The best news I've had in 41 years--adopted kid is okay!

[Senior citizen]

A daughter given up for adoption 41 years ago, just located and contacted me. I'm still sort of in shock.

My daughter is an attorney in a 10-year lesbian relationship, and has a cockatoo and two chihuahuas.

So how do you talk to an upper-class kid you never knew?

[UrbScotty]

1. Wow! Is she doing all right? (nt)

[4_Legs_Good]

2. OMG! That's fantastic news!

Congrats and good luck.

This should be an exciting adventure for you!

david

[Misunderestimator]

3. How cool!!! And leave the "class" out of it...

just talk. That's very heartwarming. Thanks.

[Senior citizen]

16. Great advice! Thank you.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. glad her life worked out well

[proud patriot]

5. I so happy for you to hear this wonderful news

:D

[molly]

6. WOW!!!

how did she find you? Are you going to meet?

[Senior citizen]

17. I don't know yet . (n/t)

[RhodaGrits]

7. One of my dearest friends was reunited with a daughter given

up for adoption 34 years before. They met, became friends and quickly family. I hope it works out as well for you. Good luck.

[Senior citizen]

18. That's great. Thank you.

[MissMillie]

8. What marvelous news!

She's not a kid anymore, so just talk to her like you would anyone you just met... with respect, interest, and enthusiasm.

[Senior citizen]

19. Sage recommendations--thank you MissMillie.

[MuseRider]

9. That is so great!

She is well and successful and happy. What more could you ask for? I am just smiling at how wonderful you must feel right now. Just talk to her. She really wanted that since she looked for and contacted you so just catch up. How very excited you must be. :hug:

[StaggerLee]

10. Beautiful!

Hopefully you will get to know each other. I can't imagine how surprised you must feel. Good luck and thanks for sharing. This really warms my heart.

[ronnykmarshall]

11. That's wonderful!

How great for the both of you.

[Rainbowreflect]

That is wonderful news!

I gave up a son 24 years ago & hope some day to see him again.
I'm very happy for you both & hope you can forge a wonderful relationship.

[Rainbowreflect]

12. Sorry, Hit the button twice in my excitement.

[sundog]

13. Wow, that's great!

I'm adopted, and I went searching for my parents several years ago...

My father was visiting the US from Poland/Russia area & must be free floating somewhere around Europe or Russia at this point...

The boarding house where my mother was staying unfortunately did not collect enough info for me to be able to find her -- So it kinda sucks not knowing anything other than the few sketchy details of their lives that the agency provided...

You are lucky -- give thanks! I'm sure whatever you say will be good enough :) It would be for me...

[Senior citizen]

21. So sorry, sundog.

I do know I'm lucky. Do you know how many years I've been tearing my hair out every time I read about a kid being abused in foster care?

I'm sure your birth parents were good people -- obviously I don't know who they are either, but I'm just going to judge them by your posts, which is all I have to go by. Makes them look pretty good to me.

:toast:

[Demonaut]

14. being a lawyer does not necessarily make her upper class

what type of law does she practice?, just a thought though, she's lucky she has an open minded father, if you were an active member on free republic I doubt this posting would have occurred

[Bertha Venation]

15. WOW

That is so cool. Congratulations. I bet she was shaking in her boots to tell you she was gay.

[KinkyDem]

20. Congratulations

I have almost 4 years before my kid can even start looking for me.

I wonder how she is sometimes.

Then I just have to keep in mind that there is nothing I can do about any of it except hope she's healthy and happy.

[Kadie]

22. How wonderful for both of you.

Congratulations.

[Senior citizen]

23. Thanks, everyone. Thanks DU.

Even better than having good news, is having good people to share it with.


:bounce: :yourock: :bounce: :toast: :bounce: :grouphug: :bounce:

[GumboYaYa]

24. That's awesome news!

My aunt gave a daughter up for adoption and recently reconnected with her daughter. Our whole family instantly bonded with her.

My wife is also adopted. She has never expressed a desire to find her birth mother. I think she is scared of hurting her adoptive parents.

You are extremely fortunate that your daughter wanted to find you and then was succesful.