I desperately need a hug

[Solly Mack]

I hate asking for a hug but today has been a very bad day.

As some of you know, my husband is an MP. The soldiers in Karbala were our own...not my husband's company but my husband's BN. Men and women they have worked with since April. Our company did send a platoon to Karbala but we still don't know if they got there before, during or after the fighting began...we won't know until tomorrow if some of the injured were from our company or not.

From early this morning until 2 PM , a bunch of spouses sat and waited..and waited...and waited...to hear the names of the dead.

It's a death vigil like no other. It's not one you can share while it's happening because you're ever under the admonishment of "rumor" control. So all you have is each other....faces twisted by pain...each of us locked in our own personal hell of fear and guilt..fear that it's our loved one..guilt that we pray it isn't.. and each sharing the painful knowledge that "somebody I know has lost their soldier"
..offering what comfort we can in a world turned upside down

I don't know how much more of this I can take. I want to be strong but I grow so weary of the dying..so weary of the waiting and wondering.

I'm sorry to unload but I must get this off my chest or explode.

I want my husband home. I'm not made of the stuff that got wives through WWII. The last phone call I had with my husband, he said "I wish I believed I was making a difference.."

To think any soldier died thinking that just shreds my heart to pieces..They shouldn't have to die in vain.

[Dookus]

1. (((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))

[Don_G]

2. You Have It And We're On Your Side

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

3. *hug*

Solly, I hope they come home soon, this war is tearing everything apart and to be that close to it emotionally must be horrible. We're here for you.

Maggie

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

4. Oh, Solly...

(((((HUG)))))

Oh, for this madness to end...

[burrowowl]

5. Big Hugs!

In WWII, it was probably a justifible war. So one can say one's loved one sacrificed for a greater good.
This war, they are sacrificing themselves for corporatism and petitroi Bu$hie II.
You have my profond and deepfelt sympathies, as well as your group. May the peace of God be with you.

[XanaDUer]

6. Hug

:pals:

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. I am so very sorry.

There is nothing I can say except it is wrong that this has happened.

Big hug, Laura

[leftist_rebel1569]

8. ((((((Solly Mack))))))

Don't worry about asking for hugs, We've got lots to give. My heart does go out to you, though...I hope he comes back safely! :hug:

[Mountainman]

9. Here is my hug and one from my wife. We love you

[brainshrub]

10. Here's a hug

:grouphug:

:pals:

[BigMcLargehuge]

11. Hugs Solly Mack

:hug:

[welshTerrier2]

12. good luck, my friend

i can feel only good things for you ... hang in there ...

[populistmom]

13. Here's some hugs!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

I hope he's home with you very soon.

Sarah

[oneighty]

14. Sigh

(((Hugs)))

ED

[5thGenDemocrat]

15. My brother was an MP

It's an especially tough job.
I want your husband home, too. A great big hug to you (and I am REALLY not the huggy type).
John
BTW, you ARE made up of exactly the same stuff that got wives through WWII. My mom worried about my dad during Korea, and my nephew's wife is sweating out his assignment in the Middle East (thankfully, Kuwait, not Iraq). Be strong. We're all pulling for you.

[Old and In the Way]

16. I am truly sorry for you, your family, and your extended family.

This has to be extremely stressful for you. Every day, the situation seems to get worse and I see absolutely no plan coming from the geniuses that put our soldiers in harm's way.

I hope there is a special place in hell for the un-elected war-profiteers who have made this situation happen.

Big hug and I hope your husband makes it back soon.

[madmax]

17. ((((((((((((((Solly Mack)))))))))))))

My heart goes out to you. Praying for all our men and women to come home soon.

[JitterbugPerfume]

20. Here is a hug dear Solly Mack

you will be on my mind

[blondeatlast]

18. Done. Prayers to you and your husband and to all the worried families

and soldiers on both sides.

:hug:

More where that came from; feel free to ask anytime.

[cally]

19. I give lots

of (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

To you and all the spouses. You and your husband are making a differnce just by being there. You, by your love, knowledge, and support. Your husband, by his caring for the world and wanting to make a difference.

I won't pretend that I was for this Iraq war, but I do know that the soldiers want to help to stabilize and improve the Iraqi's lives.

None of the soldiers die in vain. They went to fight for our country. That was their mission. They are patriots. I dislike the leaders and the mission, but not the soldiers.

