I'm tired and discouraged and I don't know why.

[Dora]

I've been sitting on my arse at the office all day, feeling this baby inside squirm its way through another boring day of me pretending to work. I've made an inadequte number of DU posts, but I haven't been any more productive here at the office.

We're eight weeks away from baby's arrival, we have no car with a backseat yet (two trucks),
we have no baby gear yet,
our new-this-year mattress still smells like cat urine from the "accident" that occured three weeks ago,
we're broke and I'm tired of putting a good face on it,
and I'm so tired I could lay my head down on the desk and go to sleep right now but
I know when I get home I have to plan the baby shower that we have to throw for ourselves and I hate asking for presents

now I have to leave and squeeeze my pregnant bod into that pickup truck and drive my sorry arse home.

My two consolations are that 1) we were smart enough to buy central so I don't have a 45 minute drive to the burbs, and 2) I'll have my husband waiting there for me and he'll hug me and squeeze me and talk to my belly and we'll have a lovely warm dinner of leftover spaghetti and he'll listen to all the fears and complaints I've just unloaded on all y'all and he'll encourage me and hug me and squeeze me some more.

Have a happy weekend, everyone. I hope I do too.

[dr.strangelove]

1. Once the kid is born, it will only get worse

kidding, it will all be worth it. I hope your weekend is calm and peaceful. Good luck.

[tjdee]

2. People are usually happy to buy baby presents, if that makes it better.

You're not asking for presents. You're saying we're having a baby, celebrate with us. Most folks will take that as a cue to get something nice, and they know it's coming, and it's one of those life things. No one's going to think you're begging them for stuff.

So try not to worry about that.

:)

You're not getting any rest for a while, but you have someone there to help you and love you, and that's a lot.

[sandnsea]

3. 18 years ago

I was just about where you are now. The child was born Feb. 8.

He went to State in track last year, #10 all-time 200 runner in the state. He just started his first year of college. He's always been a great student and fair-minded kid from the gate. He was my 3rd, "our" 4th.

It all works out. I know it doesn't help much to hear that, but it does. :hug:

[BareskinMatt]

4. My advice?

Leave politics aside until child is connected with an undisturbed mother.

[Frogtutor]

8. Huh? n/t

[BareskinMatt]

11. Bearing and rearing child is way more important than worrying

about politics. That's all.

[rbnyc]

16. Without worrying about politics...

...there may not be a world to raise a child in. I understand one has to shift one's perspective a bit, but one can't just shut out the world.

Take it from someone who's reading Homegrown Democrat to her 11-week-old.

;-)

[Frogtutor]

18. I see; sorry! n/t

[hatredisnotavalue]

5. I disagree that it will only get worse and I will tell you

it only gets better. Drove to the hospital in a car which barely passed inspection. Two kids later, I am the richest person in the world. Still have a car which probably won't pass inspection again, but have had the most incredible 17 years of my life with my little human ones. I got so distraught about the two going to college , next year and the year after, that I had to go out and get a little guy to care for. His pic is below. Your best years are yet to come hon, believe me.


edited for spelling

[ikojo]

10. Boodah sure is a cutey!

Is he a golden? I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE Golden Retreivers...they are PERFECT in EVERY way.

[hatredisnotavalue]

12. yes he is a golden

Isn't he the most gorgeous thing you have ever seen? I take him in once a week to the veterans home and boy is he a hit. Thanks so much for the compliment!

[ikojo]

13. Will you keep DU updated as he grows into

the beautiful dog I know he will become.

If I did not live in an apartment and dog sit then I would have a golden.


They are PERFECT, ABSOLUTELY PERFECT.

[hatredisnotavalue]

14. You are too kind

My little guy is now almost 6 mos. old. I will try to find some more recent pics. But here is a really baby pic. Sorry poster for this aside, but I think the point is is that baby in your tummy is going to bring so much joy to you and everyone who sees him. Just hang in there, and please share with us your baby pics...anyway here is my little guy at one mo.

[ohioliberal]

6. You are not alone.

I went through almost the same thing almost 7 years ago, with no money and at work all day. Luckily I was two weeks early, so at least I didn't have to go to the office anymore, but then your up all night feeding, but that's alot better than sitting at a desk all day dealing with clients. Plus you get lots of flowers that will cheer you up. The bad part was that my company did not pay for my health isurance while I was on leave about two months and they billed me for it which was about $750, which sucked because I wasn't getting any pay. But I stuck it to them and told them I was going to sue them and they agreed that I only had to pay my normal half.

Things will get better, we all go through this because of our hormones, but once you look at your little one, everything just seems ok in life.:hug:

[Frogtutor]

7. Awwww, here's a hug...

:hug:

Why isn't someone else throwing you a shower?! I notice you're in Austin; I'm in Fort Worth. Not quite close enough for throwing you a shower...

I remember how emotional and tired I was toward the end of my pregnancy; but the joy of having that beautiful little person in your life is boundless. Being a mom is the most awesome feeling in the world! NO ONE can ever describe in words what it's like...It's so worth it. My "baby" is 12 now!! And I've got the bug for having one more before I'm too old...

Here's a tip about gifts; register for your baby shower at Target, or Babies 'R Us (I prefer Target) and make sure your shower guests know where you're registered. As a guest, I know I appreciate registries because I know exactly what to get, and I don't have to worry about getting something the person doesn't like/need, etc. And, YOU get exactly the things you need and not a bunch of picture frames or something! And, people who live out of town can order on line from Target, as well.

Well, at least it sounds like you have a great guy, and that's a heck of a lot more than a lot of people can say! Try to relax, and hang in there..

Take care

[rbnyc]

17. I registered at Target.

Best prices there, so people got me loads of stuff!

[ikojo]

9. If you don't feel right asking for gifts for yourself

or just find the whole baby shower thing distasteful, what about having a shower and giving the gifts to a home for women escaping abuse (safehouses)? They could use the stuff.

Could your sadness be due to the fact that it's the dark time of the year? Some people have Seasonal Affective disorder that tends to flare up in the winter.

Having never been pregnant I cannot imagine the anxiety of just wanting the baby to come out already.

Good luck on your soon to be new arrival.

May he/she grow up to be a fighter for true egalitarian values!

[rbnyc]

15. Hang in there.

We hardly had any of our stuff until about 2 weeks before Garrison was born. Somehow it will all come together. It really will.

Also, during my 8th and 9th month, I couldn't believe I was still working. It just seemed impossible. It's hard! And you're tired! It's just the way it should be about now.

I'm so glad you've got a good hubby.

Keep us posted on how you're doing.

EDIT: BTW, do you need stuff? Are you having a boy or a girl? Garrison has outgrown all his 0-3 and even some of his 3-6 size clothes. I probably have some duplicates of other baby stuff too. What do you need? (Sorry, no extra car seat.)

[n2mark]

19. If you need something

let me know. I've been there, it is uncomfortable - those were the worst years of my life.

Please let me help you out, maybe I could send you a gift certificate for a grocery store, baby store or department store. Let me know.