Do men like being a girl's first?

[yvr girl]

In another thread, the following was posted

"Nice guys get women who have grown up but have all the emotional issues associated with years of being treated like crap in bad relationships. ugh Oh, and forget being a girls first."

Do men like being a girl's first? I always thought it wasn't preferred.

[StopTheMorans]

1. personally speaking, i do not like being a girl's first AT ALL

i've done it twice, and neither situation turned out well. i'd rather be with someone who's very experienced and knows exactly what she wants (as opposed to a girl who is frightened of the whole experience, and who has to be coached on everything). maybe that's just me :shrug:

on edit: is this a relationship thread? if so, i should probably re-edit this :evilgrin:

[AlCzervik]

14. Well aren't you just the de-flowerer!

i never would have suspected.

[rkc3]

2. There was only one virgin in the car that night - and it was me.

It's been all down hill since then.

[MemphisTiger]

3. NOOOOOOOO,

they have no experience and if you're not looking for a relationship, you can't get rid of them. Then it turns into a fatal attraction issue.

[skygazer]

4. George Costanza on being the first

"They always remember the first. I don't want that."

[yvr girl]

9. Very funny

[mark0rama]

13. Also: Jack Black (as Gorkenlot) on SNL, re the same subject

From "Tales of Valour," 1/19/02

Gorkenlot: I'll let you live, and you can take the virgin with you. But you have to bring me back a slutty girl.

Sir Parrish: (confused and outraged) What?!

Gorkenlot: You know, like a bored housewife who's kind of hot and feels neglected by her husband.

Sir Parrish: But you don't want a virgin?

Gorkenlot: I'll be honest with you, buddy - on paper, a virgin sounds great. But in reality, not that good.

Sir Parrish: But I thought even a monster would dsire someone who was pure.

Gorkenlot: I'm just looking for a woman who knows what she's doing.

Maid Gwendolyn: There's nothing to be prized above purity.

Sir Parrish: I cherish your purity.

Gorkenlot: Yeah. Come talk to me after your wedding night. Tell me how great it was.

http://snltranscripts.jt.org/01/01kvalour.phtml

[RagingInMiami]

5. There is something to be said about going where no man has gone before

[SarahB]

6. Seems kind of a moot point for most of us over 21.

I think, on the other hand, there's some of us (men and women alike) who'd prefer to be with someone who hasn't been with a lot of people maybe for the sake of health or just the type of person you'd feel comfortable (or compatible) with because they think along similar lines in terms of sex and relationships.

[sui generis]

7. don't want to overanalyze BUT

I think some men like it because they don't want comparisons. There are possibly entire religious structures built around the idea of "purity" before marriage for exactly that reason.

Speaking for myself, I prefer a bit of experience. Although not all "firsts" are young, there is that post coital commitment thing that is important too, so at least in my mind there's more than just plucking cherries involved in reality.

What about women with "firsts" partners?

[SarahB]

12. "What about women with "firsts" partners?"

I was in that situation once. Let's just say he was so um.... eager just before we started that it was actually impossible to start. :(

[StopTheMorans]

16. I don't get it?

:shrug:

[KinkyDem]

8. Someday

I would like the oppertunity.

[WMliberal]

10. oh god no... who'd want a virgin?

They have no experience!!! They don't know how to satisfy.
There's also probably going to be lots of emotional baggage to deal with. ("I dunno, it's against my religion," "I'm scared because______")

[achtung_circus]

11. I've been there a couple of times

and have also helped one "reawaken" after an 18 year dry spell. I find it a challenge. It takes patience and love. It is a responibility too, to make the experience a negative one for the woman will likely affect her for the rest of her life.

The same holds true, I guess, if it's a positive experience.

I like the challenge, I guess. It's good for the ego, but ego has to take very much a back seat, as does personal gratification. The results, however, can be ummm explosive.

[BigMcLargehuge]

15. locked

This is a sex thread.

Was it as good for you as it was for me?

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