fault for it. Right now though it was Bush who slashed the budget for the New Orleans engineers by 44%. It was Bush who sent our National Guard over to Iraq so that the Louisiana Guard and their high water vehicles weren't in place to help. It was Bush who did nothing for the 2 days that it appeared the worst would happen, and then did nothing for 2 days after it while people were dying. There are many people to blame, but just ask him what he'd be saying if this had happened on Clinton's watch and he had just cut the funding of the New Orleans Engineers by 44% prior to the hurricane.

[FreedomAngel82]

48. And while you tell him that

Show him the photo of Bush eating cake with McCain and strumming a guitar and then show people dying while he's doing that. Ask him how presidential that is. And Bush had the nerve the other day to compare himself to FDR! Bastard.

[ismnotwasm]

13. Sounds like you have facts

And he has rhetoric.

[julialnyc]

my husband is a democrat and he yelled at me yesterday

saying I wanted to make this political when I talked about the levees.

I feel your frustration!

[GreenPartyVoter]

22. *hugs for my sister* Crazy-making, ain't it?

[Ravenseye]

26. It is political

Molly Ivins said it best. This is a perfect example of how voting affects peoples lives. Yes the hurricane would have happened no matter what happened or who was in power. The point is that policies helped create this disaster. Policies keeping money from the people who were trying to protect New Orleans. Policies to not effectively evacuate the city.

Policies put in place by politicians...that were voted for.

A disaster isn't political. If the ramifcations of the disaster kill people because of bad public policy...that IS political. It MATTERS who you vote for. For some people in New Orleans it was a matter of life and death.

Death won.

[julialnyc]

14. my husband is a democrat and he yelled at me yesterday

saying I wanted to make this political when I talked about the levees.

I feel your frustration!

[Don Claybrook]

20. I wish you well, but I can't offer any advice you'd want to hear

It feels like the battle lines are being drawn more than ever. I have relatives who avoid me now, and that's just going to have to be ok. There came a time to choose one path or another, and my path is diametrically opposed to theirs, and they, in my judgement, are a part of the problem.

But good luck to you and remember there's a new perspective on a different day.

[GreenPartyVoter]

25. Usually there is a moratorium on talking politics and religion in our h

home, and I broke it my complaining about ** dragging his feet and the levees. I think his comments were to punish me for that.

[mondo joe]

I don't know how we could NOT talk politics or religion in my house.

I seriously don't mean this in a snide way or anything, but do you feel your values are in synch with your husband's???

[GreenPartyVoter]

52. Values in that people should be allowed to live their lives in peace, but

in terms of gay marriage, choice, funding welfare, cradle-to-grave public education and healthcare etc... we aren't even close to being on the same page.

Ditto for religion. He's a conservative fundagelical (but at least not a Bible thumper.) I am a theological liberal..

So what we have in common is:

we love our kids,
we enjoy some of the same past times
Did I mention we love our kids?

[earth mom]

23. Sorry you have to live that way. nt

[Done]

24. My dog could do a better job as president

...and I don't even have a dog.

[Sewsojm]

46. File for Divorce,

sorry but he's Freeper and thus totally Worthless!

[GretchenRed]

30. You married freeper?

Boy, I bet that is an interesting marriage. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

55. *lol* most days you would never know it. Most days we don't

talk religion and politics and just look like two people raising their kids. :^)

[Redstone]

32. Need the name of a good divorce lawyer?

Redstone

[GretchenRed]

44. ooo

sharp as a wasp sting.

[GreenPartyVoter]

60. Well, I will remember that if it ever comes to it. But I hope it doesn't..

Weirdly enough, we really do love each other in a Carville/Matalin kinda way.

[SammyWinstonJack]

35. I'm sorry GPV

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

40. Oh, my, GPV...

Are you my sister in Huntington Beach? Similar marriage.

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

65. Oh, I am sure there are a lot of us. Remember the hideous "We're not sorry

website about re-election **? The owner of that site's wife is a dem. And she IS sorry.

Love makes us do weird things sometimes. *g*

[faithnotgreed]

87. very true gpv - thoughts are with you and your family

and all those in like situations

communication and respect are key
if you can see that through and be that example whenever you can it can make a real difference

im not saying you dont do that but just a thought in all this that i know has made a positive impact in whatever relationships i have (family and love etc)
it takes time - oh does it take time and patience - but it really matters

best and warmest wishes friend
youre right - love can make us do "weird" things

[bertha katzenengel]

95. Maybe my sister's a little different: she was a fundy when she married

him. Now she's an atheist. :shrug:

:hi:

[FreedomAngel82]

41. Ask your husband if he would blame Clinton

They blame him for everything already.

[GretchenRed]

50. That's the truth

freepers only don't blame Clinton, maybe once in a blue moon.

[FreedomAngel82]

59. So true

It's like Clinton is superman.

[GretchenRed]

64. Superman? LOL

now that's a kinda funny way to look at it. :)

[bluetuesday]

45. make a call

make a call to James Carville.I'm sure he has a few answers!

[RobertSeattle]

47. We wouldn't have to BLAME Bush if he would take RESPONSIBILITY

for something!

[FreedomAngel82]

51. There is a video at Crooksandliars.com

that shows a survivor calling for Bush's impeachment. Show him that.

[GretchenRed]

56. Is there really?

Hard to believe they are already thinking like that, when the poor souls just went thru hell.

[KitchenWitch]

57. I am so sorry

I have been ranting for days about the National Guard being mostly in Iraq...My husband, although not a freeper, seems to be an apologist for the current military policy (he was a military brat growing up). It is fucking frustrating.

[GreenPartyVoter]

67. Oh yes, I brought that up too. Heck, when he started in with

"You only want to cut him down" I came back with "Well, tell me what he is doing RIGHT?!"

He didn't say a thing.

[KitchenWitch]

72. Well at least you got him to be silent for awhile.

[GreenPartyVoter]

76. It won't last long. He is doing the bills and since this was a very bad

week for us financially and gas prices are going up, he is going to be grumpy because he is worried. Turns into a real bear when he gets panicky over not being able to buy groceries and gas

[KitchenWitch]

89. Ouch - nothing like a grumpy freeper

You have my empathy.

[GreenPartyVoter]

96. Suprisingly, I went to see how the bills were coming. He held my hand and

said we should make it through the weekend.

[Bouncy Ball]

61. And yet he'd probably not waste one second blaming Clinton

if he were still in office, even if Clinton and his Congress had fully funded the Corps of Engineers and FEMA (which they did).

I don't know how you do it, my husband's a liberal, I'd freak if he were a bushie.

[Arkana]

62. You married a freeper?

[GretchenRed]

68. ok

At least I am not the only one shocked by that. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

70. Love is blind.. and to be honest, I didn't get political until the last

few years. I was very late to the parade. :^(

[GretchenRed]

74. hey

Live and learn. I married a real dandi, myself. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

77. :^)

[GretchenRed]

71. All jokes aside

my husband can be a heartless bastard too. He isn't freeper, but, still we can't all agree on everything.

[GretchenRed]

79. In the end....

no telling what draws opposites together. Fate will just hookem up. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

86. I think it was evolution. You know.. biological diversity? *g*

[KitchenWitch]

92. Welcome to DU GretchenRed

[GretchenRed]

106. HI TY

I was busy looking at other things, and totally missed the welcome. I am SO glad to be here. You all seem like a bunch of sweet folks..I hope to stay a long time, if you'll have me. :)

[DanCa]

66. Hugs

I'll trade you a fundie husband for a fundie sister?
Peace i know it's not easy living in a red blue family.

[GreenPartyVoter]

73. It' gets weirder in a red-green family.. cause I am not just a liberal

but a FRINGE *eye roll* one.

*hugs*

[DanCa]

88. green and blue are pretty colors JK

(huggles) hang in there Im giving you lots of positive vibe today.

[GreenPartyVoter]

97. Yes, Green and blue are very pretty together. :^) Thanks for those

vibes, things are doing better here now. So go ahead and turn the vibes back to NOLA. :hugs:

[seabeyond]

80. my freeper husband is using his business adn contacts to gather

contribution. he has gone to his republican friends for them to jump in with him. he is disgusted with bush. tell your husband, my husband is a midland texas nra card carrying republican that sees his party is in disgrace. and we have taken all safety nets away. that we the people must now do the job the govt was menat to do

[GretchenRed]

81. awesome

a Tx lib? They exist??

[GretchenRed]

84. Well baby....

I hope things calm down for you. That's a rough spot to be in. Best of luck. :)

[GreenPartyVoter]

85. It could be worse. And I know no marriage is perfect. If it wasn't

that it would be something else.

I will say this for him:

he's a hard worker and a good provider for the family,
has a great sense of humor,
never goes out with the boys but stays with me instead,
and helps people when he sees them in trouble.

Sadly, that last one only applies to people in front of him.. that's what makes him a freeper.. he can't extrapolate to people who are just numbers.... Cons just do not get it that way.

[Hello_Kitty]

90. I had to check your profile to see if you live in AZ

Because your situation reminds me so much of a woman I met while canvassing for Kerry. She was a Green who was married to a wingnut. We knocked on the door and chatted with her for several minutes about the election. Very nice woman. Then her husband arrived and engaged us in a shouting match over how we should "get behind the President in a time of war". :eyes:

I guess mixed marriages are tough, huh? Hope you are feeling better :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

98. Another Green married to a wingnut? *lol* I was so sure I was the only one

[txindy]

91. Well, there is the long-term solution to your frustration with him

Make certain the kids are liberals and vocal about it with him. Your frustration will sink and his will skyrocket. Evens things out, dontchaknow?! ;)

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

99. Oh, he goes NUTS when I stream Air America around the kids. *g*

[Vinca]

94. A freeper husband???????????

Aaaarrrrgggghhhhhhhh!!!!!! What could be worse? Please tell us he isn't a fundie nutjob.

[GreenPartyVoter]

101. Yes, a pastor's kid to boot. BUT, he's not too bad in that

evangelism comes hard to him, so he keeps his views to himself. And he is cool about playing D&D and listening to secular rock and so forth. I think that if it weren't for the fact that he is a pastor's kid he would be a bit different.

Then again, one of the plusses of him being a PK has been that he would rather stay home with the kids and me than go out on boys' nights. :)

[truebrit71]

100. Why in the world would you marry a freeper??

I mean, just from a sanity perspective....If my wife and I were diametrically opposed I would have left her YEARS ago...

No-one needs that sort of aggro in their personal lives...

[GreenPartyVoter]

103. We were barely 15 when we fell in love and I was trying very hard

to fit into FundyWorld at the time.

But I kept him and ditched the fundy mentality, hence the odd relationship. :)

besides, had we not married, we would not have made these guys: http://www.curvynovels.info/vacation2005/vacation2005.htm

[GretchenRed]

104. Is your husband

one of those "redneck" types that chew Skoal, and watch NASCAR? The old stereotype of southern conservative?

[nini]

105. Aren't the people in AUTHORITY the ones who make these decisions?

JESUS..


tell him I said to go fuck himself. (sorry, I tried not to be mean)