Apparently many guys think today is about $$$. DU ladies, what say you?

[redqueen]

Poll question: Apparently many guys think today is about $$$. DU ladies, what say you?

And on edit, if you vote for choice 1 or 2, please prove you're not a guy freeping this poll and admit it!

[MissMillie]

1. Even giving your TIME is enough

It's about the expression of love, and that never costs a thing.

[redqueen]

2. Exactamundo.

No. 4 is my answer.

[RagingInMiami]

8. Let's face it, women want to be "romanticized' on V-Day

And most women will most likely not be satisfied with a poem dedicated to them.
They like to be wined and dined, not necessarily cause they want the man to spend loads of money, but they want to have a special night that is different from the usual.
They also like flowers sent to their work, not cause it means the man is spending money, but because it shows their co-workers that they were not forgotten about on V-Day.
It's almost like a competition among the women.
If a man goes through the trouble of cooking a meal at his home for the women, as I have done several times in the past, it is even more impressive.
But that also takes money.

[redqueen]

10. Sorry, RIM, but to me 'romanticized' != spending money

I would LOVE a poem. Flowers are nice, but cheesy and effortless... essentially meaningless, IMO.

And if you're gonna cook for yourself, how much more $$$ do you have to spend to feed your SO? That's just bizarre... resenting even that little outlay of cash.

[RagingInMiami]

14. Look, RQ

I don't mean to come across as so cynical, cause I'm not. When I'm involved with someone, I don't mind spending the money and doing these things, but it can be stressful cause as a guy, I want it all to work out well.
It's not as stressful once you're in a long-term relationship and know the person well, but I'm talking about someone you just started seeing.
And I don't resent the little outlay of cash when I cook for women. I do it all the time cause I love cooking, but on V-Day, I always make it a point to make the meal a little more extravagent. I always include good wine. There is always the stress that I might fuck up the meal.
So my point with my original thread is that I'm glad I'm not currently involved with someone cause ever since breaking off my latest LTR last year, I've dated several women, but none that really caught my attention. I'm glad I am not seeing any of those women now cause I would be in an ackward position because I wouldn't want to go overboard on V-Day to send the wrong message, but I would also know I just can't ignore it either.

[redqueen]

18. It's no biggie, really. But you do sound VERY cynical.

As for me, the MOST heartfelt Valentine's Day gift I ever gave anyone I was ever involved with was a homemade card.

So... :shrug:

Also, might you be trying to hard? If you're intent is just to make them happy, that's great... but shouldn't you do that by being yourself? If you screw up the dinner, you never know... that might work. Ever seen Annie Hall?

Best of luck to ya, guy... really. :hug:

[bettyellen]

28. i hate the flower in the office phenom..... you're right women

here are very competative about it. to be honest i don't like a lot of my coworkers enough to let them in my business. LOL. i don't need the questions that comes with the attention.

[Tyrone Slothrop]

46. Well, there are meals and then there are MEALS

I spent over $100 last year making dinner for my (now ex)GF and I.

Luckily, I didn't resent it at all. It was one of the best meals I'd had in a very long time.

;-)

[redqueen]

47. Aww that's sweet.

But honestly, if 'my man' was broke or screwed up his original meal plan, and just made me macaroni and cheese, just the effort would have said everything. :)

:hi:

[Misunderestimator]

11. Wow.... VD is a competition among women about who gets more stuff...

Learn something new every day.... I had NO idea. I guess I better call my girl and tell her I was just lying when I insisted that she spend no money on this manufactured, capitalistic day. And gee, I guess she'll be insulted since all I gave her is my love.

Sheesh... They like this, They like that, They like to compete, They like to be wined and dined... I think that your impression of all women has been negatively influenced somewhere along the way.

[RagingInMiami]

15. Maybe I'm drawn to those type of women, which probably explains

why I'm still single at the age of 36.

[Misunderestimator]

17. :)

[Lilith Velkor]

41. So are a lot of men.

I tell myself that's why I'm still single at the age of 36.

Because all I *really* want is some cunnilingus, y'know?

[hfojvt]

34. Time, good lord, that is the most precious commodity ever

you know how little of that there is on the open market?

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. All I want are MrG's arms around me at about 4:30 PM.

I got him a bag of his favorite Reese's cups.

And then, every year, the kids and I research a different place and make our dining room into that place. A little vacation. I make food from recipes we get on the internet. This year we're "going to" Mexico!! Ole' and Happy Valentine's Day!!! :hi:

[redqueen]

5. Aww that's so cute!

What a great idea! Thanks & Happy Valentine's Day to you as well. :hi:

[blm]

4. After dropping off 4yo baby blm at school....

mr. blm and I spent the morning with coffee and a horror movie in bed.

GOOD Mornin', Good MORNIN"

[redqueen]

7. Woohoo!

Have you seen "The Eye"?

:scared:

[havocmom]

6. Havocdad does romantic things all through the year.

He doesn't need to fuss about Valentine's Day, but he does that too

Today, a cow was delivered along with some of my favorite flowers (NOT roses).

The other night, a long back rub... just because. No ulterior motives at all.

Every phone call to me ends with "I love you" and every time he goes out the front door, the same, but with a kiss thrown in.

No, he doesn't have to shell out $$ for a particular day. He takes care of our relationship every day. I am a lucky ol woman!

[redqueen]

9. Sounds like you're very lucky indeed!

I'm happy for both of you. :hi:

I've often thought those women married to men who think all they have to do to show they care is buy something now and then have it worse than I do, even.

