Damn it happened to me again! (rant)

[elshiva]

Broke up with a "girlfriend" last Saturday, but she never knew I wanted to be romantic/sexual with her. We were just friends she thought. Can never say "I am gay!" Such a sweet woman, kind, religious, selfless. Feel like a complete jerk breaking with her. But she's a single mom and I do not like children plus she is so straight! I loved hugging her, but it pained me to think it would not go any farther.
This happens all the time with me. "Friends" with a woman just to be close to her. Does this happen to any of you?

[evlbstrd]

1. I'm sorry to hear that.

Here's a hug, but I'm straight guy. I still like you.

[elshiva]

3. Thanks, hon!

:hug:

[Floogeldy]

2. Me don't want you to hurt inside.

:-(

Be better.

[elshiva]

4. Thanks, Floogeldy!

:hug:

[sparky_in_ma]

5. Hi elshiva

:hug:

[elshiva]

6. Hey, hon!

:hug:

[Robeson]

7. I think thats probably universal, irregardless of gender preference.

Its a form of unrequited love.

[elshiva]

8. Yeah, but it difficult for me to bring it up. If I was a guy and

she still being a woman, it would be "natural" for it to be brought up as a possibility, but two women together, gosh we're only friends! :cry:

[Robeson]

10. I'm sorry for you....

...and sorry if I was being a bit too analytical...:hug:

[elshiva]

12. You're fine, I'm just ticked!

[Left Is Write]

9. I'm sorry.

You're such a giving, sweet, and loving person. I hope you find the right woman for you before too long. :hug:

[elshiva]

11. Err, thanks but I again I am MARRIED, so I should know better!

[Left Is Write]

13. I'm sorry. I didn't know that.

[elshiva]

14. Yep, I am officially a jerk. Feel like Jimmy Carter!

[RevCheesehead]

16. You are?

Male or female?

Just wonderin', that's all.

Sorry about the "just friends" - I know how much that can hurt. (I've been there dozens of times).

:hug: <--that's a hug with no sexual overtones, for you, from me. :)

[elshiva]

18. Married, does it matter what gender?

Thanks for the hugs. You are a nice person. :hug:

[RevCheesehead]

20. nope, doesn't matter at all.

That's why SpongeBob is in my avatar - to let people know I'm not one of those Fristians. :P

[Jersey Devil]

15. What's your point?

I don't understand. OK, you are gay, but you wish to perceive yourself as a studly "woman's man"?

Don't you think it was kind of cruel to lead her on?

[elshiva]

17. I am a woman myself. I never tried to hurt her.

:cry:

[Jersey Devil]

19. Well, this is too complicated for me

While I feel badly for your pain I cannot help but think that you would have a lot less pain if you were honest.

[elshiva]

22. I AM A LIAR!

[Bossy Monkey]

25. Not a liar. Society sucks, which is not in any way your fault

Hugs, sympathies, best wishes for the future:hug:

[elshiva]

26. Thanks, but I still am a jerk who almost committed adultery.

[progmom]

21. love can suck when it gets complicated

:hug:

heck, so can lust.

[Redstone]

23. I believe this happens to a lot of people,

regardless of whether it's "same gender" or not.

Human beings are complicated things, and communications are rarely clear between two of them.

Don't give up. Life will work out for you eventually.

OK?

Redstone

[elshiva]

24. Thanks, guess, I am a liar, but it is not the end, thanks!

[Redstone]

27. Hey, take it easy, I never said anything about you being a liar...

I think you were responding to someone else's post.

I'm on your side.

Redstone

[elshiva]

28. Thanks, Redstone. You are good!

Feel like Jimmy Carter!