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your mom's cancer, your son being at camp for two weeks, transitioning into another year ... all of that are a compass pointing you to your own very empty (THE EMPTY PLACE THAT IS IN THERE FOR EACH AND EVERYONE OF US AS WE ALL HAVE AN EMPTY PLACE).
So many of us try to put other people in that empty place, or we try to fill it in with religion, or alcohol, or drugs, ... only to become more disappointed and more empty.
Sometimes the best help comes from knowing what you might put in that empty space to help make it feel less empty, something that only you can put into your empty to make it less so and that is dependent on no one else, sometimes it is a tough job to figure it out. But sometimes with just a little bit of thought (and helpful guidance from a good therapist) people can figure it out.
Sometimes just to be able to talk to your mom about how each of you feels about her cancer can help.
Sometimes forgiving our own imperfect relationships with those we love most, or forgiving their own imperfect relationships with us can help. Talking with them about those times we sold ourselves short to them, or about the times we thought they sold themselves short to us, can help.
And sometimes a good KIT KAT or something like that helps with the work that has to be done.
:)
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