Akward situation question...

[HEyHEY]

If you're in a car alone with a girl and, out of no where, she talks about cool underwear she's wearing that she'd like you to see..... how do you respond?

[short bus president]

1. Do you wanna see the cool underwear?

Or would you rather not?

[HEyHEY]

7. Oh, natch!

However... it was hard to tell if she meant like "I wish you cold see it but we're driving." Or "I wish could could see them but there's no way in hell you're going to."

[iconoclastic cat]

9. Either way, that was a ham-fisted come-on.

[short bus president]

13. Would she have really brought it up if the latter?

I mean, I know women can be cruel sometimes, but out-of-the-blue mention of one's unmentionables almost has to mean something about where a persons's mind is, right? :shrug:

[asthmaticeog]

2. In the affirmative.

[ogradda]

3. teeheee

well if i was the girl i know how i'd want you to respond:evilgrin:

[iconoclastic cat]

4. Cringe dramatically, then explain that Jesus would not approve.

:evilgrin:

On edit: Sheesh, how lame of a proposition is that? If she wants to pounce on you, she should know that she doesn't need to use so much bait.

[ogradda]

18. maybe it's not too much bait.

did she catch him? he never did say :)

[liontamer]

80. so much bait?

As obvious as a come on that seems to the rest of us, HEY HEY seemed confused, so maybe she was still too subtle.

[saltpoint]

5. Probably DUers are --

-- just too damn secular to answer this question.

Give Jim Dobson a call. I'm sure he'll guide ya proper.

[welshTerrier2]

6. ask her if you ...

can hang them on your mirror ...

[yvr girl]

8. Pretty blatant invitation

She knows it doesn't take much to get your masculine mind heading in a certain direction. If you're interested in her - I'm guessing it did the trick. The question is - Do you want to accept the invitation or not?

[fluffernutter]

10. if she's telling you about her undies, it's a pretty good sign

that she wants you to see them, and that she likes you more than just a friend :thumbsup:

[bettyellen]

11. sounds like you ought to drive her someplace cozy and private no?

i would say pull over the car, but in canada in january?
get thee to a firplace and some spiked cider.....asap.

[yvr girl]

24. mini-threadjack

Where have you been? I asked you to come out and play and *crickets* just plain mean.

[bettyellen]

33. did you pm me. is there a game going on... i am trying not to go

out for cigarettes and i am dying! i need one!
what's a cricket?

[yvr girl]

34. yes, last night

I was up till 5 am and the lounge was dull. Be strong. What is a crickety? It's a Disney character (Jimminy.) It also represents the sound of silence. Well, maybe not in NY - not in Vancouver either - but you get the drift.

[bettyellen]

42. oh. i fell asleep at 3 or something i think...

the lounge was pretty quiet except for the pic thread....
i guess that's midnight for you and you were still out. i only slept a few hours friday so it was catching up to me.
must have a cig now. i am powerless!

[progmom]

12. Dude...

Sometimes we give you hints. Big hints. And if you don't get 'em, well, then we figure you're not interested. I mean, how many times do we have to offer to show you our underwear?

She's prolly at home, e-mailing her best friend, saying: "Well, I went out on a limb and offered to show him my undies, and he didn't bite. I just don't think he's into me. Sigh..."

[HEyHEY]

14. Yeah but she's always talking about my friends

And how she thinks whoever is cute... and jokes about pursuing them ...

[fluffernutter]

20. it could be just another roundabout way

to see how you feel about her...

[buddhamama]

22. that too, could be 'opening'

maybe she's hoping you'll express feelings for her by saying that stuff.

(if that is the case it's pretty manipulative)

[HEyHEY]

23. Sick twisted bitch!

[iconoclastic cat]

25. No, just a chick who's hitting you over the head with the horny stick.

[yardwork]

86. I hate to tell you this, but that's pretty typical female behavior

By mentioning other people and saying that they are cute, she's hoping that you will become jealous and smolder in a romantic and interesting way and tell her that you can't live without her.

By mentioning her undies she's hoping that you will smolder and tell her that you can't live without her for one more minute.

[JVS]

112. Frequency of behavior does not alter the fundamental nature of said...

behavior.

HEyHEY's comment still stands

[EC]

32. I don't know, it sounds to me

like she's using you to get to another....You'll still get laid, but nothing long run, and she probably wants you to say something to whoever she asks about the most...

[Guy_Montag]

45. I got soo much stick from my current belle for talking about her friends

...before she became my current belle. I still haven't worked out why I did it. Maybe to make me look less desperate for her or something. Who knows - it was always her I was after.

[EstimatedProphet]

62. Oh yeah... I hate that

Had that happen too many times-you have someone you are getting signals from, and they are confusing them by talking about other guys they are interested in. Ladies, if I can give you a tip: this only clouds the issue for a lot of us.

