My Teenager is having a bad day

[shesemsmom]

she got herself grounded through Friday , yesterday for a smart mouth. She called me after school worried about a meeting with her teacher, and now she is having a ugly fight on the phone with her sweet boy friend that once I entered the room to remind her that she shouldn't talk like that and she shouldn't say things she might regret later. Ugh.......... teens are a joy!!!!!!!:wtf:

[Rabrrrrrr]

1. Wow. She IS having a bad day.

I'd take her a bowl of ice cream or other nice treat into her room

(or, for those who worry that it might train her to think of food as a form of therapy and thus cause an eating disorder, come up with something else, a little gesture, that let's her know you love her and don't want her ENTIRE day to suck).

[shesemsmom]

3. Right now she is still bawling into the phone

I don't think I'll go back in there for a while

[HEyHEY]

2. Break her toys!

[shesemsmom]

4. I think we decided that was wrong to handle discipline that way

[JVS]

5. If she is going to say bad things on the phone, the phone must perish!

[shesemsmom]

I though about that but after I called her down her mouth became calmer.

She's just like her Dad doesn't handle stress well.

[Rabrrrrrr]

6. ROTFL!!

No, if she's swearing on the phone, you need to smash her CD player!

It has to be unrelated!

[shesemsmom]

10. I only have the urge to smash that when I hear the music that comes

from it:spank: :wow: :nuke:

[Rabrrrrrr]

13. If you're angry about the CD player thing, then you have to punish

her by burning her sheets.

[shesemsmom]

14. I see

you only do it if it doesn't really apply right

[HEyHEY]

15. And make her sleep outside

[Rabrrrrrr]

17. Yep - I was gonna sugges that, too.

[shesemsmom]

19. I don't think she would mind that on a warm night

but tonight it is a bit fridgid

[Rabrrrrrr]

20. Actually, it would be better if you waited a couple months before

adding the sleeping outside punishment. You want to get the punishment as far away, timewise, from the crime as you can. Well, not all the punishment - just part of it.

You gotta keep her hopping, so she's always wondering when she might get punished AGAIN for something she's already been punished for.

That way, she'll definitely never do anything bad ever again.

[shesemsmom]

21. That might be a good idea

except she tells me now, she can't seem to make us proud, she can't do anything right at school and she thinks that she and the boy friend are about to break up. Cripes I feel bad.

[HEyHEY]

9. LOL!

[Pirate Smile]

7. Well, today is supposed to be the worst day of the year.

[shesemsmom]

11. I believe that

it has been a shitty day all around

[Pirate Smile]

24. Here is the article. You could give it to her, it might make her feel

better if she could laugh about it. Hopefully, she hasn't caused much damage with the Boyfriend and stuff.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6847012

Jan. 24 called worst day of the year
British psychologist calculates ‘most depressing day’



LONDON - Is the midwinter weather wearing you down? Are you sinking in debt after the holidays? Angry with yourself for already breaking your New Year's resolutions? Wish you could crawl back under the covers and not have to face another day of rain, sleet, snow and paperwork? Probably. After all, it's Jan. 24, the “most depressing day of the year,” according to a U.K. psychologist.

Dr. Cliff Arnall's calculations show that misery peaks Monday.

Arnall, who specializes in seasonal disorders at the University of Cardiff, Wales, created a formula that takes into account numerous feelings to devise peoples' lowest point.

The model is: x TQ
M x NA

The equation is broken down into seven variables: (W) weather, (D) debt, (d) monthly salary, (T) time since Christmas, (Q) time since failed quit attempt, (M) low motivational levels and (NA) the need to take action."

Some of the stuff wouldn't apply to a kid but then they have their own stressful things happening.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

8. Be ready with a hug and a tissue

It's about all we can do in a situation like that. Poor girl.

[shesemsmom]

12. Tissues and shoulder standing by.....

[shesemsmom]

16. It is getting really quiet in there

I think I'll go have a listen brb

[shesemsmom]

18. She's not sobbing or talking

she's listening to him now. I guess thats a good sign

[shraby]

22. Get her some Midol, she probably has pms.

[shesemsmom]

25. She has some and yes it could be

[Corgigal]

23. this hasn't been my teenaged

girl's year. You want to do a trade ?

[shesemsmom]

26. I don't know I think when she comes back in fromtalking to the boy friend

she gonna ned her mom,,, maybe in a couple of days lol

[EC]

27. Sometimes just talking can help, don't ask what's wrong, or anything

just small talk, and eventually if she wants to talk about what is really bothering her she'll bring it up. About the time my daughter turned 15 or so, we started this ritual, where every night, we would meet in the living room just to watch one particular program that we both liked (then it was Grace, then as she got older it became Letterman), with a cup a sleepytime tea, pretty soon she would start talking about whatever bothered her during the day...I didn't really offer advise, just asked her leading questions, to let her solve it her own way...we did this until she was about 28 and moved out, but she still looks to me to talk things through now...

[shesemsmom]

28. I'm trying but right now she feels like shes failing at everything. School

life work, home boyfriend. She says she cant do anything right.

[EC]

29. Let her know everybody feels like that once in a while

and not to let it bother her, it'll pass. And of course you're proud of her for caring about how feel, but it's not about you.

[ultraist]

30. 28???

You let your daughter live at home until she was 28? My mother packed my bags when I was 18 and said, 'college or an apt, if you choose apt, you pay,' I chose college.

[EC]

31. My husband died when she was 18

I wasn't ready to become an empty nester and hated dating...Let her stay while in college and until she got settled in her profession...