Your first love

[LynneSin]

<sigh> Your first love

For some bizarre fluke I looked up my first love on Google and even found a picture of him. It was 20 years ago we first dated (geez I'm old) and he's still as good-looking as ever. Of course 99% of the folks from my home county usually turn out to be ultra-republicans (I managed to escape); I suppose if I found out he was one my crush would end like that.

So any of you still run into or have found recent pictures of your first love? Do you want to go back, would you go back if you could or are you glad he/she is out of your life??!!

[JVS]

1. No.

I don't love others, they suck ass. I do like some people though.

[kwolf68]

2. First love

Martha S. She was really cute as hell. I think she's also a Liberal. Last time I heard of her she wrote a pro gun control article for the school newspaper at Virginia Commonwealth University.

Im married now, but if Martha is out there...Hey baby.

[newyawker99]

48. Congrats kwolf68!! 600 post

:toast:

[catzies]

3. It's not because of "some bizarre fluke." Mercury's retrograde

and when that happens you're either looking up the lost love or you're the lost love someone else looked up. ;)

[roughsatori]

21. Are you serious?

I'm just curious, because last night I Googled 2 "lost loves."

[catzies]

30. Oh, yes, it's a very common occurrence.

Merc retro always brings up unfinished business, lets you tie up loose ends, stuff like that.

[tjdee]

35. How long does this retrograde last?

That's weird, I too came upon unfinished business.

[catzies]

51. It happens three times a year, every year but this year four times

The effects of Merc. retro vary upon which sign it's in. I've tried to keep track through the years on the effects in different signs.

The "moving backwards" phase lasts about 3 weeks, then it's stationary, then moves forward. So all in all, it takes about a month for actual forward progress to begin.

It's also the planet of communication, in both human relations and now technology. If you find yourself unable to get a point across, or are misunderstood, that's Mercury. Also fax machines, computers can get wacky. Any machine can, actually. Merc retro is notorious for unforeseen mechanical problems of all kinds.

Here's a cool little capsule of info:

http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html

[ChaoticSilly]

40. You've got me curious now...

My first (and pretty much only) called me out of the blue a couple of days ago after not seeing each other for a few years. Our break up wasn't too pretty, but I have to admit, I've missed her. I'm supposed to go see her tomorrow. It may just be wishful thinking, but things seem different this time - I guess because we're both more mature. I'm a little nervous, but I always am in social situations.

[newyawker99]

49. Hi ChaoticSilly!!

Welcome to DU!! :toast:

[LuLu550]

4. real love

or celebrity crush????
I mean, I REALLY REALLY loved George Harrison.

[Caution]

5. My first love

was the daughter of a well-known wingnut syndicated columnist. The stories I could tell about that whackjob! I still love her to this day though she broke my heart in the end. I woudln't go back because i have since met the perfect person for me.

[ET Awful]

19. Interesting . . .

One of my first real loves (I wouldn't say THE first) was the daughter of a well known TV News Anchor (for lack of a better term). Definitely a conservative, but not to the same extent as the more evil ones.

Now she? She was evil :). . . her dad was an okay guy.

[Caution]

22. My first love has turned out very well

She's a complete lefty and a great person, very intelligent, beautiful, and caring. She's doing very well on the other side of the country. Her father, well he's amongst the worst out there, and what makes him really awful is that he is actually an intelligent person, i just wonder where his heart disappeared to. Rush Limbaugh used to flash one of his columns in the intro to his ill-fated tv show, and used to regularly quote his columns (I don't know if Limbaugh still quotes him, since we broke up I have no real interest in this guy anymore and I have always despised Limbaugh).

[blackcat77]

6. I googled mine and...

...the only thing it listed for her was that she played volleyball for Indiana University from 1971 to 1974. I hadn't even thought about her in years...

Nothing whatsoever on Google about either my first or second wives.

[sweetladybug]

13. My 1st and only love is my husband of 33 yrs

I met him when I was 15 and we have been together ever since. I had some boyfriends before him but no one I loved or no one I told "I love you" to, only my husband (the love of my life). Hey don't get me wrong we had problems at times but we worked through them and I would marry him all over again. I love him and appreciate him more today than I did years ago. (We have grown closer instead of apart)
GC
loves
WC
loves
GC

[LuLu550]

17. ohhh, how sweet!

It's so nice to hear people who met and married young are still together.
I waited until I was 30 to marry....
AND HE WAS STILL A BUM! :nuke:

[thom1102]

7. My first REAL love...

I mean complete and total love, we hadn't spoken in, like, 5 years, cause he dumped me, and I loved him. And then after 9/11, I decided that life was too short to hold those kind of grudges so I looked him up. It started slow... I sent him a christmas card, then we started emailing. I went to Boston to see him this Memorial Day, and that was nice. I just wanted to see if I could be friends with this guy who was everything to me, and hurt me so much. It is really difficult. I was heading to the cape for Independence Day and wanted us all to get together (he, me, my s.o., and his s.o.) and sent him numerous emails to arrange it, and they all went unanswered, and it inspired the same kind of hurt and rage as when he dumped me. He was just out of touch email wise and didn't get my emails until after the holiday, but I didn't realize how tender those wounds still are. I am really glad he is 95 miles away, and we never see each other.

[populistmom]

8. Last I heard

My first love is still living with his parents and he's 32. No offense to anyone who's had rough times because hell knows that can happen, but I don't think he ever left.
I've been on my own since I got out of high school (no help from parents for college either) and I'd have a pretty hard time feeling very good in that situation. Then again, my parents are overly negative nut cases. If they were nice people, maybe it wouldn't be so bad. I imagine though it makes the old love life darn awful however!

[asjr]

9. first love

My first love has always been my only love. Alas, he married another but I never got over him. Even 50 years later.

[BigMcLargehuge]

10. I'd go back, if only to do it smarter

Every now and then I google her name just to see what happens... nada.

I was so foolish, afraid even to touch her because I thought she'd disappear. Then, she did.

Sad really, but without that experience I wouldn't be married to the love of my life now, so it worked out.

[zekeson]

11. I did

Found her, emailed her, moved, married her. Something gets triggered about 20 years - you do some reassessment of what is and was immportant and you try to figure out why those expectations have changed. I'm glad whatever it was tripped. I didn't know I wanted to go back, thought I was just touching base - ha!

[soleft]

12. my first two loves are both dead - yikes

First one committed suicide 2 years ago at 38, the other one died from meningitus at 30. I have very bad luck with men. Told my ex to watch his back.

[Interrobang]

14. As far as I know, he's dead...

We dropped out of contact a couple of years ago, and when a brittle diabetic whose health is rapidly declining suddenly drops out of contact...

I don't even have any of the letters he sent me, any photographs, or any other memorabilia because they were all lost or destroyed in the disaster that kicked my life out from under me, May 2001...

I miss him every day. Nothing long-term ever would have worked out between us, but I still miss him.

I still miss my other disappeared love (the one from Cleveland), but he wasn't my first...

[Susang]

15. My first love was Michael Duncan

I'm really disturbed since I typed www.michaelduncan.com and got an extremely disgusting anti-abortion site. I hope to god it's some other Michael Duncan. I can't imagine that he would be capable of that, but I haven't seen him in over 15 years, so who knows?

I plugged his name into google and found nothing at all relating to him. Just a lot of Michael Clarke Duncan fan sites.

[VelmaD]

16. I'm still really really close...

to my first love. In fact I just talked to him on the phone a couple of days ago. He's in Idaho and I miss seeing him. I was his first love too and there's still this wonderful warm feeling of connection.

We didn't say much to each other right after the breakup but eventually we found our way back to being friends. Remembered all the reasons we liked each other in the first place - they were still there even if the desire for more wasn't.

It's been great having him in my life. He offers an interesting perspective on my relationships. We still have enough chemistry that he's good for my ego - we flirt a bit and he makes me laugh. I wouldn't trade the memories from when we were "together" for the world but even better is the close friendship we've built up over the last almost 18 years.

Darth Velma

[Skittles]

18. Thomas Alan Gahagan, born 7/7/56

I think he came from California. We were GI brats at Glory Farms, Upper Heyford in Bicester England in the early 70's. I remember him vividly but have no idea what became of him.