[Skittles]

12. guys, if you feel pressured to spend big money

ask yourself what you are doing with this materialistic 'ho

[redqueen]

21. Or ask her what she's all about...

could be a case of mistaken impressions /assumptions.

[Beaverhausen]

13. My sweet baboo is being so attentive this year

Probably because last year's VD was a fiasco and we broke up in April but have recently reunited...and it feels sooooooooooo goooooooooood!!!

It really isn't about how much he spends...its the thought he gives.

[redqueen]

22. Awwww!

I'm so happy for you both. :hi:

[Beaverhausen]

32. There was a time when I thought I'd be alone forever

and was regretting that my sweetie and I didn't really give our relationship the chance it deserves.

but we hung in there and now we are happier than ever.

If I can do it anyone can.

Here is a Valentine's hug for you Redqueen :hug:

[pdx_prog]

16. When I was married

my x insisted that I send flowers from the florist to her place of work. Nothing else would do. It was all about being seen getting something.....the sentiment didn't matter......never did...

[redqueen]

24. Wow... glad she's your ex.

:(

[bettyellen]

30. yuck. the nicest thing i rec'd, aside from the epic poem

....that is kinda impossible to top, was a roll of dimes, post it notes, and an object to be named later. all of which i really wanted.

[greatauntoftriplets]

19. Considering the inhuman hours my guy has been working ....

i.e., seven days a week....and that we are in different cities....and that he came home last night to several days worth of mail in his mailbox....a dusty house....a pile of laundry that didn't get done....and the soured milk in his refrigerator, I was overjoyed to be told Happy Valentine's Day by him.

:D

[redqueen]

25. Wow!

Sounds like you need to dish out some extra special tender loving kindness.

:hi:

[Freebird12004]

20. It's all about the attitude. $$$ can't buy love.

[redqueen]

26. Exactly!

:hi:

[Freebird12004]

53. I've been lucky on Valentine's Day

The men in my life always knew that if they wanted to bring me things, they didn't need to wait for a day that was special to the rest of the world. They also knew that "time spent together" was priceless. Gifts were never necessary nor a substitute for quality time.

[HEyHEY]

23. It's about not getting in trouble -

every man for himself!

[redqueen]

27. hahaha... you weirdo!

:hi:

[Miami Liberal]

29. I'd settle for an email

from my crush. Nothing yet.:cry:

[redqueen]

33. Awww... I'm sorry, ML

:hug:

Hang in there...

[RagingInMiami]

44. I think KO has been pretty busy lately

[lukasahero]

31. Best present ever cost nothing but a lifetime

when my (now) husband asked me to marry him on Valentine's Day. Sorry, not big into rings, it's not about jewelry, money, flowers or candy. It was that he had planned this surprise for weeks and told me that he wanted to be my valentine for the rest of his life. Nothing will ever beat that.

[redqueen]

35. Oh, man...

Nope... nothing could beat that... no way, no how.

Glad you appreciate what you have. :hi:

[redqueen]

36. FIVE voters for bling and NOBODY owns up to it?

I smell some cheaters!

[Misunderestimator]

37. I voted for the rainbow poop.

[redqueen]

38. hehehehe

I saw that said in this forum... I can't remember who posted it, but I can't forget it.

It still cracks me up... I think I need professional help!

[EstimatedProphet]

39. Why would anyone think VD is about money?

There's only a neverending stream of diamond commercials on beginning in January, with the message that the man who brings home the expensive diamonds is worth more and more deserving of love...
I hate the commercial aspects, and the Prophetess agrees. This is the secondmost mercenary holiday we have-and we all know what the most mercenary one is.

[redqueen]

40. Well I know that's what we're *supposed* to think.

But I know most DUers think for themselves pretty well. :D

[HEyHEY]

42. "VD" is about drinking too much in Costa Rica

[SarahB]

43. Money is meaningless.

What women (me anyway) want is someone who can show her that I she is cherished and appreciated in words and voice and body. Someone who will tell her in the small, but exceedingly more important ways that she means something. That's what it's about. In my experience, it's the men who seem to measure their own worth in terms of dollars. I never have.

[redqueen]

45. "it's the men who seem to measure their own worth in terms of dollars"

That's funny, because that's what I seem to notice as well.

You and I are on the same wavelength on this issue, Sarah. Knowing that you're appreciated has nothing to do with goodies.

[redqueen]

48. Now there's SIX votes for bling, and not one woman has owned up.

I declare shenanigans!

:P

[NC_Nurse]

49. I just talked to my hubby on the phone as he was leaving

work. He was going to stop to get me something on the way home and I said don't bother I'd rather have you home faster...:loveya: I got him some chocolates at the After-Christmas 75% off sale which we will share with some Kahlua toddies and snuggle. Yummmm...the best kind of Valentine's...

Like others have said, when your lover shows you appreciation EVERY day and gives you love and affection freely ALL the time...who cares about silly sparkly rocks and commercials? Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn! :)

[redqueen]

50. Awww... have fun!

Sounds like you're planning on it!

:hi:

[NC_Nurse]

51. Thanks!

I am! ;-)

[redqueen]

52. EIGHT VOTES?! Bad sockpuppets! Bad men!

Bad bad bad!

:spank:

[Left Is Write]

54. Other. I don't need or expect anything for Valentine's Day, but

found myself pleased with the box of chocolates anyway. I don't need the chocolates, of course, but it's been a long time since he gave me candy.

For him, I bought a pound of gourmet coffee and am making strawberry shortcake for dessert.