Help- I'm falling for a man a few years older than myself.

[SarahB]

I'm a woman in my early 30's and a like a man a few years older than me. I feel so... so... uncool, standard, and boring. :(

[MikeG]

1. Good. There's hope for us all.

[SarahB]

4. More than hope.

I'm 32 and my preference is probably 37-45. Those young'uns are too much for me. :P

[bobbobbins]

2. you need some young blood

and i got just the prescription

[hippiechick]

3. Run, Hide, Repent.

Save yourself before he bores you to death !!!!!!

:hippie:

[SarahB]

5. I haven't been with a guy under 30 in 12 years.

Which is fine with me. Not boring at all.

[stellanoir]

6. oh silly one

if you hadn't noticed, age has nothing at all to do with emotional maturity. I know a slew of uber successful men in their 50's with the emotional bodies of 2 year olds.

I've a friend who has a rule about always keeping involvements within a decade (older or younger). I'm not quite sure of her theory.

Since he was 22, my brother has been with a women ten years older than himself for 25 years. They seem totally happy but who the heck knows?

From what I recall, you've gone through a separation recently. After such occurances, many endure what is commonly known as "rebound hysteria" wherein we're attracted to people totally unlike ourselves in order to merely redefine ourselves. Others hook up with their soul mates immediately thereafter. Go figure. . .

Just trust your heart for now. Don't stress about age and be well and happy to savor that rush of potential for now. It's totally curative.

[CitySky]

7. LOL

I guess you're helping me keep this in perspective! My last serious relationship was a man 5 years older than myself, & there's nothing wrong with normalcy.

I guess the folks saying to take your happiness where you find it, are right. :)

[matcom]

8. if you want me to see you NEKKID

that would be ok

its the LEAST i could do for "the cause" :D

:P

:*

of course...... oh nevermind :D

[SarahB]

13. Dude...

You already had me semi-passed out on your bed once! :P

[msgadget]

9. C'mon,

how much is a few years? Is he 40 years older than you or something? Hell, I think it's cool.

Hey, and where's your self-esteem, woman? No standard, uncool, boring person would even come to the lounge. :silly:

[SarahB]

16. 7 and 1/2

Younger than the last one though.

I'm a bit standard and uncool, but not boring at all. I just keep seeing so many women out there going for younger guys that I feel so "typical" in comparison. Maybe it'll hit me later. Not sure.

[msgadget]

21. That's not much of difference, imo.

The other women you refer to probably don't appreciate the same qualities. 'Typical' is a not a quality to aspire to anyway.

[Padraig18]

10. Don't sweat it, I did the same thing.

I've never regretted it, either.

:)

[Cuban_Liberal]

14. I robbed the cradle.

:P

[Debi]

11. amature

My hubby is 25 years my senior. That's right, I'm the trophy wife!

And lovin' it :evilgrin:

[NightTrain]

12. Already?!

I'm impressed, Sarah! You obviously don't believe in letting grass grow under your feet. :thumbsup:

[SarahB]

17. Nothing happening yet.

Well, it's complicated. I'll leave it there. :D

[StopTheMorans]

15. Sarah, I'm only 25, don't get so worked up!

:silly:

[donheld]

18. Help Me

Help me
I think I’m falling
In love again
When I get that crazy feeling, I know
I’m in trouble again
I’m in trouble
’cause you’re a rambler and a gambler
And a sweet-taiking-ladies man
And you love your lovin’
But not like you love your freedom

Help me
I think I’m falling
In love too fast
It’s got me hoping for the future
And worrying about the past
’cause I’ve seen some hot hot blazes
Come down to smoke and ash
We love our lovin’
But not like we love our freedom

Didn’t it feel good
We were sitting there talking
Or lying there not talking
Didn’t it feel good
You dance with the lady
With the hole in her stocking
Didn’t it feel good
Didn’t it feel good

Help me
I think I’m falling
In love with you
Are you going to let me go there by myself
That’s such a lonely thing to do
Both of us flirting around
Flirting and flirting
Hurting too
We love our lovin’
But not like we love our freedom

