Do you believe in love at first sight?

[terrya]

Is that more often true than not?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. no, i don't buy it

That's lust, not love. Love is about a person's character and personality.

[mrboba1]

2. I do.

But it is not more often true than not.

[katmondoo]

9. Happened to ME!!

Nothing to do with sex, just a powerful feeling.

[mrboba1]

11. Something happened to me

don't know if it was love at first sight - but it sure wasn't lust.

A very strange feeling came over me when I saw her (and I knew lust, believe me - and that wasn't it!)

[Spinzonner]

3. Not for blind people

[ClintonTyree]

4. I believe in.....................

lust at first sight. Love is somewhat more complicated than a passing glance.

[DS1]

5. Yep.

[mrboba1]

7. Is that your door rising

or are you just happy to see me?

:evilgrin:

[BigMcLargehuge]

6. don't know if it's more often true. But...

I saw her standing in line in front of the business office in college and I fell in love. I knew I was going to marry Mrs. McLargehuge the minute I saw her.



We've been together for 11 years, and are preparing to celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary.

[Misunderestimator]

13. Aw... sweet. Happy impending anniversary!

[terrya]

16. Well, very happy anniversary (in advance)

That's a sweet story. Dreams DO come true, don't they?

:-)

[BigMcLargehuge]

25. On occasion :)

and like any real-life anything, it differs in many spots from the perceived ideal. Still, our time in the crucible has made us stronger and closer.

If I had to do it again, I would.

:)

[miss_kitty]

42. that reminds me of my brother and sister in law

only a friend in high school showed him a PICTURE and said: This is my friend Sherrie. I think you'd like her." he says and swears to it, he looked at her picture and thought "I'm gonna marry her!" 30 years and 4 kids later...

[Magrittes Pipe]

8. No.

SMELL, on the other hand.... :loveya:

[terrya]

14. Well, I hadn't taken THAT into consideration!

Once again, I'm laughing my ass off here at work over one of your witticisms!

:loveya:

[Magrittes Pipe]

17. It's all about the pheremones.

I mean, what is "love" really? Just a chemical reaction in the brain. A SEXY chemical reaction! :D

[redqueen]

37. True

smell is the bigger part of it.

I guess I can smell people's pheremones from across the room. :)

[Misunderestimator]

10. Well, I fell in love BEFORE first sight...

The first sight was the clincher. :)

[Rambis]

12. I do

I met my wife and we haven't been apart since the day we met. I guess there was the few hours in there when she had to dump her boyfriend at the time that was cheating on her.

[cyberswede]

39. shucks...

*blush* you're sweet. :)
I bet you remember the dress I had on, too. :loveya:
xxoo

[Beware the Beast Man]

15. Definitely "like" at first sight.

When I met Mrs. Beastman for the first time in person (we got acquainted in a chat room), there was none of the first date jitters or nervousness one usually gets, and it wasn't as if he had chatted for a long time, either. We were definitely comfortable with each other, and knew that someting good would come out of our relationship.

[truthspeaker]

18. No? Want me to walk by a second time?

[JVS]

19. No more that I believe in speaking in toungues.

That is to say that I am heavily sceptical about both

[TX-RAT]

20. Absolutely

January 7th 1973. That was the day i first laid eyes on my lady rat.
30+ years and i still can't keep my eyes off of her.

[eyesroll]

21. People grow on me.

There's lust at first sight, for sure. Sometimes that can turn into love over time (even small amounts of time); sometimes that can turn into contempt the second they open their mouth.

[Screaming Lord Byron]

26. People grow on me.

Damn those rogue geneticists.

[Paragon]

22. "If you believe in love at first sight...you never stop looking."

http://www.apple.com/trailers/sony_pictures/closer/index.html

[SarahB]

23. Supposedly, I was a product of love at first sight.

Some "aura" about me. I think it was just I reminded him of some unrequited love from high school. The only time I ever felt it was many, many years ago, and it was a disaster. I don't think I have enough left to believe in anything anymore. Maybe I do, but it doesn't really matter at the moment.