[patdem]

20. Oh man...my first REAL love was a geek who rode a bike to work

and worked for corporate america..but back then...corporate america cow towed to him...he was TRULY AMAZING...rode his bike over 20 miles each morning he wore cut offs and wing tips in...and changed into business clothes...still wearing the wing tips... Did I mention he was TRULY AMAZING? :bounce: Why I buggered out?

[kmla]

23. I secretly hope...

... that she lives in a trailer park somewhere in Idaho, with a great collection of muu-muus in the closet and a 1985 Yugo in the driveway. Looking back longingly into her past, she will take a drag on her unfiltered Camel cigarette, cough, and think, "Maybe I should have stayed with that guy that everyone has come to know as KMLA. He was a pretty nice guy."

But I'm not bitter.

[oneighty]

24. Gypsy lady, please come steal me.

My first love!

We were only six years old at the time. You and the other members of your clan lived off there on the other side of the dead cotton fields, down there towards Stenson's hollow.

I hope you remember me. I was a skinny little kid, bashfull and speaking Yankee. I wore corduroy knickers and white and black checkerd socks. My shoes were ragged as we were poor too just like you were.

We rode the bus together to first grade in Sheffield, Alabama. You were so pretty and smelled deliciously of Concord grape candy. One morning you gave me your candy fresh from your mouth, a lovers first kiss.

You maybe do not remember me. I will never forget you.

Gypsy lady please come steal me.

And that was my first love.

180

[shanti]

25. i found my first "boyfriend" on the net too!

just googled his name like you did. he's 48 like me and plays in a retro rock band, lol.

[JitterbugPerfume]

28. My first love was

a little boy named Wilbur

I let him see my goodies out in the shed

I seen his goodies too

haha

I was a curious child

daddy spanked me good for that one

[noiretextatique]

26. i would not go back

but, i do remember him fondly...overall. last i heard, he's a doctor with two kids, living in nashville.

[Kamika]

27. urgh, dont remind me please

i hate the guy i first dated.. i just looked him up apparently hes studying film and movie arts at college. God i hate him

[Aristus]

29. I google her name occasionally. She has the same name

as an attorney in England, and the English attorney gets all the press. So I don't know what my first love is up to these days.

[never cry wolf]

31. I found her on classmates.com

on Dec. 5, 2001, after like 22 years of no contact. We started out emailing, moved up to instant messenger and touch base daily. She lives downstate and is in an unhappy marriage to an alcoholic, my own marriage had been and is failing as well. We have both stayed in our relationships for the sake of our two kids, who are now nearly grown and out of the house. Our lives have paralleled so much it is creepy.

We are each others support system and I can honestly say she is my best friend for life, and I hers. We picked up where we left off without hardly skipping a beat, we just get along so well, finish each others sentences, etc. We have met a few times when she comes up to visit her mom and all the sparks are still there. No hanky panky, mind you, maybe a serious hello or goodbye hug but that is about it.

She really has been a Godsend to me and I do not think it was coincidence that we re-met at that time in our lives. I was at a point in my life where things just seemed kinda pointless, now I have a direction. Prior to our first meeting I was so determined to make a good impression I lost 95 lbs. and quit biting my nails. No concrete plans for us as we are both still married, but the day will come, just another year or two when the kids are gone. If there is such a thing as a soulmate, I have found her, or, re-discovered her at least.

[rasputin1952]

32. It is ironic that this thread popped up...

I posted on another thread NSMA had, on how she had posted something that related to my 'first love'...started me thinking; damn.

She is brilliant, an artist, a lover of people, the happiest eyes I had ever seen, and I was deeply in love. I saw her a few years after we had drifted apart. She became a teacher in the NYC school system.

As for looking her up in Google, I can't, or rather won't. I think I will avoid the 'pain', (Lord I loved that woman. She, like the other true loves of my life, (no, not that many), are a part of the past. I just hope that all of their lives went well.

My first love opened my eyes to a whole new world. She showed me the beauty of art, the treasure of Classical music, and the calmness of a sunset on the beach. She is an integral part of my heart and soul, she, and two other women helped make me the man I am today, and for that, I am eternally grateful.

