Your thoughts on polyandry?

[Taverner]

Right? Wrong? Crazy?

[Finder]

1. More the merrier...

as long as they are all equal and consenting that is.

[GreenPartyVoter]

2. Weird you should mention this.. I had a dream last night about

a very yummy blond guy and a very yummy brunette hunk and they were both mine and.....

Well, it was interesting to say the least. ;)

[skypilot]

9. Starsky and Hutch???

:)

[GreenPartyVoter]

10. WAY yummier than that. Much prettier. :^D

[skypilot]

12. Simon and Garfunkel??

:) :evilgrin:

[GreenPartyVoter]

13. oh puh-LEAZE! We're talking chippendales times ten here

[skypilot]

16. Chippendales times ten

They weren't wearing those silly bowties were they? Two things that I can't abide on a naked man: a bowtie or a thong.

[GreenPartyVoter]

19. Nono.. they were completely nekkid.. and not at all pleased to be sharing

me, but hey them's the breaks. *g*

[hfojvt]

20. Williams and Re?

the bosom buddies? Wayne and Garth?

edit: Jay and Silent Bob?

[Deja Q]

31. Ah, I've got it! Bo and Luke!

http://www.tvacres.com/char_duke_boys.htm

[NorthernSpy]

3. seems an unnatural sort of thing...

... but of course people may do as they please.

(Or as they think they please. In my observation, these idealistic "polyamorous" arrangements usually end badly.)

[mongo]

22. Whereas traditional marriage always works out forever and ever

In my observation, these idealistic "polyamorous" arrangements usually end badly.

[NorthernSpy]

30. didn't say that...

Lots of things don't work too well, whether they are traditional or of the avant garde.

[Shell Beau]

4. Not for me!

But whatever floats your boat!

[redqueen]

5. Up to the participants.

I don't think it's crazy at all. Seems to me that many humans are not monogamous, so why not be honest about it?

[SarahB]

14. Bingo!

We always seem to think along the same lines. I suppose ultimately monogamy would be nice on some level again, but I'm not betting much on it anymore. I'm not sure if I have what it takes these days to be completely monogamous. I'm not sure if any one man quite has everything I'd want.

[skypilot]

6. PUH-leeze.

I'm still having trouble getting some good ole mono-andry going. Don't torture me.

[hfojvt]

23. this would make things easier

polyandry means one wife two or more husbands. You are thinking of polygamy - one husband several wives.
Sounds like a tough balancing act though. If it is hard for two people to stay together, as it seems to be, it would be even harder for three people to stay together.
I have always thought that our living arrangements should be more communal, but I am less sure about the sexual relationships.

[skypilot]

25. Actually, I'm gay....

...so it would still poly- or mono-andry. But alas, I'm don't have either.:-(

On edit: Or were you trying to respond to some other post?

[hfojvt]

26. not sure that would have the same name

but my dictionary is perhaps as hetero-biased/oriented as I am :blush:

[Maddy McCall]

7. Polyandry is completely an economic institution, nothing to do with "love"

In regions in which there is a limited amount of land, one woman marries a couple of brothers, which solves the problem of splitting the land up for multiple heir-families. The land stays in the family and doesn't have to be divided between brothers, and thus, brothers' children, and brothers' children's children, and so forth.

It has nothing to do with sex or love. It's all about economics.

[hfojvt]

24. and how is that different many times, from monogamy?

it also was not that unusual, in the past, for an unmarried sibling or two to stay in the family home with their married sibling.

[Maddy McCall]

29. Because if two men father children with the same woman...

then no one knows whos children they are, thus, the land isn't split along paternal lines.

And, let me add that most (but not all) polyandrous societies are matrilineal.

[Wapsie B]

8. That would take a very special relationship

to make it work. Seeing your love with another is more than many can deal with. It's not wrong if all parties are agreeable to it. Consenting adults and all that.

[MrScorpio]

11. Ask her yourself

http://members.tripod.com/GuidoCx17/PollyAndry.htm

[GoddessOfGuinness]

15. Nuts

Sorry...Couldn't resist. :evilgrin:

Wouldn't be my cup o' tea; but as long as all participants are of legal age, I don't see anything wrong with it.

However, if someone was asking my advice on whether or not to get involved in an intimate 3-party relationship, I'd suggest that they all get some counseling to help address issues that are bound to arise (no pun intended), such as jealousy, the need for personal space, etc.

[bicentennial_baby]

17. Right for the right people

I'd love to have a group marriage, but the people with which I'd want to have it couldn't handle it. Men... :P

[eyesroll]

18. One was enough.

But, hey, I'm not going to tell anyone else what they can or can't do.

[mongo]

21. Not right, wrong or crazy.

Not for everyone, but certainly works for some folks.

Personally, I think that what is needed is more socially acceptable outlets for recreational sex. A big mayday orgy in every town or something like that.

If recreational sex was more acceptable, and young people experimented more with each other, then I think that we would learn more about our selves and what we want/need. And we would learn how to separate lust and new relationship energy from the qualities that make another person compatible with us on a long term basis.

Some people are by nature monogamous, some are not. If serial monogamy wasn't the expected norm in society, I think that people would figure out what works for them and form better long-term relationships.

[SOteric]

27. Polyandry tends to occur in places where

the available pool of men greatly outnumbers the available women, or in the economic circumstance described above by Maddy.

If you're asking would I personally indulge in it, I doubt it very much. But not because of a value judgement on it's inherent rightness or wrongness or relative insanity.

I acknowledge that many people seem to be polyamorous. I don't have a problem with that, I even gave it a shot myself once or twice. Here's the rub: A great many of us just aren't hardwired that way, and really, -that's okay too. Anecdotally at least, it would appear more of contemporary society is hardwired to a kind of serial monogamy than genuinely polyamorous.

I have no interest in the value judgements of either side of this issue.

If consenting adults find valid reason to wish to share their marital community and/or intimate relationships that's fine and dandy. Good luck and more power to 'em.

If consenting adults find valid reason to wish to maintain a more intimate, exclusive marital community, that, too, is fine and dandy. Good luck and more power to 'em.

[VelmaD]

28. I think it's ok when everyone is consenting adults...

but I definitely think you ought to talk to your spouse BEFORE deciding you want to engage in a poly lifestyle.