"21 Things That I Want In A Lover"

[VolcanoJen]

Can we agree that Alanis Morissette got it right? I'm listening to this song right now, and it's as if she authored my own life-long wish-list. It's like the perfect Progressive Singles Ad, put to song!

What do you lot think?

Most crucial line, in my opinion:
"Not necessarily needs, but qualities that I prefer."

Alanis Morissette "21 Things That I Want In A Lover"

"Do you derive joy when someone else succeeds?
Do you not play dirty when engaged in competition?
Do you have a big intellectual capacity
But know that it alone does not equate wisdom?
Do you see everything as an illusion
But enjoy it even though you are not of it?
Are you both masculine and feminine?
Politically aware?
And don't believe in capital punishment?

These are 21 things that I want in a lover
Not necessarily needs but qualities that I prefer

Do you derive joy from diving in and seeing that
Loving someone can actually feel like freedom?
Are you funny?
a la self-deprecating?
like adventure?
and have many formed opinions?

These are 21 things that I want in a lover
Not necessarily needs but qualities that I prefer
I figure I can describe it since I have a choice in the matter
These are 21 things I choose to choose in a lover

I'm in no hurry I could wait forever
I'm in no rush 'cause I like being solo
There are no worries and certainly no pressure
In the meantime
I'll live like there's no tomorrow

Are you uninhibited in bed?
More than three times a week?
Up for being experimental?
Are you athletic?
Are you thriving in a job that helps your brother?
Are you not addicted?

Are you curious and communicative...

[tcfrogs]

1. Interesting Lyrics

Gotta say - I think I fit most...but that's just me....

[Leprechan29]

2. This may be

turning me into a fan. Thats a wish list I can respect

[VolcanoJen]

3. It's such a rockin' song, too

I've always been an Alanis fan, over-exposure and all. This song rocks harder than most of her stuff. :D

[tcfrogs]

4. Used to refer to her as Ms. Potty Mouth

After Jagged Little Pill - just a silly remark, she's pretty sharp.

[VolcanoJen]

5. I love her potty mouth

But maybe that's just me. }(

[tcfrogs]

6. A fine potty mouth, it is!

[arcos]

7. I saw her live last September...

under a pouring rain, and mud everywhere...

but it was definitely worth it!

(of course, she did "21 Things That I Want in a Lover" :D)

[VolcanoJen]

8. Sounds cool, arcos! What venue, what was the bill?

"21 Questions"

:D

[arcos]

12. Polideportivo Monserrat, in Costa Rica...

Paid $36 and I was in the third row, right in front of her. B-)

[Liberal Classic]

9. Maybe I am neurotic loverboy

I do not count twenty-one items.

[VolcanoJen]

10. And that is what endears me to you.

:-)

[Bonhomme Richard]

11. Hooray......Finally something I qualify for Hah! n/t

[dudeness]

13. why isn;t beer mentioned in this song?

surely an integral part of a loving relationship..

[VolcanoJen]

14. Excellent point!

Not a purely Canadian wish, then... }(

[dudeness]

15. lolol...

once the beer googles go on..all da ladies look soooo bewdafull...

[mede8er]

16. Where.......

Do I send my resume...:)

[SarahB]

17. She's got it very right!

Big intellectual capacity (that does not always equate wisdom *snarf*).
Funny.
Adventurous.
Politically aware.
Uninhibited and experimental.
Athletic.
A job that helps your brother.
NOT ADDICTED.
Curious and COMMUNICATIVE (assuming there actually exists a communicative male somewhere)!!!

WHERE IS THIS MAN????? (And give him my number please).

[Paragon]

18. Here I am.

:hi:

[VolcanoJen]

20. And we're practically neighbors!

:hi:

[Paragon]

23. You and Alanis are just gonna have to fight over me.

Hmmm...

[kodi]

19. 21? there's only 3: 3 feet tall, flat head, no teeth

or so i am told

[LynneSin]

21. At this point 2 things would probably make me happy:

Are you a progressive thinker and will you promise me that you won't make me sleep in the wet spot

:D

[mede8er]

25. How about...........

One out of two.........:)

[supernova]

22. Wow! I was thinking similar

things myself. Good job Alannis! :thumbsup:

If you have these qualities, PM me! :D

[ForrestGump]

24. Let's see...am I Alanis' man?

Do you derive joy when someone else succeeds?

Yes.

Do you not play dirty when engaged in competition?

Yes.

Do you have a big intellectual capacity

Yes.

But know that it alone does not equate wisdom?

Oh, yes!

Do you see everything as an illusion

Sometimes more than others.

But enjoy it even though you are not of it?

Sometimes more than others.

Are you both masculine and feminine?

Maybe, sorta, I guess, or so I've been told once. But maybe not. But, yeah, probably.

Politically aware?

Partially, at least.

And don't believe in capital punishment?

Depends on the context. Yes and no.

Do you derive joy from diving in and seeing that loving someone can actually feel like freedom?

Good question. Don't know, Thus far wouldn't equate that kind of thing with freedom -- usually loss of freedom is more like it.

Are you funny?

You mean funny ha-ha or funny smelling?

a la self-deprecating?

Well, I hate to boast, but...

like adventure?

Oh, yeah.

and have many formed opinions?

Maybe, maybe not...very little in my mind is fixed, and I'm always open to re-evaluating. I reserve the woman's prerogative to change her mind (see male/female thing above).

Are you uninhibited in bed?

Think so. Can't remember.

More than three times a week?

Yes, if I'd had my way...

Up for being experimental?

Depends on how we define the boundaries.

Are you athletic?

I guess, overall, but never naturally a team player.

Are you thriving in a job that helps your brother?

I don't know...my brother's doing okay, and I helped him get into what he's into. :D Oh, that kind of brother...yes, at least when I'm working in my main career track (currently on hiatus to an extent).

Are you not addicted?

Yes, I am not addicted...sounds like bad English.

Are you curious and communicative...

Curious, yes...communicative -- yes and no.

But isn't this Alanis character not particularly interested in males?

[supernova]

26. I bet you only like

her jagged sides. ;-)