What's the one thing about life you regret the most?

[Deja Q]

Me? Standing up and being assertive toward bullies, scumbags, or leeches.

I've already responded to a hateful e-mail on a internet based personals site. Why he felt he had to be derogatory when I did nothing to provoke it is beyond me.

But no more shit. From anybody. I'm sick of people.

[Radical Activist]

1. Not enough sex

I grew up in a morally strict religion and spent my college years not drinking and not having sex. BIG mistake! It did keep me out of having some bad experiences, but at least a moderate level of sex, drugs and rock n roll would have been nice.

My favorite South Park quote is "There's a time and a place for everything...and its called college!"

[theivoryqueen]

2. best advice i ever heard was not to regret anything

I have made tons of huge mistakes that have profoundly affected my life - but I am here, who I am as I am due to all of it. There are things I would do over, and things I have resolved not to repeat. I guess that's the crux of it - right? Learning from our mistakes? Sounds like you already have - cheers to you and foo on the next person who crosses you. Hope you aren't prone to road rage - kidding.

On edit - today does seem the day to be off on people at large. I myself have noticed a lowered tolerance towards assholes and idiots.

[bearfan454]

3. Not being nicer to the people I love.

Sometimes I'm a prick.

[comsymp]

9. That's my biggest regret (to date) too

Other than that, my only real regrets are things I didn't do but should have.

[rwheeler31]

10. why?

[AlCzervik]

4. Spending way too much time working when i was in my 20's

trying to get ahead, when i finally got to a pretty high level job in accounting for the May Co. i quickly began to hate it. I should have taken more time off or been happier with a lower level job but in my family you were expected to succeed. Looking back now it's kind of sick, it was almost like a competition between my sister and i.

[Philosophy]

5. There were two different girls I was good friends with in college

that I really liked but didn't have the courage at the time to ask out on a date. One of them I'm sure would have said yes, not sure about the other but she probably would have. I was a total dork. 12 years of constantly getting shot down later and I'm still alone.

[Bombero1956]

6. never learned how ride a motorcycle

now everybody I know has a Harley and looking at them makes me want to hop on and take a ride.

[mahatmakanejeeves]

8. Motorcycle Safety Foundation

Harley? Baaarrrffff!

Do, however, check to see whether there is an MSF Basic Rider Course being offered near you.

You show up with boots, long pants and a long sleeve shirt. They provide everything else - the bike, the helmet, the place to learn, and, most important, instructors with years of experience. Any rider will tell you: this is the way to learn.

The price varies with location, all the way from free to about a $100 or so. By completing the course, you get a break on your insurance too.

http://www.msf-usa.org/

You can learn at any age. Well, you have to be old enough to have a driver's license, of course.

I do not recommend attempting to learn how to drive a motorcycle unless you already know how to drive a clutch. Learning how to shift and learning how to drive a bike is too big an obstacle to overcome all at once.

[comsymp]

11. mkjeeves is right-

You ain't dead yet...

[BlueJazz]

7. Oh man....this story brings back deep regrets.

I was working (playing) in a band in Jacksonville, Florida.
In the time I was there...(we had a contract for a 1 year stay at this certain club).
Anyway, I would talk to this beautiful, intelligent bartender every night...We had so much in common but for some stupid reason I never asked her out. I don't know if I was afraid of such a wonderful relationship not working out or what but I'm sure that it was for some silly, childish physiological reason.

I came into the club one Saturday evening and learned that the bartender had left town and went up north.. (nobody knew exactly where).

I got to talking with one of her friends that night and found out that she had left because she was in love with me but didn't think I cared near as much for her as she for me. She just couldn't stand to be around me any longer and had gone back to her aunt's house in New York. ....but still, nobody knew exactly where.

To this day I know in my heart I threw away true love and a soul mate.
One of my friends (that I confided in) told me that one day the pain would go away.
You know what?... He Lied.

[blackcat77]

12. I just threw away my first marriage

Getting drunk and high all the time, chasing skirts, generally acting the fool. My wife was a wonderful woman and really loved me but finally she had enough and left. *Then* I realized what a jerk I'd been and tried to get her to come back, but she'd warned me over and over. (sigh) That's been 28 years ago this month...

Of course now I'm married to someone even better and have been for 18 years, but that still doesn't make the guilt go away.

[TrustingDog]

13. feeling spread out too thin...

not paying enough full attention to the really important things but having every obligation and responsiblility buzzing in my head at once diluting it all.
I regret that a lot.