Anyone here 'pine' after someone you'll never be with?

[Bullwinkle925]

sigh.....

[Q3JR4]

1. All the time.

It's kind'a sad actually. :(

[Left Is Write]

2. I used to. No more and never again.

[redqueen]

3. Nah...

but I do enjoy thinking about some people now and then. :)

[ewagner]

4. It usually requires

4-5 beers before I'll even allow myself to think about it.....but after 30 years of marriage, well, it's just not useful to even think anymore.

[Bullwinkle925]

6. Same here - sigh.

[short bus president]

5. Oh, don't be so sappy!

Yer just barking up the wrong tree. Cease your milling and lumbering, stand tall, and start logging some hours searching for someone else you can settle down and grow roots with. :P



Yours in tree-related punning,

-shortbus

;-)

[Bullwinkle925]

7. Good One - still doesn't help the heart, though.

[seemunkee]

8. I dream of her sometimes

I love my wife, family, life but I wish I could find her and just apologize for having been a jerk

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

30. You know - it's good that you said that - nice to know that there are

people who actually do have a conscience!

[supernova]

9. No, not lately

I stopped doing that several years ago when I realized it wasn't productive.

If someone is interested in me... well, they'll just have to hit me over the head! (With a very light, feathery object, of course)

[gratuitous]

10. Just Plaid Adder and Catwoman

Mostly because Mrs. gratuitous would wallop the living daylights out of me.

Oh, and both of them are women of taste and discernment. So there's that, too.

[chickenscratching]

11. heh.

yes! i do. i go through DU crushes like no other.

[Worst Username Ever]

12. I'm engaged and have a huge crush on a lass in chicago.

I'm visitng my friend there in two weeks. It is going to be a challenge. :scared:

[Hong Kong Cavalier]

13. Yeah...

She's getting married some time this month.

And she was the best thing to happen to me in years.

[sir_captain]

14. Every day

It sure does suck

[DS1]

15. No, there's gotta be some hope or it's all over or never was

:shrug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

16. Yes, I do...

However, thanks to DU, he is fading...VERY slowly. I doubt he'll ever truly be gone. I think he'll always be part of me...

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

32. Profound - I feel the same way.

20/20 hindsight can be a 'bitch', huh?

[SlimJimmy]

17. I really liked my 3rd grade teacher

she was so hot.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. Hey there, SlimJimmy!

WELCOME TO DU! Enjoy your stay...this is a fun and addicting place.

:hi:

[SlimJimmy]

21. Thanks Peggy

You rock

[kick-ass-bob]

19. No but I 'oak' for DS1.

WATCH OUT MATCOM!

:P

[lateo]

20. Oh yes.

sigh...

[keithjx]

22. Isn't it ridiculous?

It must be something fundamental, because logic has nothing to do with it. I have the greatest fiancee in the world - she's by far the most incredible person in my life - but there are still times that I *sigh*. Then I feel like a dumbass. Which doesn't help matters.

Sorry man.
:toast:
KJ

[GOPisEvil]

23. Yeah, I'm guilty of that sometimes.

As irrational as it is, I still have done it.

[SarahB]

24. Not really.

I've been guilty of pining away over past loves or at times about someone in my life who says repeatedly that he wants to be with me, but doesn't really act like it most of the time. Once there's a strong connection with a person, it's sometimes hard for me to let go even if it's not working out, but you know what they say, "plenty of fish in the sea", so eventually, I do. I'm not particularly into emotional masochism thank you very much.

Often I find that after I let go is when the other person ends up with an epiphany of their own (just ask my ex-husband), but when I detach, I detach and that's about it. When I feel for someone, it's very deep and strong and I put forth a lot of effort, but I don't take kindly to being taken for granted and not being appreciated for what I have to offer by people who claim to care about me. Depth or not, I do have my limits.

If someone isn't at all interested in me and there's no real connection, I move on in about 2 seconds because the fact is that plenty of others are.

[DaBigBadJoiseyWolf]

25. Nah, all my formers have gotten to old for my tastes.....

[progmom]

26. no pining

a slight twinge every once in awhile, a little curiosity, but nothing close to resembling pining.

[skygazer]

27. Oh, god, no

I have some very fond memories of some wonderful people but no illusions about some sort of "could have been". It didn't. It isn't. And besides, I'm not the same person I was when I was with them and they're no doubt different too. I prefer to remember the good stuff and move forward.

[SOteric]

28. I have a problem with the question.

I'm not inclined toward "pining" really, but I can experience the occassional yearn for someone whose company I cannot currently enjoy.

But with regard to the question, short of a working crystal ball, how can any of us know whether we'll never be with someone, or be with someone again? Life is a fragile thing and fate is a convoluted task-master.

I think I'll see my boss tomorrow morning, but he could be hit in the head with a random beer bottle tonight, forget his name and address and show up somewhere in Eastern Europe 4 years later. And if you think that's too bizarre to be real, you don't know the people with whom I work.

When I said goodbye to a disappointing college love affair, I thought I'd seen the last of Mr. LessThanPerfect. I moved on with my life and forgot him. Imagine my surprise when he showed up at the firm I was working for 6 years later as a contract employee.

I mean sure, some folks we're more likely to be with than others. If I spent too much energy lusting after Viggo Mortensen, frex, that would be a waste of time. I might meet him one day, but the odds seem pretty remote, and even moreso any liklihood of a romantic involvement.

[VelmaD]

34. What she said

:)

Seriously, you sometimes do an amazing job of encapsulating just exacctly how I feel and think about things and I think you're dead on again with this one.

[Bullwinkle925]

36. I posed the question as ambiguously as I could - didn't want to give up

T.M.I.

[tjdee]

29. Who says never?

If I pined/cried/wished for a man, it's because I obviously don't think we'll "never" be together. I hope we will be... love conquering all, and all....

That said, I haven't done any of that for a while and don't think I will anymore. It is a waste of time. Que sera sera. One irritating cliche that's totally true.

I do, however, sigh a lot whilst watching Shah Rukh Khan movies. Why does he have to live happily in India, and be happily married with two kids and totally famous so he won't even meet me, much less date me?

WHYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!
:cry:

[Beware the Beast Man]

31. No.

But I rather enjoy being the pinee from time to time. :)

[El Fuego]

33. No.

[Lannes]

35. No

Not for a long while.There are plenty of stimulating,attractive women out there.Rather focus on someone who is interested in me than someone who isnt or unavailable.Its a waste of time and energy.

[In_The_Wind]

37. life's too short to waste time like that

[Trigger Hippie]

38. oh yeah

I pined for this guy for a couple years, pitifully enough. We only went out a couple months, but he was the only one I ever FELT something for. Just getting over it, thankfully.


_____

On a happier note, HI LOUNGERS!!!! I finally got the guts to speak up instead of just lurking. You guys rock and oh yeah BUSH SUCKS!!!

[Sugar Smack]

39. GREAT username!

Welcome to DU!!

:hi:

[Trigger Hippie]

42. thanks (nt)

[DaBigBadJoiseyWolf]

40. Pine over them? LOL! Nah! I traded them in on a newer model!

[leftofthedial]

41. of course

here at DU, with all these incredible women . . .

if I didn't, I'd have no imagination

:evilgrin: