Hey DU moms, my wife is spotting 12 weeks into her pregnancy

[BigMcLargehuge]

we have an OBGYN appointment this afternoon, but she (and I) are suitably freaked out. This didn't happen during the first pregnancy.

Here's what I could glean from Mrs. McLargehuge

Brown
Oozy

I've read a few articles online but they all say "don't worry" or "get to a hospital now" there appears to be no middle ground.

Anyone have any advice? I'm starting to get a little more than normally worried.

Thanks in advance.

[Avalux]

1. How much???

Is it a little bit or similar to menstruation?

[BigMcLargehuge]

9. a little bit

so she says, but then she says "there's no such thing as a little bit..."

What the hell does that mean?

I'm a man, a woman's reproductive system is a mystery to me other than what I learned in middle-school health class.

We have an appointment at noon with the OBGYN.

[MissMillie]

2. Call the doctor

don't wait until this afternoon to see what the doctor thinks. the doctor may tell you that it can wait until this afternoon, but then again s/he may say to get to the hospital post-haste.

[BigMcLargehuge]

6. we did that

Mrs. McLargehuge says its "a little" and the doctor spoke with her for about 25 minutes before setting the appointment. She wasn't stalling, she was listening to Mrs. McLargehuge's symptoms and asking detailed questions.

I'd rush her to the hospital but she doesn't think it's necessary. We have an appointment at noon, which, knowing how effortlessly our local hospital parses emergency room care to walk-ins, is about 3 hours sooner than she would see someone there.

Thanks for the advice.

[qanda]

3. The same thing happened to me...

At the exact same time in my pregnancy. I was ordered to go to the emergency room. It turned out to be nothing, but I would not hesitate to get it checked out immediately. Praying for you and your wife.

[blondeatlast]

4. I would call the doctor right away.

I was about that far along when I had a bit. Called doctor, he said watch for it to increase, if it didn't, it would be okay.

A lot depends on the amount--if it's a lot (in your opinion), go to ER. Don't worry about the "right" thing to do, just take care of yourselves.

Call the doctor, even with the appointment. If nothing else, you'll feel a bit less stress.

[BigMcLargehuge]

12. we called

strangely that did not alleviate the stress... (nervous LOL)... but hearing everyone's take on it here is definitely helping.

Thanks

[blm]

5. I say get to the hospital...

It happened to me and I lost my first pregnancy. I waited two months and now have the healthiest toddler in the world in my life.

[BigMcLargehuge]

15. we have an appointment with the obgyn at noon

faster service than we would ever get at the emergency room.

Only 90 more minutes...

Man, these minutes move pretty damn slowly.

[bluedeminredstate]

7. Been there

I had a miscarriage in my first and spotting in my second pregnacy which turned to be fine. Generally, brown blood is old and bright red is new. She needs to see the doctor, but if it's just a little "spotting" and not bleeding, try to stay calm until you get there.

[BigMcLargehuge]

11. she definitely describes it as spotting

so I am starting to feel less freaky as I read everyone's responses...

[LosinIt]

8. It might be nothing, but better safe than sorry

at least call the doctor's office. They may want you in now. Sending the best of vibes your way. Let us know.

[BigMcLargehuge]

10. called them

they made an appointment for us at noon.

crossing fingers and trying not to freak.

Thanks.

[ArkDem]

13. My advice would be listen to the OBGYN

not a bunch of people on a political forum.

[BigMcLargehuge]

17. DU is palliative care for me...

We are listening to the obgyn. They scheduled us in for noon. She told us to relax, this is how I relax.

Notice I am not in GD.

[Le Taz Hot]

22. Or women who have actually gone through it????

Please! Before we had OB/GYN's we had other women and we still rely on each other for information.

That was a really pissy thing to say.

[SonofMass]

30. Like asking Elizabeth Taylor about

marriage?

[blondeatlast]

53. Agreed--thanks.

[blondeatlast]

58. Delete, meant to PM this.

[Fridays Child]

14. That happened to me. My doc started me on weekly progesterone shots...

...until the spotting stopped.

Many ob-gyns don't think that progesterone injections help. But my ob-gyn said that, in the 40+ years of his medical practice, he'd seen the shots work time and time again.

[ScreamingMeemie]

26. This is the only reason I have a little boy named James, after several

late term losses. I agree with you.

[colorado_ufo]

16. If the situation doesn't change

then just keep your appointment today. If there is any increase at all, take her to the ER, but call the doctor's office and tell them that you are heading there.