[Nikia]

33. My very first boyfriend was a mega geek

We went togther in sixth grade. He was a stereotypical geek in every way. I ended up dumping him because some of my more "popular" friends threatened to dump me if I didn't dump the geeky boyfriend. Since I really wasn't "in love" or really lust until I was fifteen, I dumped the geek. I felt bad about it because he was very upset. It was towards the end of the school year though so I didn't have to deal with him much longer. He moved to Kansas with his older brother. I heard a rumor that he got a perfect score on his SAT. Googling his name, I found a computer programmer that founded a computer company with another guy with the same last name (his brother?) The company is in Kansas. He was a major geek. Is is a coincidence? The company was founded the year after he graduated from high school. Would he really have skipped college to co found a computer company? I don't know. I am happy with my own geek now though, my husband.

[donotpassgo]

34. My first REAL LOVE turned out to be a HATEFUL BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I could care less about her...the only thing that I'll take from it was all the sex we had...and boy did we have a lot.

But the first girl I 'liked' and liked me back was in summer camp when I was 9 and she was 10 or 11. She had brown hair and light blue eyes. Sometimes we would give each other little pecks on the lips and feel real embarrassed. She knew I loved Star Wars and thought Carrie Fisher was pretty so she came to camp one day with her hair in a buns like princess Leia.

Now that is love!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

36. The first guys I had crushes on were all gay...

but I didn't realize until after I returned from college.

The first fellow I actually went on a date with is bi, but has a serious relationship with a really nice guy now. We're better friends now than we were in high school.

I think I was attracted to these men because I sensed something "unattainable" about them. I wasn't ready for a serious relationship when I was in high school, or college, or even several years after.

[jumptheshadow]

37. I did a Google

My first love was a man, my last, enduring, deepest love has been a woman.

The man broke my heart by going off with his best friend's girlfriend when I was 20 and he was 22. He later married her.

Last year I googled his name and came up with some guy about his age who has written about being beamed up by aliens twice.

It's probably not him, but the experience cured me of any lingering wistful feelings about him.

[Castilleja]

38. Mine lives in Antigua

Last I knew. We kept in touch now and then for years, but after awhile, not much. I googled around and found him to be a Captain and doing realty there as well. He was a really interesting guy, still is, and I wouldn't mind talking with him now and then. But not the type to settle down, I think. Now the one who came right after him is a treasure, my very best friend, and a beautiful person. I wouldn't trade him for anything.

[KG]

39. Laurie Roberts

second half of my SR year in HS were great because of 2 things.

got my first car, got first real GF. :)

i have no idea where she is today. :(

[JohnKleeb]

41. my first love

well can I talk to you guys in lets say a half of decade to a decade from now lol.

[tjdee]

42. Get thee to classmates.com!

I was shocked, SHOCKED I say, to see how many people I knew had signed up for that. My first crush, old friends, etc. Googling had never turned up anything for me.

Of course, you have to pay $40 for them to cough up the actual email address (but, pay for one you get access to all)....which sucks...

Ah, but to just look at the NAME! Still around, still kicking....a tiny comfort...

[never cry wolf]

45. I agree

Best $40 I ever spent!!!

[bleedingheart]

43. My first love was not very nice to me

so I have no regrets...

spent a lot of time trying to prove that he was superior to me...

[KinkyDem]

46. I was not very nice to my first love

Oh, I was 17. Going with her "best friend". At a Sci-Fi con my girl friend wanted to go sleep with another guy. I'm pretty open, even was then but pointed over her shoulder and pointed at my first true love and said "Fine, i'm sleeping with her.". That was the start of a very bad relationship.

I was 17, she was maybe 16, but probably 17 at the time. I was homeless and living under a bridge at the time and moved into her apartment in a matter of days. "What, a 16/17 year old with an apartment?!?" Yeah, her dad was Army and her mom had killed herself a decade before. Sh e prett much lived alone from the age of 14 while her dad went and protected our nation. That's sarcasm folks.

Well, it went on ... and on ... and on ...Eventualy we got pretty sick of each other and went to pieces. We had moved a few times in that first year and a half. She started seeing some guy behind my back and dumped me.

