How Monogamous Are You?

[Plaid Adder]

Poll question: How Monogamous Are You?

How monogamous are you? (This is for those who are in a relationship with another person. Cheating on your own right hand does not count.)

[Plaid Adder]

1. Early results indicate...

We really DO have the Republicans beat for family values!

But of course Florida is still too close to call,

The Plaid Adder

[The Sushi Bandit]

2. Is being with a prostitute cheating??

nm

[Plaid Adder]

3. I sure think so...

...but of course the person whose opinion really matters would be your partner's...

C ya,

The Plaid Adder

[Raenelle]

35. Actually, I'm not sure it really is

at least not on the same scale as all the other ways. I'd lump having sex with a prostitute closer to masturbation than an affair, and I think we can all agree that masturbation isn't cheating.

[maggrwaggr]

38. only if your wife participated

which could be an interesting night

[salmonhorse]

49. Not if you pay cash ~

In that case it's just business...

[Interrobang]

4. It ain't cheating if it's all consensual...

Monogamy is like eating the same thing for dinner...over and over and over and over and over again. Bring on the buffet!!!

[Xithras]

6. Agree!

Variety is the spice of life! :evilgrin:

[Plaid Adder]

7. "Cheat" implies deceit/violation of contract

If your contract says you can play around, then playing around doesn't really count as cheating.

As for the buffet...I say if you've found the food you love best, you can have a lot of fun experimenting with different recipies for it.

C ya,

The Plaid Adder

[MiltonLeBerle]

5. I'm not sure how to answer.

I have, but I don't do it anymore.

But that's because the opportunity never arises.

[Plaid Adder]

8. If you'd do it if the opportunity did arise,

I figure you should go with #4. Although since these polls mean zippo anyway, I say do what feels good.

C ya,

THe Plaid Adder

[Plaid Adder]

9. Kick for the AM crowd

Are you guys as monogamous as the PM crowd?

:kick:

The Plaid Adder

[GOPisEvil]

10. I've been the victim of cheating...it sucked on ice!

I'd never want to cause that kind of pain to someone I love. Plus, I'm just not a cheater; my parents have been married for over 40 years, and I know with every fiber of my being that they've never cheated on each other. I should be so lucky to have what they have.

But, monogamy's easy when you're single and unattached. Yes, I am loyal to myself - but don't let my left hand find out what my right hand's been up to. :o

Spelling!

[SiouxJ]

13. Lol!

*sniff* I feel bad for lefty. I think I'll tell him (or would that be "her") what's been going on. Poor lefty. Always "left" out.

[GOPisEvil]

14. Don't cry for Lefty...

...she knew what she was getting into when she hooked up with a right-hander!

[dawg]

11. I want my relationship to be exclusive ...

I'm not tempted to cheat. There are lots of other women I'm attracted to, but the only one I WANT is my wife.

[Plaid Adder]

12. The way I see it, if you've got the best, why mess with the rest?

C ya,

The Plaid Adder

[dawg]

15. I like the way you think!

Both on this thread, and the beaver-shaving thread! :)

Also, Futures Shocked was brilliant.

[StrongBad]

16. I cheated once

I regretted it more than pretty much anything I have ever done in my life. Even if I had fallen out of love with the person and wanted out.

Cheating signifies something has gone awry with the relationship. If that something can't be fixed, time to move on.

But don't hurt the person by breaking whatever bond of trust you established. I have never been the victim of cheating but can only imagine how heartwrenching it must be.

On the other hand, if you and your partner have agreed to have an "open" relationship, there's nothing to discuss. I however could never be involved in that type of relationship.

[Plaid Adder]

18. You didn't cheat on GOPisEvil, didya?

Cause that would really be a small world,

The Plaid Adder

[GOPisEvil]

19. SB is the wrong sex and/or gender.

I'm a he who was cheated upon by a she. The witch! x(

[StrongBad]

21. Haha nope wasn't me...

Perhaps it was my sister, but then again, she's only 16...

[GOPisEvil]

23. Nooooooo...she would have been 2 at the time!

:scared:

Wasn't your sister - promise! :D

[Plaid Adder]

17. What surprises me

is that with all the people straying, nobody says s/he was dumped over it. Or is it just because you can't vote for more than one of these poll choices at once?