[Insider]

{{{solly}}} {{{mack}}}

praying for peace, the return of loved ones, the reunion of families worldwide.

thank you for your service as well, solly mack.

[hussar]

21. Well consider yourself hugged

:pals: :hi:

[Solly Mack]

22. Thank you..from the bottom of my heart.....Thank you..all of you

Your words of supoort and your hugs...your just being there to listen...thank you!!!

It means more to me than words can express


:grouphug:

[niyad]

24. and please, let us know when you hear about your husband

and the other members.

we will continue to pray for all who are in harm's way, and their loved ones.

[newyawker99]

34. (((((((((SOLLY MACK))))))))

I am sending positive thoughts your way and I hope you hear good news!!

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~good news for Solly~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`

[MaineDem]

39. I wish I could hug you in person

I'm sending a cyber one though.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sorry all the families are going through this.

We appreciate your husband serving but we want him and the other American military home now.

All the best to you!

[niyad]

23. sending a HUGE cyberhug and all the sympathy in the world--

as the widow of a ptsd-agent orange vet, I know the agony of that wait for the knock on the door.

please know that our hearts and prayers are with you, with all of you, in this terrible time

if you would like, or need to, please feel free to contact me email.

[BurtWorm]

25. My heart is breaking for you

and your husband and all the wives and husbands who may be separated by this mess of Bush's. God damn him.

[Swede]

26. So sorry to here that.

Be strong. My brother was stationed in Yugoslavia when all hell broke loose but he made it back. So will your husband.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

27. ~hugggggggggggggggggggggggs~

Unloading is nothing to be sorry about, Solly...That's what this place is here for.

Though the invasion/occupation of Iraq is a vile atrocity, I still believe your husband is making a difference simply by doing his job. It's got to be one of the toughest jobs on earth...especially when he doesn't agree with his superiors.

I hope he's home soon too Solly. I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

[woofless]

28. BIG HUG SOLLY!!!!!

Our Son-in-law is an MP stationed in Hawaii and has been told to expect deployment to Iraq at any time. We are heartsick. I have had to educate him about all the issues, including but not limited to depleted uranium, veterans bennie cuts,paying for his own meals should he become wounded, etc. We join you in your wish for a safe return of your husband and all the other men and women who have given their all. Come by for a hug anytime at all.

[jus_the_facts]

29. I'm so sorry for you and your husband and all who're over there.....

.......and their loved ones as well...my heart goes out to all of you :pals:

[Zhade]

30. Here's another hug

If I could bring him - and every other soldier - home, I'd do it in an instant.

We will not let those who have died down. We WILL get justice for them.

[Capn Sunshine]

31. HUG squared

. . . . .2
HUG

[roguevalley]

32. A hug for you and yours and all the others here who are filled

with fear over this atrocity. I pray for you and
the other women and men waiting to hear the news.
You aren't alone, honey. We love you and hope you
come to us for comfort when you need it. We can't
do much but know that there are people all over
our country and the world holding you and yours
in our hearts tonight.

RV, sending love and hugs from ALaska

[area51]

33. hug

I hope your husband will soon come home safely, Solly Mack, and that all the troops will soon be brought home where they belong.

[Coventina]

35. (((((((hugs))))))))

This sorrow is beyond words for me.

You ARE strong. Don't let the Evil One in the White House make you doubt yourself.

Love and blessings and peace be with you.

:hug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

36. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))

I want your husband home too Solly. You have coped far more than is reasonable. I am so sorry for the constant anxiety you must live with.
I love you, friend.

[patdem]

37. The furrough in my brow has grown so deep reading this

and so many other stories of those poor soldiers that anger will forever be expressed on my face, and many others I am sure!

Hugs to you and yours. <<<<<hugs>>>>>> :hug: :grouphug:

It is amazing that the adminstration realized how much hugging would be needed during this VERY trying time, and they gave us hugs and grouphugs...

Thanks Admins

I pray your husband and all your friends husbands, wives, children, brothers, and sisters all come home whole. :hug: :grouphug:

[Tinoire]

38. Hang in there !

Stay strong! These are hard, terrible times but we will make it through and be there for each other. Your husband depends on you to be his rock during all of this.

Come here and unload as often as you need to. Vent. Rage if you need to! PM me anytime if you need a shoulder and we'll link up.

You and your husband are in my prayers.

Hang in there ok? There will be an end to this madness- we will make it end.

