Anyone here wanna put a hit out on my dad?

[Sean Reynolds]

GOD I feel like PUNCHING him right now. :mad:

[HEyHEY]

1. Yous wanna make him dissapear?

[Sean Reynolds]

2. Yes.

*Slides five Gs under the table*

Make it clean.

[hlthe2b]

3. I know the history, Sean, but PLEASE be very very very careful....

about posting anything like this, even in jest...

Given the current climate, anything that remotely resembles a threat can come back to bite you. Who knows, there may be others out there who have a grudge against your Dad and something COULD coincidentally happen to him. Given your post, you could be a suspect.

Take care, Sean. You'll be able to move past your Dad and his craziness soon, I'm certain.

[Maccagirl]

5. What he/she just said

Don't let your father cause you any more pain. Get the hell away from him.

[Sean Reynolds]

9. I understand.

I'd never kill my dad, I don't have the balls to do it. But sometimes ya' just snap and feel like doing something.

[mlawson]

15. That's right, Sean.

Protect yourself first. I wish I could think of something to say otherwise, to help. But you will NOT have to live with him forever, even though right now it might seem like it.

Sorry, man...

[Droopy]

4. What's the story, Sean?

Maybe we can help you out with a little therapy. Surely the old man doesn't deserve that fate.

[Sean Reynolds]

7. If you've been here through the past year you already know.

If not, to make it short; my father is a drunken ass that abuses both my mom and I, albeit not physically. He's caused a lot of pain in my life and today it's really bad to the point where if he were to die, I'd laugh. I HONEST TO GOD would laugh. :(

[NightTrain]

12. I grew up with a drunken, abusive father myself

He never physically abused me, but the psychological damage has been profound. And to make my childhood all the more cheerful, my mother suffered from mental illness.

Anyway, Sean, for whatever it's worth, you're far from the only one who comes from a fucked-up household.

[Sean Reynolds]

16. I know that - growing up in the neighborhood that I did.

But it doesn't make it easier. I just HATE seeing all these happy go lucky families on TV, smiling like they've been probed up the ass by a joy bug. It makes me feel like I've lost out on a truly good childhood. :(

[NightTrain]

17. Television programming is a lie!

That's why I watch so little of it.

[Sean Reynolds]

19. I know.

But still pisses me off. Even their problems are worked out in 30 minutes and at the end the family is happy again.

Maybe I'll make a TV show based on MY life - that'd be drama without the glow.

[NightTrain]

26. If you'd like to read books or see movies about screwed-up families...

...I can recommend some.

One of my favorite novels, despite the contrived happy ending, is W. Somerset Maugham's "Of Human Bondage."

You might also want to check out the 1962 film version of Eugene O'Neill's play, "Long Day's Journey Into Night."

There's also the gut-punch powerful 1990 film, "Last Exit To Brooklyn," based on Hubert Selby's controversial 1964 novel.

Or if you'd like something less grim, there's John Hughes' 1985 teen-angst film, "Breakfast Club." (Normally, I wouldn't recommend a John hughes film to anybody with a triple-digit IQ, but "The Breakfast Club" was actually good!)

For me, reading books and watching films about people and families e in abject misery was very cathartic at a time in my life when I really needed it. Perhaps that experience will do the same for you...

[MuseRider]

29. The Great Santini

was also a good one. It took me three tries to get through it but it was good once I did. My husband always worries when movie families start with the violence, it totally creeps me out but he gets really upset when I end up saying that it really wasn't too bad. He came from Ozzie and Harriet so he has no clue how bad it can be to be stuck in that place.

[NightTrain]

32. Another worthwhile Pat Conroy book is...

..."The Prince of Tides." Great novel but an average film.

[MuseRider]

34. His books are awesome

and have a very true feeling. He must have had some life.

[Sequoia]

31. Don't believe it on TV

it's all fake. Most "happy" familes have a misery or two. I used to want to be like the Cleavers in "Leave it to Beaver" but didn't want their parents, just a warm house and a mother who'd be home, but she was always in the hospital. Maybe you can get some help via your volunteer center. Don't let the hate eat you up. Are you able to leave or stay with a realative? Maybe not, but don't give up. There is such a thing as mental abuse and depending on the state you live in there are laws that protect you and your mother. You dad needs help too, I'm sure at one time he was a happy person. We'll be praying for you and your family. Peace.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

13. My mom has the same problem...

But thank God she doesn't drive outside of Kingfisher, America, and I live an hour away. I'm sorry that is happening to you. Sometimes I feel the same way about her. But when she's not drunk, she's ok. Well, sorta ok. My thoughts are with you. I can relate.
Duckie

[Sean Reynolds]

20. I'm sorry.

:pals:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

33. Thanks. It's ok. I've learned to deal.

:hug:

[Droopy]

22. I know the feeling, Sean

My mom was married to a man who was verbally abusive. One day when I was eight, he slapped her right in front of me. Hard. It was the first time he had hit her. She took me and my sister away and divorced the s.o.b.

There were so many times, even though I was little, that I just wanted to yell at him or do something to stop him. There was nothing I could do. I spent the first years of my life being afraid, angry and frustrated.

Hang in there, Sean. Are you old enough to move away?

[Sean Reynolds]

24. Read post 21.

:)

[grasswire]

27. what makes your mother stay?

Seriously. Battered women (and emotional abuse is battering) can find refuge through women's crisis centers.

Does she ever talk of leaving? Or is there some reason why she puts up with it?

And I wonder if there is someone you could talk to about this? A clergy member? An older member of your family?

[Sean Reynolds]

28. She says she is too old.

And she doesn't have the money to support her and I. She's told me many times that if it were 10 years ago, she'd of left. :(

[Padraig18]

6. I know dis guy on da sout' side...

Seriously, bro, leave the house or whatever, but DON'T hit your dad, except in self-defense. :hug:

[Sean Reynolds]

11. I wish I could....

But no where to go!

[mlawson]

18. Have you thought of this??

You are in college, right? Go to the campus counseling office, and see if there is a way they can help you get a dorm room. I know that the rent is expensive, but that is what the counseling center is for -- to help you work out difficult problems. There might be a way that the college will WAIVE dorm rent for you.

[Sean Reynolds]

21. I don't want to leave my mom alone with him.

I'd of been LONG gone if I could trust my mother being alone with him. But I can't, so I stay.

[NightTrain]

8. Re: GOD I feel like PUNCHING him right now.

Any particular reason?

[Sean Reynolds]

10. Read post 7

[NightTrain]

14. Just did. And I replied to it.

Sorry, I should've skimmed the entire thread first.

[MuseRider]

23. Sean

I do not know any more than I see in this thread but many of us had no childhood to speak of or one we wish we could forget. Just please know this, keep your head and heart and as soon as you get out and have the money get a little therapy and you should be OK. Really, I did and although I wish I had even one fond memory of childhood I have become a very happy adult, mother of two great kids and did have the happiest of families that I created with love. Just keep your head down and soon enough you will be out. Any chance you could get your mother out with you?

[Rowdyboy]

25. Have spoken to my old man twice in 8 years...

at a wedding and a funeral. The time before that his second wife spewed over the phone..."Weee know you're queerrrr..." to which I replied "Fuck off, bitch". How's that for loving families? When you leave home you don't ever need to let him get near you again.

[Sean Reynolds]

30. I dont plan on it........

He lost me when I was just a young kid!