C ya,

The Plaid Adder

[ProfessorGAC]

20. My Monogamy Is Absolute

The Professor

[Susang]

28. That's funny

Mine tastes like Ketel One! :-)

[ProfessorGAC]

29. Oh No! More Punny Stuff from The Chicago Gang

Yesterday it was XNASA. Now, you. You guys are killin' me! And i don't mean i'm laughing real hard, either.
The Professor

[Susang]

31. I couldn't help myself

You play the straight man far too well. You're a regular Bud Abbot. If you stop feeding us the straight lines, we'll stop the puns, deal? :evilgrin:

[ProfessorGAC]

32. Do I Get To Smack You Guys, Like Bud Did To Lou?

If so, i'm quitting nothing. The slapping part would feed the id nicely.
The Professor

[AquariDem]

42. Does being all by yourself count?

Just wondering...

[AquariDem]

46. oops, should've read the whole thing n/t

[trof]

22. If I'm not with the girl I love,

I love the girl I'm with.
;-)

[KinkyDem]

24. What if...

you're with the girl you love and meet a girl you both want to like a whole lot?

Could be fun. I know I like it!

[trof]

25. Mrs. t. would hire Skittles

to KICK MY ASS!

[KinkyDem]

27. trof...

I had no idea you were into that!

Besides, I bet she can find someone to do it for free.

[Johnyawl]

26. This AM responder...

...has to chime in with Interrobang & Xithras. Monogamy doesn't work for me, and fortunately I have a pardner that feels the same way, so cheating doesn't enter into it.

I don't mean to rain on anybody's parade, but the truely monogamous seem to be rare breed. Every survey of sexual additudes and behaviors I've ever seen shows a lot more people proffessing a belief in monogamy, than are actually practising it.

That said, I think that if you and your pardner are monogamous and happy with that, if that's what works for you, more power to you. I hope it always stays that way for you.

[ProfessorGAC]

30. Then Count Me As Rare

And, do you have data from these surveys? I'd like to see it and the conclusions of the researchers. My feeling is that it's not as rare as you state and would like to see data that corroborates that statement.

For me, it's total and absolute. I would never even CONSIDER cheating on my wife, let alone do it.
The Professor

[regularguy]

33. There might exist, in some theoretical realm, some scenario

that would tempt me. But down here in reality I gotta say I'm totally monogamous.

[Nikia]

34. Actions are what are important

I have never cheated on my husband even though I have been tempted and have occaisionally fantasized about being with someone else. My husband has admitted to thinking about having sex with others too. We don't have sex with others though and I think that it might change our relationship if we had an open marriage. Actual cheating involves a decision. We all have lots of thoughts that we consider immoral or not smart ideas but that doesn't mean we do them.

[rbnyc]

36. I admit it.

NSMA and I are having an affair.

:evilgrin:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

37. I thought about it but I am as loyal as a dog and never acted

But since I am single...my heart belongs to no one....tried to give it away but DAMMIT THE HELL I'm not her type! *sniff sniff*

[plcdude]

39. does a menage a trois

count as non-monogamus if your wife was one of the three?

[Plaid Adder]

40. Really should have used "faithful" instead of "monogamous"

because that's what I was really thinking of when I designed the poll. I figure if your partner knows about it and doesn't mind, it's not cheating...especially if she's gettin' something out of it.

Sorry for the semantic confusion,

The Plaid Adder

[AquariDem]

41. Hey Plaid Adder

This is totally unrelated, but I visited your site a few weeks ago (I didn't know you were a DUer) and totally agree with your views on The Well of Loneliness. :boring: :boring: I read the first part, skimmed the rest, and stopped identifying with the main character rather quickly.

[Plaid Adder]

43. Thanks, AquariDem--I get mail arguing with me abotu that review

Only one people seem to care about...I got one where the whole text of the message was, "I found it hauntingly bleak."

Maybe it really *is* a trans novel, and not a lesbian novel at all. That would explain a few things. But trans or lesbian, there's no getting around the fact that it's turgid, annoying, and full of martyr complexes.

C ya,

The Plaid Adder

[AquariDem]

47. I just got sick of reading about that horse

I mean, horses are cool, but isn't the book supposed to be about the main character? Also the constant classism, and how about that awful ending?!?

[SPICYHOT]

44. Monogamous is something to eat????

can someone explain that to me???
Maybe my english still not enough?

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

45. Hummm, how about cyber?

??

[fortyfeetunder]

48. Ain't worth it

After watching a parent have an affair and actually having a kid while married to someone else..watching the otehr spouse suffer, was enough to keep me from ever considering doing likewise.

[salmonhorse]

50. Very ~

There is no need for cheating when the two of you are hitting on all eight(8) spark plugs. But that's just me...