How nice are you when posting? Does it match your typical demeanor?

[prolesunited]

I will admit that, on occasion, I am a little bit snarkier and more scathing when posting than I would be in a face-to-face situation.

But, then again, I can be a bit bitchy in person as well. Hmm... perhaps I'm just really not that nice. :-)

So, are you the same online as offline or is there a difference?

[arcane1]

1. I'm an equal smart-ass in posting and in person

:P

[prolesunited]

8. Yes, I can attest to that

:hi:

[arcane1]

9. can you now?

you haven't seen me in person :P

:hi:

[prolesunited]

22. You have a point

Virtually in person? :shrug:

[arcane1]

27. hmmm

not sure that provides the full smart-ass effect :P

[jpgray]

2. I'd like to think an international DU meetup would end in a bloody brawl

But people are much nicer face-to-face than online.

[redsoxliberal]

3. I tend to be an ass online.

Although I probably am in person too.

hrmph

[New Earth]

4. i'm a lot more quiet in person

than online.....unless i'm drunk, then i probably won't shut up.

but that goes for online too - i'm even worse when i'm drunk :crazy:

[CBGLuthier]

5. I am the same

I am an asshole who starts polite enough and then sometimes escalates to outraged screaming.

It's a wonder I haven't been banned.

[RevolutionaryActs]

6. I'm a silly smart ass in person and posting. I flirt more on here then in

person though, but that's ok. ;)

[Richardo]

7. I can't type fast enough to be REAL snarky

I run out of steam about 3/4ths of the way through a rant then just say 'the hell with it'.

[mojavekid]

10. When I post " I believe" I am being nice,

and thoughtful, both to the issue and to the poster I am replying to. Yet when I read it, , I feel I would have said it better.

I think it is because I am "new" to this, and started a bit late in life...

or maybe I am not as nice as I believe....

or smart....

or very funny....cause' some of the posts here are hilarious.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

11. I think I'm nicer in person

I can be really blunt online-I tend to hold my tongue a bit more in person.

Sharon, you are VERY nice-both online and in person. The people that you AREN'T nice to on DU deserve it! :hi:

[prolesunited]

20. Interesting you should say that

That's actually the way I see it. So, should I add egotistical to my list of descriptors? ;-)

Thanks! Be sure and let us know next time you're in town so we can plan another gathering. <-- Prime example of me being nice to a person who deserves it.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

26. I think I may be in Chicago in April

I'll let you know-I had a blast last time. It was really nice of you to rally the troops for a gathering!

[prolesunited]

29. No problem!

We're meeting this Sunday and I'm sure we'll be due for one in April. Just let me know when you have a date confirmed.

[loudestchick]

12. I'm a good-natured smart-ass here and in my real life...though I'm

less tolerant in real life than here because I'm confronted with more idiocy in real life.

[bigwillq]

13. My posting style matches my "real" life personality

I am silly, fun, and usually very nice here at DU and in person.

And yes, I like to flirt all the tiem not only on DU but in person as well.:)

[Floogeldy]

14. Face to face, I'm a teddy bear. A pussy cat.

NOW WOULD YOU PLEASE STFU AND GET OFF MY BACK!

}(

[brentspeak]

15. I just try to stick to the issues. No personal attacks, unless attacked

[StopTheMorans]

16. how the fuck am i supposed to know?

:shrug:

[Kathy in Cambridge]

17. You're nicer in person

you're an asshat online! :P

just kidding...

[StopTheMorans]

19. thanks for both comments Kathy!

:hi:

[redsoxliberal]

23. haha

i see what you meant about blunt! :D

[Misunderestimator]

18. I'm just as snarky and scathing in person... also just as nice... :)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

63. But you're 10 times prettier than your pic :)

[Misunderestimator]

70. Awwww... you are so sweet...

:loveya:

[Why Syzygy]

21. People I've originally met online

then meet in person, have told me, "same package".
Congruence is something I strive for.

I do things in RL I regret.
I do virtual things I regret.

Congruence.

[prolesunited]

25. Man did I read that wrong!

I thought you wrote "some" package. :silly:

[Why Syzygy]

42. Well that too ..

but that wasn't your first question.

:wow:

Beauty and Brains mean little in RL.
Still have to work your ass off or know someone in high places.

Or not.

[GOPisEvil]

24. People have told me that I'm quieter IRL.

:shrug:

[Bouncy Ball]

31. I can attest to that, but once you get warmed up

you aren't quiet. Quite engaging!

I don't know....I think I'm pretty much the same online and in person.

:shrug:

[GOPisEvil]

48. You are exactly as I imagined!

That is a good thing, by the way!