[MuseRider]

40. Oh Solly

I am so sorry, so very sorry. <<<(((HUGS)))>>>
Send me a note if you need to talk more. I am about 1 1/2 hours from you and would make the trip to see you and do some kind of a meal, and talk if it would help. Honestly, just let me know. Hang in there and keep posting to us. We will do all we can to help you get through this.

[Tigerlily]

41. Very dear Solly Mack...

I don't have the right words. Here is a VERY BIG Cyber-HUG!

(((((((((((((Solly Mack and her family)))))))))))))

[havocmom]

42. ((((((Solly Mack)))))) anytime you need, just ask the evilDUers

'tis what community is all about. Here for you. Vent, rage, cry, lean on your fellows here. Know that we are all working in our way to end the madness and get your husband home to you.

Sending strength and our best wishes from the north 40 up here in Tiny Town. Favorite Charles Russell Quote: (from a Christmas card he sent out)

"...but if wishes were persents,
I'd fill your buckskin poke.
You never would be hungry
and your doctor would go broke."

Many are with you today. Feel that strength.

[supernova]

43. ((((((((Solly Mack))))))))

Oh Solly! Please don't feel alone. Although I can't fully empathize the way the other spouses can, please know we are watching and waiting with you as much as we can.

I didn't agree with getting us into this war in the first place, but I certainly don't blame the soldiers for doing their job. And I certainly don't think any of them die in vain. They go to make a difference. And perhaps sometimes the difference we make isn't the one we planned on, but it is a difference nonetheless.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[bleedingheart]

44. BIG HUG!

Nothing I say will make a difference but please know that we are all praying for those men and women over there...I marched against that war but I do so pray for our soldiers safety...

[latebloomer]

45. Keep holding him in the light

We'll all be praying for his safety and your serenity.

I am so sorry you have to go through this torture.

[peekaloo]

46. Hug and good karma

headed your way!

:hug:

Peace.

[greatauntoftriplets]

47. Thanks for telling us that story, Solly Mack.

You are living this nightmare in a way that most of us can only imagine.

:hug:

[jumptheshadow]

48. Here's a hug from me

My thoughts will be with you and your husband.

My prayers will be with you, too.

:loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya:

[Uzybone]

49. Hugs...this is a tragedy that only grows

:hug::hug::hug:

[UrbScotty]

50. Here's wishing for a safe return.

Good luck.

[Jack Rabbit]

51. ((((Hug!!))))

And I rub my rabbit's foot for you.

[WillyT]

52. Huge Hugs For Solly Mack And Family !!!

:hug::grouphug::hug:
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[Pithlet]

53. (((Hug)))

I don't know how you do it. I don't think all the strength in the world is enough. I really hope your husband returns home safe and soon, and everyone with him.

[flama]

54. Another hug ((((Solly))))

Sometimes it's good to be old and not have a husband or lover off in a foreign land in a war he did not create (or agree with). I saw a husband through Viet Nam and the Six-Day War before we were married. (Hate to have to say it, but he didn't know about the Six-Day War until his next leave.)

It's hard to be the one at home. It's even harder when the war is not a war and we don't agree it ever should have happened.

You may be made of the stuff that got wives through WWII. There was a real threat and enemy there - or maybe two. This might be apples and oranges.

I must agree with your husband, though. Making a difference in the grand scheme of things might be a reason for fighting. Not making any difference is a good reason to want to go home.

Caualties of O.I.L. (Operation Iraqi Liberation?) have not died in vain if we take heed of what led us to this "war." They have taught thinking Americans about complaicancy and driven us to take back our country.

I hope your husband comes home safe and, like so many others, refuses to fight again.

[peacefreak]

55. Oh Solly Mack

my heart goes out to you & your friends. Never hesitate to ask for support from any of us. Your words put a face on this horrible mess.
I pray that all those loved ones come home safe & sound. Love, P

[Darth_Kitten]

56. HUG

:hug:

[Solly Mack]

57. I love you guys!!!! Your words and well wishes

mean a lot. Reading them all has done much to heal my wounded soul.

You're all wonderful!

I haven't heard from my own husband but do know the platoon we sent in are all well. Unfortunately, as things are "heating" up in Karbala, we have sent in an additional platoon and half of another. That's half our company in Karbala now.

I'll let everyone know when my husband does finally get to call home. There's generally a lockdown after an incident and all calls are stopped for several days.

Thank you again!