[Zomby Woof]

19. You know why I love you?

Because you are a contrarian individual, like myself. :loveya:

Keep doing what you're doing, because you piss off the right people. :D

[SarahB]

26. Yeah, I know I piss some people off.

There are those of whom I'm well aware think I'm something along the lines of "a shallow, vain, attention whore". People makes so many preconceived notions about a person from some one-dimensional standpoint or perhaps one facet of their personality pigeonholing them into that one-dimensional space. I am a part of my history and my life which makes me who I am and I know and appreciate where I am now (same with a few others who know me well or see my other sides).
I was talking to a female friend today who said to me, "You know, Sarah, if I had been through what you've been through in life (most of which I don't talk about here), I'd be drooling in a corner on meds." Well, not only am I not, I'm thriving (with the occasional bout of neurosis that I get through, but thriving nonetheless).

To all those who like to pigeonhole, I give a hearty

[Zomby Woof]

27. :-D

Further evidence, that you do indeed, rocketh! :D

[SarahB]

34. Oh..... you!

:loveya:

[HEyHEY]

20. You can fall for me if you like I'm a few years younger

[Pale Blue Dot]

22. Well, I'm not THAT much older.

You did mean me, right? :evilgrin:

[NNadir]

23. I'm married 20 years to a woman eleven years younger than I am.

She has taught me so much, and I love her more than ever. The difference in our ages is completely meaningless now.

My wife had the choice of a lot of men, but she chose me because I had the maturity to appreciate all of her, not just her looks. Keep that in mind.

Most men, including myself, were jerks when they were young. Like wine we get better with age.

[aQuArius]

33. I completely agree (n/t)

[Rowdyboy]

24. My guy is 5 years older than me....

its the perfect difference....close enough to have shared memories, only from slightly different perspectives.

[Wapsie B]

25. If you're in love

you're in love. Period. The age difference isn't that great anyway. It's not like he's in his 60's or older. Not that there's anything wrong with that. 7.5 years ain't no big deal. If it truly is love then go with it. May we all be so fortunate to find love at least once in our lives.

[Groggy]

28. ??what difference does it make??

I don't understand. If you like somebody what does it matter how old they are? My husband is almost 8 years older than me. We have a great relationship! I use to date a guy who was 7 years younger than me. My husband is a lot more fun and "young" than that guy ever was. Age doesn't matter--people do.

[SarahB]

32. 'Tis merely a copycat thread.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x2261963

I agree, age is meaningless overall. :D
I think it's neat that women feel freer to be with much younger men (I just haven't met one personally that completely floats my boat). Society puts too much stigma on things that aren't anyone's business anyway.

[Groggy]

36. Oh ha ha! One of THOSE!!!! :-)

Okay, I get it!

[kodi]

29. honey, it ain't the years, its the milage.

and if you find a way to secure one who has your back thru thick and thin, consider yourself lucky.

lot a good women ain't got no support.

[proud2BlibKansan]

30. How much older?

I really do believe most men improve with age.

[aQuArius]

31. "If he can't defend my bakery, he can't enjoy the cookies!"

That is the first thing that matters to me, lol. If he voted for Bush, NOPE! NOPE! NOPE! If he's a good liberal, go for it!

[sendero]

35. My wife is ...

... 7 years younger than me, and our marriage couldn't be better. Really :) I don't think age is that much of a factor. My brother married a woman 12 years older and they've been together 15 years.

Mold-conforming shouldn't impede your love life any more than mold-breaking should :)

[noshenanigans]

37. When I was 21-23

I dated guys who were turning 30, thinking they were all mature, but they *all* had a miniature mid-life crisis.

Ugh.

[NewJeffCT]

38. i'm pretty standard, too

my wife is 3 1/2 years younger than me.

ex wife was was 8 1/2, though.

In between, I dated all ages, though, from 5 years older to 12-13 years younger.

[Lenape85]

39. Is he like 20 years older or something

[WindRavenX]

40. Older men rawk

Well, usually. You'll get a few immature assholes, but the ones that DO rock really do rock HARD!