Meanwhile, be sure she stays off her feet, preferably lying down, and rests. Eat lightly, if at all, and stay hydrated by drinking adequate amounts of water. Avoid caffeine, which can be dehydrating. If she goes to the bathroom, be sure that someone is within hearing distance, in case she calls for assistance. Go with her, if she feels weak.

[clar]

18. Hang in there,

Listen to your doc. It's not long. Same thing happened to me at the same time in my pregnancy. I too had to wait some hours before seeing my doc. I was fine.

[curlyred]

19. same thing happened with my 2nd

after puking my guts up for 12 weeks, I was enormously pissed at the possibility of losing the baby. MY OBGYN calmed me down...and both my daughter and I were OK, and I resumed throwing up for the remainder of the pregnancy. :)

Stay calm, and talk to your doctor.

I will be thinking about you both.

[BigMcLargehuge]

20. thanks :)

her morning sickness has been VERY MILD this term, which as been refreshing. I think having a two-year-old who needs constant interaction helps her keep it at managable levels.

[kathee]

28. I spotted my fifth month

Turned out to be nothing. Hormones are nuts.

However, I read that morning sickness is directly in relation to the needed hormones that keep a pregnancy going. I mean, bad morning sickness is an indication that the pregnancy is going very well, tho it sux for us women.

Then again, no two pregnancies are alike, even with the same woman.

Let us know how it turns out, and my bet is on everything being just fine :)

[Oggy]

21. Not a Mum

but a Dad to be. We had a similar thing, but was caused by ahem doing things. Check it with doctors but don't worry, I'm sure it will be ok. Hope it goes well.

[otohara]

23. Happened to Me

don't have sex for a while

[BigMcLargehuge]

27. one of the things I learned during our first pregnancy

is that Mrs. McLargehuge would rather chew a jumbo wad of aluminum foil than have relations with me...

So abstaining isn't really an issue...

[Cheswick2.0]

24. this is either not normal or it is

"How heavy" is a very good question. If not heavy and not red, then this is normal, however of course the doc should check her out.

I actually verified both my pregnancies by the same sort of spotting....long story.

Don't worry.

[ScreamingMeemie]

25. I've had it with healthy pregnancies and not so healthy pregnancies...

Brown signifies old blood usually. Which can be a good thing. Not to get too personal, but in my healthy pregnancies it was because of an irritated cervix.

My advice, give her lots of love and hugs because that is the scariest thing to go through, and no matter what they say, don't leave her side. My husband had to fight to stay with me in the ER and he won. She needs you.

I'll be thinking of you both, and of course, your sweet little one.

Take care, Laura

[Maeve]

29. You're doing everything you can

And doing it right..."chill" is the hardest advice to take, but the only advice we can really offer. Sounds like Mrs McL has a good doctor, so let it be for now. Chances are good it's not bad.

[populistmom]

31. It's hard to say

I have four children and one miscarriage. I spotted with my first and no problems, but I spotted in my second pregnancy which is the one I lost. The others no spotting.
I hope she can get an ultrasound today and some reassurance. Just give her lots of support.

[rbnyc]

32. When I started spotting...

...at 10 weeks many women told me that they bled and spotted during their whole pregnancy and it was fine. I, however, had been hit by a car and I did lose the baby. But before I lost the baby many, many nurses told me that spotting alone wasn't anything to worry about.

Glad you're seeing the OB, tho. Please post with an update.

[BigMcLargehuge]

33. update. Just got back...

Well, all was not well. The pregnancy did not take. The doctor called it "Blighted Ovum" and said there probably wasn't much more than some placental wall cells there. We did the ultrasound thing and the uterus was empty.

Thank you all, both from me and Mrs. McLargehuge, for you kind words, encouragement, and good vibes. I am going to spend the rest of the day with her and try to make her feel special.

Talk to you all soon.

Big

[radwriter0555]

34. I had that happen twice. Trite as it sounds, nature takes the proper

course in these situations, and sometimes that's the only solace we get.

warmest thoughts to you...

[Enraged_Ape]

35. So sorry, big

But I'm glad the Mrs. is okay.

[cally]

37. Hugs and I'm sorry

I was just about to post to your original message. All my love and sympathy are sent to both of you. Just hug each other, enjoy your 2 year old, and mourn your loss. :hug: I wish you had different news.

[Solly Mack]

38. I'm so sorry. Sending cyber hugs to the both of you.

[supernova]

39. So Sorry BMLH

I didn't post earlier b/c I haven't have to good fortune to be a mom. Hugs to both of you right now. :grouphug:

[MissMillie]

42. Big, I'm so sorry.....

.... I can't imagine what that's like. I won't try to give you any wisdom on this at all. Let me just say, I'm sorry this happened to you. My thoughts and prayers are w/ you all.