[prolesunited]

39. I would go with quieter as well.

When you came to Chicago, I was expecting a wild and crazy guy.

But, it's a nice quiet. :hi:

[GOPisEvil]

49. Yeah, I don't do wild and crazy well.

But, I know how to have fun, regardless. I had fun with the Chicago crew! You're a good group!

[JimmyJazz]

44. Erm - I'd have to say "no" to that - you were very

engaging when we met. Maybe in a group situation, but I don't think you are particularly quiet IRL.

[GOPisEvil]

50. Yeah, you were quite engaging yourself.

:-)

[JimmyJazz]

52. Why, thank you, kind sir.

For you, a :hug: and a :*

[GOPisEvil]

54. Watch out! I have a cold!

:hug: and :* backatcha!

[Mojambo]

28. I'm occasionally quite abrasive

But I've been told that I can be like that in RL as well.

What can you do? You are what you are.

[Magrittes Pipe]

30. I'm an asshole.

And I'm an asshole.

[hfojvt]

32. I think being online gives me more time to think

so hopefully I am more clever and funnier and nicer. At least if I get nasty, it can be nasty wit or nasty substance. In real life, I probably would not have a quick retort except FU or FO. At least online I can hopefully provide a cogent argument for why the offender needs to FO.

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[prolesunited]

34. So, GrovelBot

Do you interrupt people's conversations to beg for money IRL, too?

[Misunderestimator]

36. I bet he's even MORE snarky and scathing IRL.

[Blue-Jay]

35. I'm routinely hated online.

In person everyone loves me. Especially after I give them the "leg-hug".

Bow before the power of the leg-hug!!!

[pmbryant]

37. Much more reticent face-to-face

Most of the time. Of course, I'm not exactly a voluminous poster either.

--Peter

[mitchum]

38. I work with special needs children who love me...

and I am well-respected by my colleagues. So, obviously, there is a great deal of difference between "mitchum" and "the guy who is typing this" :)

[KG]

40. i'm the same great guy in person as on DU!!!

:)

[Padraig18]

41. I'm basically the same.

:)

[JimmyJazz]

43. I've been told that I'm pretty much the same in person and posting

only that in real life, I laugh more. I guess that's okay.

[Zomby Woof]

45. I am sweeter in real life

Every DUer who has met me can attest to that. ZW is a persona, but I am me, and much nicer. :-)

[JimmyJazz]

46. Phewf. I was beginning to wonder....

where you've been lately - I haven't seen you around :P

[Zomby Woof]

47. Been laying low

Survived an auto accident a week ago, and then began rehearsals for my next play this week. And work! Can't forget work... and ... and...

One night I should post the story about partying in Seattle (when I lived there) with TWO mods at the same time. ZenLefty was one of them. He posted our pic as a 'separated at birth' contest. :-)

Somehow, I didn't get any in-person alerts.

[miss_kitty]

51. I often stop some shit-ass thing I start

generally when I think it'll destroy someone's enjoyment of something, and they've not done shit to me. Example: Someone posted how much they liked a certain place, how much they'd enjoyed it with their family, and I had a friend who'd worked there. i almost posted a nasty story about the place (based solely on opinion, not a fact-based post), and after typing a lot, I decided it was a shitty thing to post, and it was not my intent to post a shitty thing to that person. So I never hit 'Post Message.'

But sometimes, I do like bitchslappin' some folks around. In person or online. And I'm good at it too.:evilgrin:

[JimmyJazz]

53. You are the queen!

Although we haven't met IRL - I suspect you aren't much different. :hi:

[miss_kitty]

56. I think not

I let stuff slide but every one in a while, I gotta do some bare-knuckle boxing.

:hi: hey you!

[Why Syzygy]

64. Class Act

I prefer to avoid violence (or would if that were an option).
I am not violent (doors notwithstanding).
My questionably elected government 'representatives' are.

But, nice Style!

Totally into Utopia.

[Modem Butterfly]

55. I seem to piss people off

Sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes I feel kind of bad about it.

[Misunderestimator]

57. People seem to piss me off...

:D And sometimes I feel kind of bad about it. :)

[Blue-Jay]

58. Liar! You take pride in that.

Admit it.

[Misunderestimator]

59. Hehe...

but sometimes I do feel bad about it... like, you know... if I make someone cry or something. :evilgrin:

[Why Syzygy]

67. I thought of something I felt 'bad' about the other day

can't remember it now.

OTOH, I cannot get the memory of "enjoyment" out of my mind!

And why would I want to?

