As a teenager it's my job to completely annoyed with my mother right?

[RevolutionaryActs]

I can't help it.

I mean I do love her, but crap, sometimes she annoys the hell out of me. :crazy:

[rawtribe]

1. Yes...

Just do what comes natural, without being cruel.

[John Q. Citizen]

2. Do you ever annoy the hell out of her????

just wondering

[RevolutionaryActs]

4. Well of course, I'm a teenager!

Duh! :P

[John Q. Citizen]

17. Then hopefully you will both be as kind and loving towards each other

as you can be, given the circumstances. :)

[RevolutionaryActs]

21. Of course, we're not mad at each other.

I'm just like "ugh" :eyes: and she's like "don't act that way!"

It's actually funny. :D

[John Q. Citizen]

22. Sounds like all concerned might survive....or even thrive!

It's been done before...

In The Book of the SubGenius, they say,

"We should balance the boring rigid good sense of the Old with the snotty, insolent, originality of the Young."


I don't know if that helps but I think it's funny.

[Not_Giving_Up]

3. Yes

Any teenager who isn't annoyed by their mother is destined to never want to move out and grow up. It's a rite of passage!

[pres2032]

5. yup, that is definitely a teenager's job

heh, college is placed perfectly in the life of a teenager: right before the kid and the parents rip eachothers' hair out.

[WindRavenX]

6. heh, only before?

They continue to rip their hair out once they get my tuition bill :D

[pres2032]

8. heh, true true

[Jamastiene]

7. That's normal

isn't it? I mean I am 34 and still can't communicate with my mother. I'm still not allowed to hug her. All sorts of stuff. I thought it was normal. :think:

[SoCalDem]

9. She still "sees" you as her little round-headed baby

With any luck you will both be "best pals" in a few years, but for now, nature has designed you to be belligerent and her to be "on your case"..

If nature did not make teens "impossible to live with", parents would have a difficult time "letting them go".. nature makes babies with cute little round heads and wide-set eyes...so vulnerable that we cannot help but love and want to protect them...When your parents look at you they still see that little round head and those big eyes.. They know in their brains that you are not a baby, but their hearts will not let you endanger yourself..

When teens get to be their MOST obnoxious, there must be a release of some chemical in the parental brain.. That chemical says "Mom, Dad.. you are almost out of "teaching time" with this kid... better step it up a notch"..

the thing that kids don't know about their parents is this: We have been where you ARE, but you have not been where WE are.. We know the pitfalls and even though you have to make your own mistakes, we are afraid that you might not survive those mistakes..

The years from 13-18 are very tough years, but you will look back in a few years and see the reason for all that angst..

[WatchWhatISay]

10. Its your job to be annoyed

Just as it is her job to annoy you.

Just as it is your job to annoy her.

Just as it is her job to be annoyed by you, and love you anyway.

Wait till things cool off a bit, and tell her whats on your mind.

And listen to what is on hers, and think about how that feels for her.

[RevolutionaryActs]

19. Ahhhh how very true that is.

That's why I'm annoyed with her, because she's annoyed with me, but I didn't do anything. She's just sick and cranky. Which is why I shouldn't be annoyed with her, but I didn't do anything! D'oh.

[ashling]

11. No

I'm not saying that it is totally unnatural, but it doesn't have to be like that.

[rawtribe]

14. I've seen it often

enough to know that 99.99% of the time it does have to be like that.

Sorry.

[ashling]

23. I vehemently disagree

I am not saying that it is not like that a large percentage of the time - though I would disagree as to your 99.99%.

I too have seen it. However, I am also aware of exceptions to his "rule."

In answer to the original question, it does not HAVE to be that way, and it is certainly not the teenagers "job." That's just ridiculous.

[Yupster]

12. There's an old saying that a young man once said

When I was 17, my father was the biggest moron in the world.

When I visited him 10 years later I was surprised at how much wiser he had become.

[JohnKleeb]

13. umm thats natural

My mom is annoying and was teasing me for my preferenced in dark haired girls the other day at the wake, I was like damnit ma, you know who I like, youve seen my desktop, and no y'all its not a nude picture, I have some class.

[RevolutionaryActs]

15. hehe That's the problem with parents, they how just how to tease you

and they do it! lol

[JohnKleeb]

16. She was acting like a goddamn valley girl

ha, no wonder why my dad's friend's dad was astounded that she's old enough to be my mom.

[RevolutionaryActs]

18. lol your mom sounds silly.

:)

[JohnKleeb]

20. shes often not honest

A little too serious about her work sometimes but can be a nice person.

[Liberal In Texas]

24. No more than a teenager acting immaturely. Which you seem to be.

It's a funny thing about growing up. We think we are so able to deal with stuff. But then a mother pisses us off and we act like total jerks.

One of the things you will eventually grow into, is maturity. With that will come more tolerance and acceptance of those who live around you.

This is pretty much why I preach that people should not get married or into serious relationships until they are well into their 20's or even 30's.

As you get older, you will find that your annoyance with your mom was probably based in a hormone kind of frenzy or some restlessness to "get out there" and do something.

With age and a little more level view of the world, you'll find that her views and yours aren't that much opposed.

You might even find yourself defending her in some conflicting situation.

As always, if you get pissed off at a family member, it's best to sit back, take a few breaths and approach the problem from another tack. She might be totally alien, or way off base, but it might serve your better interests to calm down, nod your head, and even think about where she might be coming from.

At the end of the day, family, always is the one thing you will have all of your life.

OK, it's old foggier advice. But think about it.

<preaching off>

[Left Is Write]

25. As the mother of a teenager, I say

Go to your room!



















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[RevolutionaryActs]

26. LOL!! I am in my room hehe

:P

And don't try to take away my computer, I bought it myself. :7

[Left Is Write]

27. Yeah, but

I might revoke your computer privileges if you don't clean up that science experiment you call a bathroom.


Oh...wait...I thought I was talking to my own daughter for a second. ;)

[RevolutionaryActs]

29. bwhahahaha

:P

[JohnKleeb]

28. well, well go check your PM!