I'm really worried about my cousin...

[YellowRubberDuckie]

I just got off the phone with her. She's a really sweet person in a really bad marriage. Her husband is controlling as hell. He won't let her have car keys or a checkbook, and her boys treat her like crap. I talked to her for like a half an hour, and she's taking about killing herself. She said she was pissed at her brother-in-law because he put a gun in his mouth, and that's what she wanted to do. I'm worried sick. She lives near Tulsa, or I wouldn't be here talking about it. She has an awesome stepdad, and if she'd tell him that she's unhappy, he'd get her out of the situation and into some counselling. I'm so worried about her. What should I do?
Duckie

[iconoclastic cat]

1. Call him. Now. Get off DU.

On edit: I speak from unfortunate experience. If you end up being wrong, so be it. You'll be wrong and she'll be alive.

[Left Is Write]

9. I agree. Do it now.

I called the police when my daughter's father (my ex) threatened suicide a year and a half ago - and he had a gun. Thank God the police got there before he could do anything permanent.

[Lars39]

2. OK. Guns involved, get the law involved.

Alert the stepdad.

[warsager]

3. Can you call her back?

Do you think she will hurt herself? Send her money to come see you right now. Or call her father-in-law and tell him to go there.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

4. No. They're going on vaca on Thursday with her family...

And she promised me she wouldn't do anything stupid. And I know she could have been lying, but she's excited about my housewarming party she's throwing me. I think she'll be ok for the time being. But I really need to go talk to her parents.
Duckie

[warsager]

5. Who is they?

If you are seriously worried call her dad. If she is REALLY going to hurt herself, she is not going to tell you.

[MuseRider]

15. Most often people who commit

suicide do it when people around them least expect it because all of a sudden they plan for the future, get excited and happy then they do it. Seriously, call someone who can help her now.

[ikojo]

23. This is EXACTLY what my brother did in July 2001

He talked to one of our sisters the night before he killed himself. She said it was the best conversation they had ever had, he was uncharacteristically upbeat and talkative.

The next day he took an overdose of Elavil.....

[MissB]

6. Pretty much you should just get on the phone and call the Stepdad

Like now.

[warsager]

11. How old is she?

Does she have kids?

Has she ever tried to hurt herself before?

[Skittles]

20. that is what I would do

this girl needs immediate help. I would voice my concerns to the stepdad.

[xmas74]

7. Call either him or Tulsa's 9-1-1.

Someone needs to talk to her right now. You can access 9-1-1 online in many places or call your local pd and they will connect you to Tulsa. I've taken a few calls that way.
Do not let this go. Do it now!

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

8. Get off the DU . Call her stepdad ...

and tell him everything that is going on .

[Lannes]

10. Hard to be on the outside looking in but.

I would tell her that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.From there I would offer alternatives that would make her problem temporary.Sorry its the best I can do.Good luck.

[notadmblnd]

12. Go get her

my sister tried to kill herself becaue after 18 ye of marriage her husband decided he wanted to unload all of his responsibilities. He found her and made two calls EMS and me. I took her home and she has been with me since.

[MissB]

13. Look, if she is talking about doing it

then she is just a mere step from actually carrying out her plans to do it.

Please act.

[xmas74]

14. [phone] Tulsa PD

918) 596-5601 Sheriff Department.
They will send someone out there. Call them now!

[warsager]

16. Duckie

Please respond after you take care of it!!

[xmas74]

17. I want to hear from you too.

I dispatch for a living. I know how easily this could escalate. Do it now.

[Floogeldy]

19. Good advice

:thumbsup:

[xmas74]

21. I dispatch, remember?

I'm used to these calls.

[warsager]

18. keeping on top

[YellowRubberDuckie]

22. I called her mom...

Her mom took over the worrying and the responsibility. Everything is fine. She's fine. Thanks for the advice.
Duckie