Waaaah My childhood bedroom has been turned into a cheapass kitchen

[bettyellen]

i just went up for a visit with Mom and to calm down her caregiver who was crying and ready to quit again because my aunt insults and threatens her.
for some reason my aunt decided to have a sink installed 6" away from the wall and put a fridge in my old room with the clothes bureau. granted, she hates me, and I don't want the room back by any means.but now we have flooding in the basement and no one who lives there needs or wants this sink. and this is the second mysterious flood this year. i swear mold is going to start bubbling up the sairs from the basement.
i'm trying to figure out what crazy shit she is planning becasue she is very devious and always has an angle. but i am stumped. my brother has no clue why she did it, he said she must have explained but that he wasn't listening. but god, i didn't know anybody sold appliances this dinky. they were both dented. that's the kind of shit my aunt does, sneak a hammer into best buys, and damage the model of her choice, which would be severely low end if it wasn't for herself, and negotiate another 40% off. seriously, she used to take a washable marker into jc penneys with her, too.
what a freak show my god.
i'll have to call her from the office and ask WTF when i remind to keep her mitts off of my mom's helpers. :scared:

[1monster]

1. Cheer up. At least it is still there. My childhood bedroom was torn down

about five years ago to make more room for a dude ranch. That house was over a hundred years old...

[miss_kitty]

2. my grandma's place was turned into a razor-wired parking lot

for a plumbing company. Which it sounds like you could use right now. Have you considered or looked into limiting access to your mother by your aunt? Sounds as if her interference may be endangering the welfare of your mom.

[bettyellen]

3. i have had to limit her access to the doctors and also the lawyers when

we were working out her living will, health care proxy, will, etc.
she would call them up and say my mom had changed her mind and they should be written differently. she'd lie to doctors about my mom's behaviour to try and get them to change her meds to suit what she read in the globe that week. she's a weird controlling woman, who believes she has good intentions, and then bad comes of it. i think she's jealous because my mom was always more popular than her.
she actually put my mom in the wheelchair in the first place. and that was a few years after i had already stopped speaking to her becasue of screwing around with the will and the meds.
what the hell is she doing making a kitchen? i can't figure out her scheme unless she expects we'll rent it.

[miss_kitty]

4. that's too bad

It's awful, in fact. Your aunt and her shit are probably the last things you need to have deal with right now. How did she get clearance to alter a house that is not hers?

I am truly sorry to hear you have to deal with her shit.

[bettyellen]

5. she has keys, always has.

it's a weird situation, she's hyperactive and misguided and controlling, but she's also over 70 and is pretty good at playing the pity card when she wants. you want to know how weird it's always been, she used to plan our vacations-- book us into some smelly swamp campground on the edge of the pinelands and set up the camper and tents pretty much all by herself. she would refuse any help and whine about it and hold it over your head forever. she does a lot for people, but expect to be up in their business and for them to live by her rules 100%. she is my double aunt- my mom's sister who married my father's brother. the room she redid in my mom's house used to be her kitchen a very long time ago, way before i was born. maybe that has something to do with it.
she's big on deception, and has caused a certain amount of estrangement between my brothers and i. they just yes her to death and don't really listen toher because she has a high pitched voice and goes on and doesn't give you a chance to talk. so she says awful things about me and says they came out of my brother's mouths. my brothers were pretty upset with me when i cut her off, because then she'd call them everyday instead of me. LOL. she used to call me 4-5 times a week and just screech at me nonstop that every single thing i did was wrong and i was a crap daughter. she doesn't like my mother's caregivers because it was me that hired them. she tells them she's their boss although it's not coming out of her pocket. she actually expected me to move back with my mom and be a full time care giver. i got a lot of grief over that, too.
i just got off the phone with her and got no where. she insists the caregivers are not cooking for her, which i have seen them do every time i go up there and also that i haven't been there in six months. it's been 5 weeks. the caregivers do not discuss my visits with her because they dislike her because she is nosy and hateful.
it has been really hard not calling her on the fact that she put my mom in a wheelchair, because if it had been the other way around, i would never hear the end of it. never.
my mom'd doctor said she is psychopathic based on letters and email i sent him after i refued to be on the phone with her. damn, she's a pit bull. i wish she would chill out. i don't want to have to replace people who've done a damned good job for almost three years now. they weren't so easy to find in the first place.
aaggggrrrrrh. i'm a fool, i shouldn't have called her. that really screwed up my head. if i believed 1/2 of what she said, i'd be pretty angry with my brothers. as it is i'm pissed off they don't ever defend me. too much trouble to actually listen to what she's saying.

[miss_kitty]

8. I am so sorry

I had a gramma like that, except for the 'doing stuff for others' part. She was too lazy. Now my sister is sounding like your aunt.

If you wanted to toast her buns-go to family court, get a TRO (she's possibly endangering your mom's welfare) and change the locks.:evilgrin:

[libnnc]

6. my mom turned mine into a big closet...

how many pairs of shoes does a 64 year old woman need? :eyes:

[bettyellen]

7. awww, i'm sorry.

i just had to rant about my freaky family. it's been a bit fractured since the accident. mom would not be happy if she was aware of the strain between us all. she's a peaceful person.