Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?

[Amaya]

If they totally changed, would you?
Or once a cheat always a cheat? Once an asshole always an asshole?

Be nice...

:)

[shesemsmom]

1. Once an asshole always an asshole.

those things don't change!!!!!!!

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

2. Nope

Especially not for that UNLESS they have really come clean and I don't know how to tell you that you know that.

[AlCzervik]

3. never.

[KitchenWitch]

4. Never have

the reasons the relationship broke up in the first place usually end up to be the reasons a couple breaks up again.

[bigwillq]

5. I never have.

It depends on what they needed to change

[NightTrain]

6. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no!!!!!

Oh! And did I mention no?

[Zomby Woof]

7. Never

And trust the latter to be much more likely than the former.

No one "totally" changes. Ever.

Never question ZombyWisdom. :hi:

[Amaya]

12. Always listen to the wise Zombypants

he knows best ;)

[Zomby Woof]

14. EXACTLY!

I will also add that if this advice pertains to you in any way, please heed it, because if you get hurt again, I will go Maximum Woof on his ass! ;-)

[maveric]

8. Once a cheat always a cheat. Cheating is a lack of respect.

And a breach of trust that can never be totally repaired. IMHO.

[DoBotherMe]

9. It would be too hard to trust them again

and I would rather live alone than do over a failed relationship.

[Fenris]

10. Not the way I break up with girls.

No way.

[Amaya]

13. What do you do to them?

just curious...

[Magrittes Pipe]

29. Reanimation technology remains in its infancy.

[asjr]

11. Yes, and a complete disaster!

[Shopaholic]

15. I did it and I would tell anyone NOT to do what I did...

huge mistake. Just huge. He had not changed one iota. So you get a big "HELL NO" from me on this issue. Never say never unless it involves reunions with ex-lovers.

[sundog]

16. no. fuck no.

[ChemEng]

17. No.......and I think

that is the best policy....one go round is more than enough!

[onebox30]

18. Maybe.

However, it depends on how long it has been. After five years completely apart it may be possible. Remember that people almost always change slowly and gain wisdom only with time. As far as someone who cheated... NEVER!

[Ready4Change]

19. And again, and Again, and Again...

I have several friends who are in cyclic relationships. They get together. They break up. Over and over. They are, frankly, miserable. Don't go there. Find someone you can live with, without the drama.

RE: Cheaters. Cheaters may be able to change. But they'll have to prove it with someone other than me. I'll give an asshole a second chance, but not a cheater.

And no one, I mean NO ONE, gets to be physically abusive the FIRST time. I WILL kick ass and throw away the map showing where I buried the body.

BTW, I'm married to a wonderful lady, and she makes me look like a real softy concerning these issues. Respect is a beautiful thing to give AND recieve.

[DS1]

20. I can change! I can chaaaannge!

[Amaya]

22. It's no good!

I'm not taking ya back! :P

[Misunderestimator]

21. No, I have never gotten back together with an ex...

And definitely, the cheating thing is a deal-breaker for me.

[livinginphotographs]

23. Never.

If you broke up over lack of trust (cough cough no experience here), it's too hard to gain it back to be worth it.

Sorry, I'm feeling bitter tonight.

[BornaDem]

24. No.

[Freebird12004]

25. ~ Yes ~

Cheating wasn't the problem and I'm really happy that we gave it another try.

[SarahB]

26. Depends.

No I have not. As you know, in my situation, many of the problems I did have with him, he has worked through and he's still very much in love with me. He's a very nice man overall. I, unfortunately, feel like I married my older brother. We are friends and we work well together, but (on my end anyway), it has been rather a void of anything resembling passion for a long time. Perhaps passion is overrated. (Hell, I can have a tremendous ongoing passion with someone that ends in a nothingness pit where the only thing that ends up being fucked with is my head.) I know I'm not ugly or dumb or mean (rather the opposite), so I obviously just freak a lot of men out for some reason.

Perhaps I'm the most evil selfish bastard that ever walked the planet. Perhaps friendship really is the only thing. Perhaps though, he shouldn't have put the nail in the coffin by making awful choices without regard to how I felt about certain behaviors for many years at a time when he knew there was nothing I could do even if I wanted to leave. I really don't know. It would be so easy to go back with him. That feels like what the entire universe tells me to do. As he puts it though, "Would you regret it?" Probably, but what's the fucking point at this stage of the game? The sad thing is that sometimes I think there are no right answers.

It's obviously been proven to me over and over that I can't have my cake and eat it too. That many men may look at me like a nice piece of ass, but in reality it's, "You have how many kids and you're that old! I wouldn't have guessed it." I also get asked a lot why I would have a bunch of kids with someone and then get divorced. In most circumstances, it's not appropriate to answer, "Because he spent years as a functional addict where we were completely emotionally detached after the children were already here. I tried to communicate and just got anger for so long that now there's nothing left even though he's better."

So to answer, I don't know, but then again, I'm probably the most clueless woman in the world on the issue of relationships as a whole. Just when I think I have things figured out just a little, I'm once again back to square one.

Right now, I'm just tired and bitter. Sorry for my rant. :(

[arwalden]

27. For Ex-Sex (Goodbye Sex) Only.

[BikeWriter]

28. Yes, twice. It didn't work both times.