P.S. Regarding "gaydar"

[Bluebear]

Oxford dictionary: the ability of one gay person to recognize another.


Miss Spinsterelli says so.

[JohnKleeb]

1. ha then what does one call a hetero's ability?

:shrug: because I have the worstest.

[Bluebear]

2. I dunno.....

I guess thinkin' that some magic radar exists to ferret out someone's sexuality doesn't exist, or leads people to dangerous or inconvenient conclusions! Be glad yours is bad, it means you take time to get to know someone as a whole person without assuming!

Course that's why you're so cool. :toast:

[JohnKleeb]

3. Well yeah I do pride myself on it

WHAT, WAYLON SMITHERS IS GAY?
NU-UH
true story :).

[chookie]

4. Always wondered about this

I had a gay friend (from another country --- a European country) visit me in FL. Tall, good looking man. Nothing striking about him, otherwise.

I took him to Cape Canaveral, because i thought it would be cool for him to see the rockets, etc.

What astounded me was that, as ordinary as he seemed, he kept turning heads -- of MEN!

They didn't seem to be obviously gay men, but mullet types -- and they were fascinated with him. Was it -- "gaydar"?

He was with me, a female blonde babe -- but they all seemed to pay WAY more attention to him than to me. It was , uh, interesting.

Another time he was on a highway in FL with a male friend of mine, and was chased at high speed by some mullet types who tried to run them off the road. Bizarre.

[Bluebear]

5. I had a black friend visit me in New Hampshire

This was about 20 years ago when NH was extremely lily white. My friend was a tall regal black woman with a skin color that was dark beyond belief. Well, we went to the mall and you should have seen people. It was as if a Martian had landed. She just swept through gracefully and noted their reaction...

When I travel to Japan I get the same reaction. One woman actually giggled and wanted to touch my eyebrows...

Maybe your friend 'looks' or dresses very European? I think people are naturally curious about people in their midst who are 'different'. Too bad it sometimes ends with the run off the road scenario you describe. :hi:

[chookie]

6. No -- not out of place dress-wise

Well, I dunno -- he wore a pink t-shirt that had a green snake on it, and jeans. This does not scream " GAY! GAY! GAY!" to me.

I am tall, blonde, and brightly blue eyed, truly the archetypal "Nazi". Wherever I travelled, and in FL, with Caribbean people, I was constantly teased. I got "Seig Heil!"s whereever I went. No one ever meant it to be mean -- they were just teasing me. Though my family has been in American since the 1860s, I have to explain that my German father actually fought against Hitler, etc....

As for my friend -- i don't think he looks out of the ordinary -- only a good looking tall slim white man of good grooming, wearing a t-shirt perhaps of unusual color. How people, possibly, picked up on his gayness is still mysterious to me, or I would not have posted this anecdote.

[Bluebear]

7. Who can tell eh?

Maybe, just maybe one day we won't have these experience...nah, not as long as there are human beings. :shrug:

[eShirl]

8. "...he wore a pink t-shirt that had a green snake on it, and jeans. This

...does not scream " GAY! GAY! GAY!" to me."

You're kidding, right? ;)