Should I be mad at my friend?

[Coventina]

I offered her a pair of free tickets to the symphony, including pre-paid parking. The concert is Sat night. She said she wanted them and that she had lined up a date to go with her. She still hasn't made arrangements to pick them up from me, and is griping at me that I won't send them through the mail.

I'm starting to think that she really isn't going to bother to come and get them. I had originally bought them for me, but I have to go to a wedding that night, so I need to give them away to someone. I could just donate them back to the symphony, and it would be tax deductible, but then the pre-paid parking is going to waste.

My boyfriend says I should call her right now and confront her on whether she is going to use them or not. But I don't want to, I'm just not very confrontational. But I'm starting to get irritated. Am I being irrational?

[WilliamPitt]

1. How far away does she live?

Does she have kids? Other responsibilities that might preclude a drive over? Health issues?

[Coventina]

6. We do live quite a ways apart

which is part of the problem.

However, I work at a college that is almost exactly halfway between us, where she is taking a class, by the way. She had said she would come some time in the last 2 weeks to get them from me (I've had them here at work), but she's never shown.

No kids. She sent me an email earlier today saying she's just been too lazy to come and get them, and that's when she griped that I wouldn't send them through the mail.
I just don't like the idea of sending the tickets through the mail, and I told her that when we originally worked everything out.
:shrug:

[soleft]

2. If she's a friend, and you feel angry, you're entitled to your feelings

Just be direct and honest, tell you you feel angry that this hasn't been resolved, and if she doesn't want the tickets she should tell you so you can make other arrangements.

If you keep the feelings inside you'll do injury to yourself.

[Nikia]

3. I'm assuming that your friend lives a distance away

If she would have to drive a ways to pick them up, she may be busy and tired and unsure how to fit that into her schedule. That's also why you haven't seen her to give her the tickets, right?
Tell her that you really thought that she'd appreciate the tickets but if she is unable to go that you'd like to give the tickets to someone else. Don't do this in an angry accusative way. In fact, call and talk about other things and then slide it in as a "by the way".

[Blue-Jay]

4. Can't you just leave them at the door?

I bought concert tickets for a friend a few months ago, and she picked them up at the box office. Maybe that's not an option in your case.

[Coventina]

7. I thought of doing that

but then the pre-paid parking wouldn't be available because she would have to park somewhere first, in order to go to the Will Call window.

[otohara]

5. Tell Her if She

isn't going to use them you'd like to know so you could give them to someone else.

[Stupdworld]

8. yes

my signs point to yes