I desperately need a new wardrobe

[arcane1]

and a new hairstyle too :P

Donations and advice are accepted :)

[spinbaby]

1. Male or female?

?

[arcane1]

2. male

so I suppse that means a male wardrobe? For the most part :P

[spinbaby]

4. We just did a makeover on DH

Took him to the Men's Wearhouse where he didn't have to know anything or make any decisions. They told him what to wear. Works out much better that way.

[arcane1]

5. that's cool

I'd need a trusted source though, esp one who would have to look at me afterwards

getting some good leads on the hair thing, though

[La Lioness Priyanka]

3. umm ok

i can tell you what you should get...just ask me...

buy your pants from express and your shirts from american apparal

dye your hair black...

[jonnyblitz]

6. YES!! black hair....

there is some cool black hair dye out there too. I use some that turns it black with red highlights..

[arcane1]

8. and eyebrows too :P

light brown isn't working for me?

I asked some friends about the black hair and they seemed to think it would be cool

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. dont color your eyebrows

[arcane1]

12. wouldn't that look weird?

:shrug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

15. no

[arcane1]

21. ok, if you say so

we shall see...

[La Lioness Priyanka]

24. i do say so

when was the last time i was wrong about something like this?

[arcane1]

25. this is the only thing like this I've heard you talk about

so nothing to compare it to

we should talk hair colour more often so I can have a baseline with which to judge :P

[noiretextatique]

11. ack,,,

:scared: don't do it :scared:

[Sanity Claws]

17. Seriously?

If you want the goth look, go ahead and dye your hair black. However, if you want to enhance your looks, don't deviate more than one shade (maybe two) from you natural hair color. Otherwise, your skin and eye color won't be compatible with you hair color.

As for style, a lot depends on age. Also have you thought about facial hair?

[arcane1]

19. yeah, once or twice a week I think about shaving

:P

so I have that lazy facial hair look today

[Sanity Claws]

23. Grooming and styling are two different things

Lazy facial hair is just poor grooming. The sloppy look is hardly becoming, certainly doesn't beckon to me.
Letting your facial hair grow to get a certain style is okay. However, once you reach the style you want, you must keep the facial hair groomed.


on edit -- this message sounded so harsh after re-reading it. Sorry, I didn't intend to sound mean. Please accept my apology.

[arcane1]

26. exactly why I don't have any most of the time

at work I don't care if I look like I haven't slept in days, but when leaving the house otherwise I'm always clean-shaven and pretty :)

never really saw myself as a beard guy

[Sanity Claws]

27. What about work?

Is there a reason you don't shave for work?

[arcane1]

30. yes

I don't get up early enough, and don't much care how I look when I'm there :P

[noiretextatique]

7. let's go shopping

:hi: as for hair...i suggest you consult an expert, cause i don't think you'd like my suggestion :7 i can definitely see you with a more sophistocated, yet still casual look...i'm thinking a nice leather jacket, nice sweater, great fitting jeans type of look.

[arcane1]

10. hey stranger

:hi:

Now I'm curious about the hair idea you have :P

[noiretextatique]

13. well...i'm thinking a slicked back type of look

without the greasy kid stuff...and keep the facial hair shadowy. i think you have the looks to pull off that kind of look.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. he can keep facial hair

so long as he never wants to be kissed!

[arcane1]

20. lmao

drink less, shave more, that's the formula :P

[arcane1]

18. not too bad then

it's long still, and most of the time it's pulled back anyway

but lately looks horrid when it's not pulled back :(

[MikeG]

16. Try to get on "What Not to Wear" on TLC.

[arcane1]

22. never saw it, but sounds like it was made for me

:)

[MikeG]

28. $5,000.00 for wardrobe and a hair makeover.

You need a friend to nominate you.

You have to pretend that you don't know.

[arcane1]

29. hmmm

why do I get the feeling they'd make me look silly? :P

[noiretextatique]

31. it's a great show, and you get $5,000 for a new wardrobe

plus a trip to NYC. as long as you don't mind being humiliated on national TV, it could work fine. i will nomiate you, if you like :7

[arcane1]

32. well, the humiliated on tv part scares me

I can do that easily enough in the privacy of my own home :silly:

though a trip to NYC is always good

[noiretextatique]

38. i think it would be less humilitaing to go shopping with me

:7 you should consult a GOOD hair stylist. i can recommend one for you, but there should be some good places in your area...and i'm not talking supercuts or those types of places. they can do maintenance, but you should pop for a real haircut to start.

[arcane1]

39. I need all the help I can get

I want to keep it long, and tie-back-able, but other than that I don't much care, as long as they don't try to make me look 18 :P

[noiretextatique]

43. let me know when you want to go shopping

seriously...i just bought a whole new wardrobe for myself using some tips i got from "what not to wear." and did i mention how *frugal* i am ...LOL. ROSS in walnut creek is a great place to start.

[arcane1]

44. cool

since I'm moving in a few weeks, I am a bit on the frugal side as well, but hopefully not for long!!! :D :D :D

[Sanity Claws]

33. Is there a reason you want to spruce up your looks?

Some people like to do that when they just to feel good about themselves. My experience is that men tend to do that when they are ready to look for a relationship.

What's your story? It may affect the answers you get.

[arcane1]

35. well I'm running out of clothes for one thing

and the hair thing is an on-going process... been trying to decide on that forever, grew it back out but never got around to actually doing anything with it

[Sanity Claws]

41. What to do with your hair

You have to remember that your hair has a certain texture (silky or coarse) and curliness (stick straight, wavy, curly) so you are limited in what you can do. You should consult with a stylist to find out what you can do with your hair and still have it easy to care for. Since you don't like to spend the time to shave in the morning before work, you may want to get a hair style that really does not need a lot of upkeep or time to blow into a certain style.

As for clothes, pick up a few magazines, go to a few hot night spots and maybe a few nice day events and see what the guys are wearing. Get some ideas from the people you see.

[arcane1]

42. good advice!

I'm definitely a wash & go kind of person, and fortunately my hair has never needed styling no matter how it was cut. Been trying to squeeze opinions from friends, too, since they are the ones who'll have to look at me :P

[jonnyblitz]

34. whatever you decide, don't go for the mullet!

trust me on this. :P

[arcane1]

36. you don't have to tell me!

I know all too well! :P

[DulceDecorum]

37. Advice

No bling.
No Burberry check either - unless you don't mind being called a chav.

[arcane1]

40. thanks

advice taken! :toast: