Workplace bully sabotaging me.

[Darth_Kitten]

Ouch!

My office bully (my immediate "supervisor", ah hem, with seniority comes "rights") :eyes: is up to her old tricks again, has been after me for the last, oh, almost 7 years. :eyes:

Some of my work has gone "missing". Items I have to give to other people to do(part of their jobs) have gone missing. Oh, how junior high and immature. (she hates me because one day in 1998 I and a co-worker went to our real supervisor about the fact she and one of her friends were banking overtime for no reason. I guess she found out I was there and she has been relentless for 7 years. Yes, 7 years.) :(

This is what this pathetic woman does. Work goes "missing", she once "found" work "hidden" in my desk, I'm "aggressive" towards her, I'm a "thief", etc, etc. She caused major damage to me over the years, that is what bullies do. :( She is STILL trying to undermine me (after a few years in another part of the department, I am presently back "under" her)
She hates that I'm smart and have always seen through her games. She gets new people (the ones who aren't very swift) on her side against me, she sabotages or TRIES to sabotage my work (I'm on to her) and she's a conniving bully to boot. She thinks she's so smart but quite frankly she is very dumb, is hated by all the old timers there, and likes to "cheat" the system. She is also LONG overdue for retirement (she's done nothing for close to 30 years, goodbye if you cannot contribute!!)

I guess her plan is to try to ruin me before she goes. :eyes: Some people need a life.

Thanks for letting me rant. :)

[RetroLounge]

1. Invite her out to lunch

and then beat the crap out of her in the parking lot.

After 7 years, geez, ya gotta put an end to it.

just a thought...

RL

[Darth_Kitten]

2. Sometimes when I walk behind her in the halls......

I want to take a running leap on her back and pound away at her head.

But I'm not a violent person. :)

[RetroLounge]

18. Me neither, but that's a great image, leap, pound, enjoy!

:hi:

RL

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. That just sucks, Darth. If it helps, I will think evil thoughts about her

all night long. Shame on her for never "growing up". :hug:

[Darth_Kitten]

7. I just want her to leave me be......

she's a vindictive monster.

Thanks! :)

[Blue Gardener]

4. I used to have a co-worker like that

And she was a habitual liar to boot. I outlasted her. She finally quit because she didn't like the workplace environment anymore. Funny, the environment got much more pleasant after she left.

[politicaholic]

5. It sounds like you need to move on...

You need to apply for a higher possition with the competition or related field.

Keep good repore with her superiors even after leaving.

When she retires you can either apply for her job or keep the one you have.

The best slap in the face is to compete against her, win, and force the company to brush her aside out of necessity.

[Darth_Kitten]

11. Where I am it's all about seniority.....

and it's hard to move into a better job. Funny huh?

Thing is there's a part of me that is just waiting to outlast her, I will stand my ground.

:) She will not win.

[slackmaster]

6. Steal her stapler and hide it where she'll never find it

:evilgrin:

[cornermouse]

8. I believe I'd be looking for a new job if it was me. .

You know, lower blood pressure, less stress, happier and longer life.

[HEyHEY]

9. Kick her ass

[sendero]

20. Hey...

.. somebody has to fill in for Skittles :)


But then, those kinds of situations are really taxing. I would fantasize about ways to sabotage her job, you know - making her work disappear, planting contraband in her desk and phoning in an anonymous tip, or maybe just pouring a gallon of cheap syrup in her desk drawers.

But I wouldn't actually do any of those :)

[AlCzervik]

10. you should put something about her in the hiding spot

you could go one of two ways...1. something really nasty about her or 2. something really nice and shame her. A little note that says she's a nice person.

[onecent]

12. I worked in an office where there was just such a person. She

didn't like women and had the men in her back pocket.

It was hell...I mean hell....so I definitely feel for you. Sometimes evil people like this can come out smelling like a rose even though most of the employees cannot stand her. I never did understand that. I'm retired now thank god - but she is still there taunting everyone..pretends she's your friend, then won't speak for months at a time.

Sometimes I would come home in tears.(and I was NOT the only person to come home in tears).