[rbnyc]

43. I'm so sorry.

I know how hard it is. My heart goes out to you both.

[Desertrose]

45. really sorry...

hurts like heck to lose the possiblities and hope a baby to be brings to our lives.....

Tell the Mrs that many of us have gone through it and its really hard but sounds like she has a very loving and concerned hubby.....that should help...
love & cyber hugs to you both ...be kind to yourselves...

:loveya:
DR

[ScreamingMeemie]

46. Oh no. I am so sorry. I'll be thinking of you guys all afternoon. That is

such horrible news. It just isn't right that you had to hear it.

Hugs and tears for you both, Laura

[Cheswick2.0]

47. I am sorry

nothing to say at a time like this. Love :grouphug:

[GOPisEvil]

48. I'm really sorry for you both.

:grouphug:

[Bossy Monkey]

49. All sympathies to you and your wife, Big (n/t)

[Bunny]

51. Oh I'm so sorry.

Condolences to you and Mrs. BigMcLargehuge. She (and you) will need to let your grief take its course. Sounds like she's in good hands with you. :hug: bunnyj

[blondeatlast]

54. So, so sorry.

Take care of yourselves and it's definitely OK to grieve.

((((BigMcLargehuge & family)))

[catpower2000]

55. Ah God, I'm sorry...

My thoughts are with you and your wife. So sorry to hear this.

Cat :hug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

56. I am sorry to hear this..if it's any consolation

She is quite fertile for having conceived at all and when you are ready to try again things will most likely go much better..I had a relative with a similar occurrence and when she next conceived, things went rather textbook and she now has a beautiful baby and another on the way.

My condolences on your misfortune today.

((((((((HUGS))))))))))

[GoddessOfGuinness]

57. ~hugggggs~

Methinks Mrs. McLargehuge is a lucky lady to have such a considerate husband! :-)

[Amaya]

59. I very sorry for you both

take care both of you.

[LosinIt]

61. It's harder than most will imagine

When you find out you are pregnant (a wanted pregnancy, anyway) you begin to imagine holding your baby, wonder what it will look like, consider names. It becomes your constant mental companion. The loss can hit you hard. Take the time to mourn, she will be fragile for quite a while.

[Raven]

62. I am so sorry! This is so difficult.

You are good (and right) to stay with your wife now and try to look forward to the future.

[qanda]

63. So, so sorry...

I came back here looking for a good news update and am completely shocked and saddened. I hope that you and your wife will be okay.

[cmd]

64. More hugs to you and your wife

I've been through it. It's not an easy time of life. Hold her close and remember we are all thinking of you.

[populistmom]

65. I'm very sorry.

Take care of each other right now.

[Solly Mack]

36. For peace of mind, always go to the hospital...or to your doctor

It doesn't always mean something bad but it can...try not to worry until you know for sure.

Sending you and yours my good thoughts!!!!

[Raven]

40. The same thing happened to me at about the same time...

mind you, this is 31 years ago but I remember it well. We went to the hospital and the Doc examined me and said I was dialated and that I should go home and stay in bed...really stay in bed, until something happened one way or the other. He said that they had stopped giving medication for this because they felt that nature would take it's course...I hated hearing that then but now I can understand. I went to bed for about a week and the bleeding stopped and 7+ months later Willie was born...and look how he turned out! Sometimes this happens early in a pregnancy and it either passes or nature is telling you that it was not meant to be. This is hard to hear but probably the truth. Good luck and stay close to her...she needs you!

[MuseRider]

41. It happened to me

and it got worse. It was actually pretty heavy by the time I got to the Doc. I had to wait to get a sonogram and everything was fine but it sure was scary. Good luck to both of you. I will think good thoughts.

[buddhamama]

44. i am sorry.

you're in my thoughts.

[maxanne]

50. oh BigMcLargehuge

I'm so sad for you both. Warm thoughts and prayers from the north country.

[indigo32]

52. I'm sorry to hear about the outcome

take care, I'll be thinking about ya'll

[SPICYHOT]

60. don't hesitate

go to the doctor and see what is it! i'll send my best energy

[Lindsey]

66. Wow ...there really aren't words to say at a time like this

except that I'm so sorry for you both and I'll send light and healing energy your way. Take care.

[BigMcLargehuge]

67. Thank you Lindsey

We appreciate all the healing energy we can get.