Anyone date a photographer?

[WindRavenX]

I'm just curious as to if anyone has had any experience dating photographers/artists and whether it was pleasent or a nightmare.
Artistic based invidiuals SEEM, to me, to be more emotionally aware than (based on my experience) technical individuals like computer programmers (and I've had some rotten luck with that lot...).

[RagingInMiami]

1. They're great until they want to post nude pictures of you online

[redqueen]

17. Just post them yourself first.

Then you win.

[ET Awful]

2. Hmmmm, I've never dated a photographer, BUT,

I'm a technical individual (network administrator) and I'd say I'm very emotionally aware. And no, I'm not just saying that, I'm being honest :)

[WindRavenX]

4. Oh I know there are exceptions

I just haven't met any :hi:
You rock for being emotionally aware, btw!

[ET Awful]

9. I think the prime difference is an analytical mind versus

a creative mind. Many techie types, accountants, attorneys, and other such professions have many overly analytical people working in them because those types of jobs suit the personality.
:)

[Feathered Fish]

3. I live with a filmmaker

does that count?

[WindRavenX]

5. yes

Do tell :)

[Feathered Fish]

6. Well,

He is the most sensitive and intelligent person that I have ever met. And very talkative. I wasn't quite prepared for the amount of emotional neediness that he requires as he has a huge fear of abandonment. He is fiercely loyal and caring. Sometimes our discussions are very academic when it comes to films which is tiresome, but informative nonetheless. We've had major problems in our relationship - everything from money concerns to honesty problems - but because he is an artist, we talk about creative ways to fix the problem.
He singlehandedly cured me of some severe repression problems as well as my passive-aggressive nature - well, actually, I'm still working on that.
I used to date a computer programmer - a long time ago. He was not very honest and didn't require a lot of talk. It was no fun because his interests were not even close to mine and the relationship was always 'fine' - no problems ever. Then he revealed himself as a complete RWingnut, so I left him (I can't take that kind of crap).
In any event, it doesn't matter if the person is an artist or whatever, it depends on how well a couple can communicate and problem solve. I love my Artist so much, but even if he was a mechanic and still the same person, I would love him anyway.
Jan. 7 will be our 6 year anniversary.
:)

[WindRavenX]

7. awwww

That's so awesome!
It's funny, I went thru the same thing with the computer programmer- not very talkative (which is a problem for me...heh) and apthetic politically.
Thanks for sharing your experience! :)

[Debbi801]

8. I was married to a professional photographer. It was a nightmare!!!

[KurtNYC]

12. Like this.... ?

Once again, the law was on my side in Amsterdam's red light district when a tall, thin, black prostitute, dressed in a silver sequined gown and wearing a lopsided red wig on her head, assaulted me with one of her matching silver sequined spiked high heels. She chased me for about two blocks. I can laugh about it now, but at the time, these people were out for blood. In all honesty, I realize that these attacks do not rest entirely on the subjects' shoulders, for, as we should all know, it takes two to tangle. In their eyes I was probably seen as an intruder probing into their private lives and I may have inspired some of these angry esponses with my lack of discretion. But most of these responses are simply due to the camera being pointed in their direction.

Adverse responses can be difficult to predict for even the kindly looking old lady sitting on a park bench can turn into a raving beast within moments after she catches sight of your camera.

Sometimes, with the insight of a coming dilemma, the photographer can avoid an ugly situation by either using a telephoto lens and hoping the person doesn't see him or by quickly snapping the person's picture and being prepared to run fast in the opposite direction....
http://thedagger.com/thedagger/dag_zine/dag6/photog.html

Sensitive to other people's feelings??

[progressoid]

10. I am a photographer and married to one so...um...no comment

[WindRavenX]

11. negative?

:shrug:

[progressoid]

19. No, in fact this will be our 17th year married (plus a few living in sin)

It's just that my views would be a little odd since I represent both sides of the coin so to speak.

I used to have to deal with a lot of commercial photographers in my old job. I used to think that many were egotistical and over-rated. But looking at it after the passage of time, basically some were great, some were not. I think it has more to do with the person than the profession. Those that have an 'attitude' are probably that way regardless. I can't speak to the sensitivity issue - except that I'm extreeeeemly sensitive of course. (insert facetious emoticon here)

Without casting aspersions to other professions, here's another personal observation. When I was younger, I felt people in the arts were just more interesting to be with and so I dismissed a lot of their irritating personality traits. Sadly, I probably wouldn't be as tolerant today. But, today I still meet interesting people from other professions; strangely we generally meet because of similar artistic interests.

So, I dunno, is he a nice guy??



P.S. If you agree to let him take some 'artistic' shots of you - sign a model release form that gives you generous royalties!!!

[sir_captain]

13. I've done both

and in my case, the artistic minded person worked out much better. She was very open emotionally (perhaps even too much at times) whereas the computer scientist (microsoft employee, the whole works) had a lot of trouble showing her feelings.

On the other hand, I find that a lot of artist types take themselves far too seriously. So yeah, basically, I think you shouldn't worry about it--I'm sure there are plenty of lovable people on both ends of the spectrum.

[Wallflower_Liberal]

14. Well I'm married to a computer programming photographer

I guess I have the best of both worlds? Hmmmm, let me think on that...LoL.

Mr. Wallflower has only gotten into photography during the past few years. I believe he is opening up to his creative/emotional side for the first time. I'm a wannabe artist (always have been). I'm very emotional but extremely quiet and shy. We both are actually, so it works.

I think it more matters that you have things in common than what their profession happens to be.

[Jessica]

15. My boyfriend is a graphic designer/photographer ...

... and let me just say I highly recommend :bounce: He's way more in tune with my feelings than the other frat-boy guys I've dated (*cringes* I hate admitting to that). His sensitivity surprises me on a daily basis. We recently moved in together & he'll cover me up when I fall asleep on the couch, turn the TV to a show I love before I even come into the room, etc. Wonderful.

[redqueen]

16. I have.

It was wonderful. Truly. One of the best relationships I've ever been in.

[regularguy]

18. My wife is a photographer.

I guess you could say she's emotionally aware, but I'm still hoping a cure will be found. Seriously, I haven't found that "artists" are really that different from anyone else. The thing is that if an artists (of any sort) wants to make a living at what do they often have to be extremely dedicated, and this can definitely cause a problem in relationships.

[BamaGirl]

20. Haven't dated one, but am the daughter of one

and I occassionally freelance for him. Does that count lol?? In general, I think you're right. Dad is definitely more in touch with people on an emotional level than my Mom (a lawyer). But, he differs from the stereotype. He is the calmest, mellowest (is that a word??) person I know. He never ever loses his cool or control over a situation. My Mom is very analytical, and on the surface can appear pretty cold-hearted. But, she's a trial lawyer, and does drama pretty well too lol. She was a helluva painter, but some idiot professor in college told her she couldn't paint and she never did again. And she had already sold some of her work at that point! Geesh, I hope she doesn't wander in here today. I'll never hear the end of it lol.

Btw, I am a complete nightmare to live with lol. I married one of those technical, logical types, and I swear, I don't see how he can stand to live with me lol. We do balance each other out well though. He needs some chaos and I need some order, and on our own we'd never get it lol.