All I can say is I believe "what goes around, comes around"...just hope you are around when she gets hers.

Good luck

[patdem]

13. Happened to me too...only she ended up being fired because she

overstated sales in order to get bonuses for her and others...I laughed when that happened. Others told me to be careful because she wanted to stab me in the back..and she did...but she had no ammo...I was a pure as driven snow when she tried to trash me. Hope you survive that trashing...and she is found out for what she is! :grr:

[Wapsie B]

14. So sorry to hear that.

It just amazes me as to who is given promotions into positions of authority. I've always been told to get along and be a team player. Then I see so many with absolutely poison personalities move up the ladder.

[bettyellen]

15. This is a great book for coping with nutcases on the job... it's an

....encyclopedia of different types of crazy co-workers divided by rank (underling, peer, boss) and the very specific things they are doing to drive you nuts. it gives you an idea of what the hell they are thinking, and if possible strategies to defuse the situation and turn it into something productive maybe.
it's facinating, i have worked with a lot of neurotic to psychopathic people and they are all in this book. most of the fashion industry is in this book.

when is this chick going to retire?
godammit you're more patient than me.
you poor baby, i really feel for you.


Working With Difficult People
by Muriel Solomon


http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0139573909/ref=ase_cinchousecom/002-2017438-5534428?v=glance&s=books

[Richard Steele]

16. This sounds silly, BUT:

Start being NICE to her; treat her like she is the BEST damn friend you ever had. Birthday cards, lunch invites, tell everyone around how GREAT she is...the whole 9 yards.

She will EAT HER OWN LIVER trying to figure you out; it will make her go absolutely BugFuck CRAZY!

I tried it once, and I thought it was a silly tactic...but it worked so well it SCARED me! I would never do it so casually ever again.

[Phentex]

17. Make extra copies of anything you give to someone

else if that's possible. I don't know what kind of things go missing, but if it's paperwork, you can keep an extra set.

[SoCalDem]

19. Techniques for "curing" office bullies

"Kill her with kindness".. If you know when her birthday is, YOU be the one who organizes the "festivities"..Say nice things about her IN PUBLIC, when there are lots of people around to hear it..

KEEP A JOURNAL..DAILY.. note all the trivial, as well as the obnoxious stuff..KEEP IT IMPERSONAL, because it may be your Ace in the Hole someday if she really tries to oust you..

Especially keep track of when you finish a project or prepare work to give to another employee..Jot it down on your calendar...with its location.. If she asks about it, you can just say... ahh well..things have been "disappearing lately", and let it go at that..

If you get one on one time with someone above her, slyly turn the conversation to things that involve her, and THEN make a casual reference to how "worried" and "concerned" you are about her, and how you don't "know", but she seems "distracted" or "preoccupied" lately..

Those "republican words" could make HER someone they will start to watch.. :evilgrin:

In otherwords.. C Y A :)

[MrScorpio]

22. You, my friend has just giver her words to live by

Good advice

[SoCalDem]

24. My son had a similar situation and that's the same advice I gave him

My son is now a six-figure exec with about 100 people under him..the guy who bullied him ended up getting "laid off" about a year into the bullying incident.. And when they were about to lower the boom on him, they DID ask my son how he was to work for...out came the notebook.. They were impressed with my son's foresight and attention to detail, and that's when he started "up the ladder"..:evilgrin:

[KG]

21. you could always move to FL, where you got friends that would look

out for ya....

[sasquatch]

23. Challenge her to a Hockey fight!

:evilgrin:

[TheCentepedeShoes]

25. Put dog poop under her desk

Someone did that to an old boss of mine, a guy who was being a real jerk to alot of employees so I have know idea who did it (and no, it wasn't me):D He got it all over his shoes when he sat down. He thought he'd tracked it in from outside but that made no sense, there would have been a trail of poop from the door to the desk. And the part he didn't step in was in a nice neat pile.

[Darth_Kitten]

26. Thanks everyone for the feedback.....

I'm going to honestly think it all over and see how I can apply it to my work situation. :evilgrin: ;)

:hi: You guys are great! :D