[fudge stripe cookays]

24. I USED to....

until I realized that all the idiots I felt that with were losers. It was just a temporary pheromone thing, then POOF they were gone.

reprehensor and I have a wonderful thing because we let it develop. I'm much happier now.

[tjdee]

27. "Love at first sight may sound trite but it's true, you know."

People who are saying no haven't experienced it yet.
It's something, alright.

And to say you believe in it makes you sound kind of impulsive and head-in-the-clouds-ish... I think people are so jaded these days that they try to fight the feeling if they feel it. Until they can make sure.

[pagerbear]

28. I don't think there's only one answer

I think some people are susceptible to love at first sight and some aren't. I myself aren't. What I get at first sight might be lust or infatuation or even affection, but love comes later.

[liontamer]

29. it depends on how you define love

I believe you can be infatuated at first sight, but I don't call that feeling real love until I know the person well and learn to love his or her faults. But some people are perfectly willing to call the first stage love, which it is in a way. I just take love very seriously, so I can't call a feeling love, if I don't know that I'm serious.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

31. i agree with the tamer

[liontamer]

33. Do you really?

Or do I just have you well trained? ;)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

34. both

i agree that real love takes time to develop

[Phillycat]

30. I do believe in it.

I am a hopeless romantic, but I believe that you can have a very strong connection to someone right away that is unexplainable by facts. But then of course you have to sustain it so that you learn how to communicate with each other, respect the other's point of view about things, and develop intimacy. So you can have LAFS and still blow it quite easily, I think.

Sweet story: my BF's father is so totally in love with his mother, it's amazing. They were all at a family reunion once, and my BF was talking to his dad, and he noticed that his dad had stopped listening to him and was staring over his shoulder. His dad then looked up and down, shook his head, exhaled, and whistled under his breath. When my BF turned around, his mom was standing there. :)

[SarahB]

35. Yeah, I believe that.

Sometimes, someone can just hit you almost immediately with something, but it's not so much about physical appearance necessarily, but maybe just how they are, their essence, soul, personality or whatever it is in some way. It's even nicer when it's mutual, even nicer when you can actual do something about the way you both feel.

[Phillycat]

43. Essence.

I think the connection you are talking about is often confused with lust, which is why people act on it and then screw up the relationship by having intimate sexual feelings too early. They don't allow the time to build the communication and that leads to screaming fights, with makeup sex, which is a bad way to be, in my experience.

I think the "essence" connection you're talking about could truly be love at first sight, but it should be nurtured and grown, not pummeled with sex.

(Not that there's anything wrong with sex!) :)

[SarahB]

45. Yeah, you don't want to spoil it by too much, too soon.

But there comes a time in that kind of tension when you just have to get busy or you'll go loopy! For some it may mean a few weeks, others it can mean over a year. :crazy:

[Phillycat]

48. Oof, over a year is too long!

At least it is for me. :) I'm kind of...you know, a big fan. :)

The BF and I made it almost 2 months, but it was HARD! Heh. No pun intended. :evilgrin:

[redqueen]

38. Who can define love?

I think if two people have a really strong attraction chemically (which *is* LAFS, IMO), then in addition to the feelings of infatuation you get with a new relationship - you also have a powerful chemical attraction.

When the infatuation fades (and it always does), having that strong chemical attraction can help keep people together through rough patches.

At least that's my theory. :)

[Phillycat]

44. Pheromones.

Have you ever been with someone who you actually liked the way they stink? You know, when they're sweaty and smelly, that smell is a turnon?

I have that for the first time with my BF--having the best sex of my life, too. Pheromone connection. Whee!

[redqueen]

47. Yep!

Lucky you. :D

[redqueen]

32. Yes

Of course!

[Zensea]

36. Ask Buddha

or Jesus.
If you are open to it, it happens.

[Gothic Sponge]

40. No, i believe in infatuation at first sight.

[miss_kitty]

41. FROM THE BBC: PROOF LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT EXISTS

for what it's worth:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3643822.stm

[flvegan]

46. When I saw that Great Dane mix in run #13 at the humane society

It was love at first sight. Adopted him that night. He's 4 now. My big boy.