I used to call her at 2:00 am drunk or high or tripping and cry into the phone at her. I remember showing up at her door one morning to be greeted by her new boyfriend. Man did that suck! Do any of you know how hard a pissed of Green Beret can hit a drunkin slob? God, that sucked.

Anyway, eventualy I gave up and stopped calling and stuff. My life was pretty shitty at that point and I was down on myself about it all. I had a bunch of friends doing bad things and I wasn't much better. I got a letter from her once and responded poorly. Sent a sob story about how much my life sicked and how it was all her fault or some shit.

Last I heard from her.

I do wonder sometimes though. I see her name on class mates and wonder if it's worth the $40 to get in touch.

On the other hand, I have THE love of my life, if not the first. andam very happy these days. Pretty good all around.

I wonder if she's paid the $40 and just hasn't sent me mail. I wonder.

[soothsayer]

44. Saw mine at my 20th year HS reunion

She is partner at a law firm, married (to a man! gads) with two kids, and is FAT and DEPRESSED.

She shoulda stayed with her girlfriend (me!). She mighta been happier.

[LWolf]

47. OMG. Are you sure you want to know?

I met my first love when I was 8 years old. He was 7. We had an intense mutual crush until the summer I was 11; my mom sent me out of state for the summer and when I came back, he'd discovered that there were other girls in the world. We stayed friends; friends with an edge. There was still a total attraction, which we sidelined. We flirted/dated/whatever other people, partied, hung out, and bared our souls with each other. Until the summer I was 14; we all moved away. He one direction, me another. We threw a going away party, and I didn't see him again for 15 years. By that time I was 3 years divorced, a single parent. My oldest female friend, who had also grown up with us, found out where he was. She called him and handed me the phone. I married him a year later. The same intense attraction, and I trusted my old childhood partner. Trust was important, after suffering severe burns with the first marriage.

We were married for 11 years. Ten of them were superb. The last year, he was distant and unhappy, but wouldn't talk about it. New, challenging job change, turning 40, his parents selling off the family farm and moving in with us....a stereotypical midlife crisis. Knowing something wasn't right, I confronted him. He told me, looking at the floor, that he was no longer in love and wanted his freedom. He walked out and never looked at or spoke to me again. I moved. He ran away with a young thing from work, leaving his parents in our house. She left her husband. I haven't seen him in more than 2 years, and have talked to him 4 times, getting legal paperwork done. We're separated, and the divorce should be final late this year or early next year. I don't expect to ever see or hear from him again. His brothers and parents, people I've loved all of my life, are also out of the picture. My choice, not theirs; it's too hard.

I'm ok, but there's no way I can answer your questions about going back or being glad coherently.

[Ramsey]

50. You met mine!

If you'll recall, he hasn't aged well at all!

Makes me sad really.

[LynneSin]

55. I still swear that man was gay

Honestly, I do! You'll have to show me pictures of when he was in college

[DEM FAN]

52. I'M Still Waiting For Mine.

:-(

[rasputin1952]

53. Just an observation...

Many souls were bared here, from the joyous to the bittersweet, to the downright dangerous.

This is what makes DU what it is, a place where we can all vent, accept and tell our tales. Sometimes we need a little break from the insanity of politics, and this thread took me back many years, to a place I rarely go. Everyone here described parts of their lives, and a common thread emerged; we have all felt great joy and great pain, but we have all persevered.

I truly hope that each and every person who responded to this thread, (with the exception of those that have found their true loves, and are with them today), find a true love, and keep them for a lifetime.

As I stated in my post, my first love, taught me so many beautiful things, and opened my eyes to a world I had not known existed. She went on to teach, I went into the Army. Reality has a way of dashing the posibilities of the future, but we both did what we had to do.

[LanternWaste]

54. "Sigh" is right.

"Sigh" is right. Haven't been able to get her out of my mind since 1986. Intelligent, sweet, demure, ladylike and the prettiest girl you've ever seen to boot!

Ahhh...but that was just a few years after I graduated High School when I was prioritizing parties and drugs at the expense of real life and love. I made the choice, it was the wrong choice and "life went on within me and without me"

If I ever have the chance to see her again, I'd just like to tell her, "I apologize..."

Wow. Now I'm probably going to feel somewhat morbid for the rest of the morning...lol