[ornotna]

15. Um, yer kidding, right

Unless she's a freaking Gorgon......hell yes!


But do it cooler. Don't say "hell yes" ;)

[JimmyJazz]

16. Do not offer to show her your

underoos and I think you'll be okay. ;)

[amazona]

17. you know how you're supposed to respond

If you're interested in getting it on with the girl, take her to a private place and enjoy inspecting the undies she put on to impress you.

If you're not interested, take her home as soon as possible and don't invite her out again, because she is not looking for friendship here.

[mockmonkey]

19. I would respond with

I bet they aren't half as sexy as the ones my Grandma wears.

But thats just me.

[seriousstan]

21. Immediately pull over.

[skygazer]

26. "Wow, they sound very nice."

"I'd love to see them."

[blueknight]

27. you should have

immediately pulled over and gave her my number:evilgrin:

[Cuban_Liberal]

28. Courtesy call from Hornyville for Mr. HeyHey! Pick up the phone!

How do you respond??????

:P

[Skittles]

29. Good LORD HEyHEY

worrying about DETAILS again! I WILL KICK YOUR ASS.

[HEyHEY]

31. I can't help it - I alway sneed to be 100 per cent sure

It's a foible

[bettyellen]

36. no one is ever 100% sure about anything! ever!

so forget it dude... you can't predict the future... you may have a great fucking time and a day later think, holey shit this person is an asshole!! it happens!
at least you had some fun finding out!!
if you fucked this up, you better go buy her a pair of panties and press do over!
get back in there, you fool!

[yvr girl]

38. Are you still in town?

If so, report to Kits for a cuff up the back side of the head. Nothing in life is 100%, but that was pretty damn close.

[HEyHEY]

39. I'm still here!

Looking at Burrard inlet as we speak!

[yvr girl]

43. I can't reach you from there

Come and look at False Creek. I think I need to take you to Gotham for drinks and schooling in the ways of women. You always say the girls aren't interested. I think you need to learn how to read the signs.

[yardwork]

88. He thinks the girls aren't interested? You're wrong, HeyHey.

Any woman who mentions her underwear while alone with a man is sending an extremely blatant signal. That's as blatant as it gets, man.

[jandrok]

30. Well, unless you're wearing your "Shrek" briefs.....

.....and you don't want to be embarrassed, you might want to take her up on the offer.....

Then again, most ladies think "Shrek" is kinda cute. Could work out either way.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

35. Is this, like, an IQ test or something... "Yes, I'd like to see those!"

and back to her or your place.

Don't tell us your bionic circuits shorted out at the critical moment!

By the way, if this does not qualify as "100 percent sure thing" then I'm not sure what would... her tackling you, tying you up and having her way with you?

Her comments about your friends do not apply to the situation at hand...

Whadja do?

[HEyHEY]

37. Sat there and calculated what the hell she meant

[HEyHEY]

40. Wanna know the worst part?

Earlier in the night before we went to my friend's place, she kept trying to get me to go back to her apartment to "Feed her cat."

I kept saying "Nah, I'm gonna go home and eat and we'll meet up later"... but she was insistant and said "I can feed you at my place."

Hey, what can I say - I'm jaded.

[crispini]

48. Oh, boy. I wasn't gonna say anything, but now I *must* chime in--

could she be ANY more obvious? Uh, NO! (for a girl)

Some-body needs a sharp whack on the head with the clue stick. :P

[bettyellen]

50. Jaded? as in not that into her? or not in the mood?

feed the cat. that's a good one. i should use it even though my cat's died. kind of would remove any doubts that i was thinking of a cat! Lol! this could inspire a thread... would you like to come up and..... i have heard some good ones.
My gosh, if that girl gives you another chance, she's really going out on a limb. we can only take so much rejection, and we do buy into the thing that a guy is always ready and wanting, beacause it's true 90% of the time! jeeze, if you don't like her, tell her you are crushed on somebody else. stop teasing her!

[redqueen]

84. OUCH!

She must've felt so rejected!

[yardwork]

89. Ok, she thinks you hate her. Trust me on this.

The girl probably feels totally embarrassed and rejected right now. She put herself waaaaaay out on a limb and you turned her down.

If you are really interested in her, log off and pick up the phone this minute.

[Rabrrrrrr]

41. Sweet Jesus, man, you say YES! YES IN FACT I WOULD!!

YES! WHOLEHEARTEDLY!

[Guaranteed]

69. "Ray, if someone asks you if you're a god...."

:)

[Rabrrrrrr]

79. you say YES!"

Absolutely!

LOL!

[madison2000]

44. I believe thats the line Monica used about her thong underwear as

she and Bill were chatting in George Stephanopoulos' office at the end of the workday... the rest is history.

:evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin:

[JVS]

46. Let's get a view of them from the back seat, shall we?

is the proper response

[DS1]

47. work on seeing the inside

duh

[JVS]

49. Be gone foul temptress! My car shall be a place of transportation but ...

you have made it a den of harlotry!

[bettyellen]

51. i was going to say the backseat too, but it's canada and someones foot

could end up frozen to the window!

[yvr girl]

52. A. He's in Vancouver - not cold

B. That's what heaters are for.

[bettyellen]

53. okay, but i'm warning you, keep yer socks on!

[yvr girl]

55. Cars usually get steamed up

Viewing of undies causes temperatures to rise.

[bettyellen]

57. Once stuck to a car window, twice shy. Keeping my sox on over here.

I used to have a beau with three roomies in a studio. I had one roomie, nosy and really annoying. My toyota was our bedroom. Thank god every square inch of manhattan was not developed the way it is now... i thought it was kinda cool, becasue i never had that suburbia parking thing growing up.

[bettyellen]

56. Hey Hey, take Yver up on the schooling would ya! You are sending

women home needlessly fustrated. If ever there was a sure thing, you had it! Jeeze, just climb one foot out on a limb next time would ya please!

[yvr girl]

58. Ya - you're like the little brother I never had

The one I could torment...ahem....I mean help.

Let's just say I have some stuff from my older siblings I would enjoy paying forward.

[JVS]

59. The responses to this post show no indication of having read it

perhaps the intention was to respond to the earlier one

[bettyellen]

60. oh, i read the backseat part alright! that's what we are responding to.

me, anyway....

[HEyHEY]

67. Whore! WHore!

[hippiechick]

54. Do you WANT to see her undies ?

If so, I think the answer is obvious.

If it's truly an 'awkward' situation and you're not really that interested in her undies or their contents, then something along the line of 'I think I better keep my eyes on the road, lotsa crazy drivers out here today' or something would be appropro.


:hippie:

[bobo4u]

71. ...or their contents?

Did she poop her pants? I missed that part.

lol

[hippiechick]

77. I don't think it was actually the undies she wants him to see ...

so much as the Beaver in residence.



:hippie:

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

61. As others on the thread have said, the real question is, do you want her?

If so, then it was probably a mistake to not "go for it." The problem is, if you turn down a huge "green light" opportunity, it doesn't always present itself again.

The conditions that produced the mood she was in may not reoccur.

She may view your not seizing the opportunity she offered by throwing herself at you (ahem) personally, as a bit of an affront or insult, and this may "shut the door" in the future.

Or, if you ARE interested, and lucky, perhaps she really is attracted to you and will be forgiving even though you didn't accept her offer (which is what it sounds like from your replies), and maybe future opportunities will occur if you play your cards right.

[fluffernutter]

65. i think you're totally right, but he's probably just not that into her, or

he'd have been all over it since the combo of all the signals she was giving were pretty strong.

[SarahB]

63. You're being oblivious, sweetie.

She wants you!!! :D

[JohnKleeb]

64. Hmmmmmmm thats tough dude

I guess I would be like yeah sure lemme see.

[bettyellen]

74. point goes to kleeb. he's game. that's the first secret.

[HamdenRice]

66. Stop at the nearest minimart and buy some snacks ...

Tell her you have a craving. Then buy some pickels and donuts. Invite her to join you in this feast of pickels and donuts. See what her reaction is.

[OhioBlue]

68. just say of course. n/t

[SKKY]

70. I would first ask her how many other guys have seen them.

[bettyellen]

73. cause that always goes over so well......

[Radical Activist]

72. Hello! McFly!

She's hitting on you dipwad. Go for it!

[Fiona]

75. You say "snatch"

er.. I mean, "natch!" Show me! Then the delicate dance of the diddling begins.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

76. "delicate"?

pppfffftthhppp!!
:eyes:

[SweetLeftFoot]

78. It happened to me once

but I was REALLY wasted on pills and goey and got all freaked out and nervous.

[HEyHEY]

81. Did you puke on her?

[SweetLeftFoot]

107. Nah

But I never did end up riding her. My frigging loss I tell ya.

[redqueen]

82. Um, HEyHEY?

Are you freakin kidding us here?

She digs you! If you like her, you should respond, "Yes, please! I'd like to see them!"

I can't believe you're serious!

[HEyHEY]

85. It's a problem I can't seem to get past

It's like a curse. Once a girl flat out said "Let's go..NOW" and I didn't do a thing.

[redqueen]

87. Oh, no...

So... you just didn't like her? Gawds that would KILL me... I mean, I've been shot down before asking for dates but never an offer of sex (not that I've done that, but if I did, I would expect a yes!) That must've hurt!