[Amaya]

60. I'm much nicer here

In person I'm more opinionated and as my Mom would say, " a high riding bitch."
Really, I'm not that bad:evilgrin:

[qnr]

61. I only rarely talk to people IRL . Maybe 30 complete sentences

a month (aside from my wife). Other than that though, I'm pretty much the same.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

62. On the days when I am nice online, I am nice in person

on the days when I am confrontational online..I am confrontational in person..there really isn't anything I would say online that I wouldn't say to one's face but for one exception..and that is...if you have all the personality traits of an axe murderer..I'd probably be a bit more frank with you online than in person

[Misunderestimator]

71. LOL

[sendero]

65. Me too..

... I'm a lot nicer in person than you'd think reading some of my posts :)

The problem is, many times I'm posting because I'm ticked off - whereas in person the same comment would probably not get me going.

Also, I don't talk politics with many people in meat-space.

[CornField]

66. I'm mostly the same

There have been a few times I've said something online that I probably would have kept to myself in real life. It doesn't happen often.

[salin]

68. I *think* my posting and typical behavior are quite consistent...

of course I could be deluding myself...

[prolesunited]

79. Well, for that to be true

Your answer should have been much longer. :P

[eyesroll]

I'm pretty well me online.

I've had more than one person tell me, after meeting me for the first time IRL (but after we'd had some online interaction) that I was exactly as they assumed I'd be.

[SOteric]

69. I'm a complex and multi-faceted person.

...so yes, I'm just as bitchy in real life as I am online. :7

[PassingFair]

72. I am MUCH more contentious on line...

mainly because I try not to talk politics or religion with people I don't know, and thats practically ALL I'm on about here....

[Why Syzygy]

73. I engage everyone I know

in the dreaded "religion and politics".

Those encompass so much a part of who we are.
Hiding those aspects is out of the question for me.

Of course some consider me anti-social.

The price we pay...
to be real

[PassingFair]

85. Everybody who KNOWS me knows I'm a dem...

but I'm in sales, so .... I tend to keep it on the down low while I work.

[Why Syzygy]

86. As long as you're not selling

democracy, that's perfectly understandable.

To everything there is a season.

Or to put it another way:
One shoe does not fit all occassions. (Ask any woman.)

I love great liberal minds.
We are the spice.

[Ladyhawk]

74. I'm mostly harmless except when it comes to dogmatic religion.

Fundamentalism is my pet peeve and I can get pretty nasty about it, I'm afraid. :(

[SoCalDem]

75. I try to be nice in all places.. real and online

Life is too short for enemies:)

[suigeneris]

76. I have a low posting count and

I have seen so many people in the same boat jumped on under suspicion that they are Freepers that I'm pretty careful with tone, and If saying something remotely controversial I try to head off charges of disloyalty to the party by throwing in some true but otherwise unecessary reassurances of my fidelity.

I don't do that elsewhere as my liberal bona fides are very well established and not doubted.

Honest.

[SarahB]

77. I find intonation and intent cannot come through online.

I'm rather a person who pretty much never tries to be intentionally hurtful, but we are all products of our experiences which may vary making each and every one of us much more complex than this often one-dimensional framework can show us to be. I have no problem expressing my opinions or viewpoints, but I tend to be a somewhat more soft spoken person in reality (with the occasional dark and sarcastic sense of humor). I've often been told I'm aloof. It's more like I just don't open up easily.

[Solly Mack]

78. I'm a smartass on and off line

I'm a nice person...until I'm not (then I can be really really shitty)...but that's true on and off line.

My husband claims I'm nicer to on line personalities.

I have to go "debate" this point with him now.

[Beware the Beast Man]

80. I am a complete bastard, on and off-line.

:hi:

[tigereye]

81. uh-huh

;)


I think I am about the same, except a little more silly here than I am in real life.

[hunter]

82. My internet personality is carefully crafted...

My earliest posts on the internet scare me -- I am actually afraid of early usenet and mail archives. In closets and warehouses across the nation there are old nine track tapes disintegrating, and I'm sort of glad about that.

I can type as fast as I think, but in person I can't keep up with anything more than one-to-one conversation. Situations where many people are talking are just a blur to me, and I can't ever "get a word in edgewise."

My typical demeanor is quiet and affable. I also have a "Mr. Hyde" mode which got me into a lot of trouble in high school and college. I could add gasoline to any fiery argument. I would quickly escalate political and religious arguments to a very personal level.

I also have an artificial quiet "authoritarian" demeanor that I was forced to develop for teaching and dealing with my own kids. A lot of kids see right through it, but mostly they'll play by my rules whenever I'm wearing my teacher mask.

[redqueen]

83. Same online as off.

I can be moody, sometimes. :)

[MissMillie]

84. I try not to rock the boat

Honestly, I hate it when people do things with the sole intent of making someone else miserable.

So I try to be nice--here and in 3-D