[HEyHEY]

91. I didn't shoot her down...I just sat there like a dope

Worst part is...if I may be cheesy...I was and to a point still am so in love with that girl.

But, I missed my chance. The next day I tried to make up for it and got shot down. Ce'st la vie...she moved back to Mexico :-(

[redqueen]

93. Aww, that really sucks.

You'd think you'd learn something from that!

:spank:

;)

[Schema Thing]

95. I feel your pain...

Personally, I think I'm just a bit slow, lol. Seriously, it takes me a little time to process, and by the time I realize what she "really" said (because I'm just never quite ready to believe someone is as into me as I am into them), she feels rejected, or just impatient enough to say "to hell with him".

Very few second chances in Lady-Land, I've found.

[HEyHEY]

96. Yeah, what's with that anyway?

[Schema Thing]

99. Hell if I know

[HEyHEY]

97. Yeah, what's with that anyway?

[Schema Thing]

101. Heck if I know

clean version

[yardwork]

92. Hmmm. Maybe there's an underlying issue.

Are you sure you are attracted to women?

Are you not interested in casual sex?

Waiting for a long-term relationship with somebody you really care about?

None of the above are true, but you just feel really nervous around women?

[HEyHEY]

94. Truth of the matter.....

As a child I was treated like shit by the women in my life. My sisters and mother used to isolate me from the family, they were quite cruel. My Dad was always at work so...it was just me.
I get along with my sisters and mom now, but I'm constantly worried of rejection from women.

And almost every other experience I've had with women has not been positive. I never had a problem in Highschool... and I have tons of female friends. But I just can't seem to make any kind of "romantic" leap these days.

That sounded a bit too "cry-for_helpish" But I know the problem and you asked.

[yardwork]

102. I'm sorry that happened to you.

It sounds like your mother and sisters did a number on you. That sucks.

Try therapy. It will help you feel more confident. All kidding aside, there's no reason to sleep with somebody just because they come on to you. It's usually better to wait until you find the right person anyway. But if your past is keeping you from being with someone you really care about, that's a problem and one that you can do something about. Good luck to you! You seem like a very nice person and obviously women are attracted to you.

[HEyHEY]

103. Damn right they're attracted to me...how coudl they not be?

:evilgrin: ;-)

[bettyellen]

104. if it helps any, i would say you still have a good shot with this woman.

given that she gave you two strong openings, the cat feeding opportunity and the underwear episode she has got to be into you. so if you want another chance, when you see her again, say or do something thoughtful, no matter how small, drop into the conversation that you can be kinda clueless sometimes (so she is reassured she wasn't rejected- something you can empathise with, right?) and stick around till the bitter end with her that evening and you should be redeemed. inquire about her cat and whether it might be hungry if you are feeling courageous.
that said, a lot of guys are in your boat, we women are under increasing pressure to initiate things and it ain't easy for us either. i applaud her blatant flirtation and hope you reward it with some hey hey making soon!

[HEyHEY]

105. Well, it was kinda off gaurd - were' friends

But have only known each other about three months. So I was like "Huh?"

Thing is she lives in Vancouver - that's four hours away!

I think we'll remain friends...if I lived down there I'd probably go for it - she's funny as hell and I could see it working.

[bettyellen]

106. Well then, just keep my advice for next time!

and you know, sometimes you just gotta go for it and sweat the logistics later.
you never know ahead where it;s going to lead you or her. it's impossible to predict how or what you'll feel and what you're going to want to do about it a few months down the road. some guys chase tail 24/7 and we get so bored with that type, you know? they are like robots with women. rarely worth the bother. the more interesting guys are usually somewhat reserved. guess that's why i was rootin for you!

[MsAnthropy]

83. RUN!!! The last one who used that come-on was Monica Lewinsky!

IshIshIsh

[porkrind]

90. Are you serious?

Her intentions are obvious, the rest depends on if you like her or not.

[Dastard Stepchild]

98. First you roll your eyes...

because that's kind of a lame come-on. But, if she's cute and smart, you quickly forgive her and decide whether these are panties you would like to see.
Since the pantie moment has now long since past, and she is prolly feeling the fool, I'd let it go and take her out for coffee.

[bobweaver]

100. You respond, "I have to verify your age first."

[auburngrad82]

108. I usually wreck my car eom

[StopTheMorans]

109. what is "awkward" about this "situation"? i don't get it?

:shrug:

[WoodrowFan]

110. is it my wife?

Not with you, but if it were my wife asking ME that I'd drive a bit faster home.


If she WASN'T my wife, umm, how deep could I blush???? I'd say something like "thank you but I'm happily married" (after I finished saying the "um, ahh, doh, huh?? ummmmmmm, well, ahem"_

[JVS]

111. "If I see any skidmarks,you're out of this car" is a good response