The past rears its ugly head. Shit.

[Bunny]

I just went to our main office, to pick up some reports, and who did I see there? An ex-SO, father of my oldest kid. (The relationship did not end on a good note.) Unbeknownst to me, he was there visiting a mutual friend.

That was completely unexpected, I'm feeling gobsmacked. I've spent years putting him out of my head, and now he pops up from out of nowhere. Fuck.

[Richardo]

1. Sorry, Bunny

:hug:

No one needs the gobsmack.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

2. Deep breath

You're light years away from him. He's still out of your head, because that's how you want him to be.

It's all up to you. Go do something nice for yourself, take lots of deep breaths, and I hope to hell he's paid a lot of child support.

These things can only get to us if we let them. Be strong, honey.

[Rainbowreflect]

3. That sucks.

I can relate. I walked out of the theater after seeing Fahrenheit 911 & feeling totally emotionally drained & ran into my ex-husband. That was really weird.

[MissMillie]

4. Just because he was in the office

that doesn't mean he has to be back in your life, or in your head.

Let him go.

Think of something that makes you feel good.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

5. Good advice.

You can be thankful that you aren't stuck with him. :hug:

[mcscajun]

6. It'll be okay. In a few days, two weeks TOPS, you'll be right back where

you were.

How do I know? Some friends of mine (and I use the term 'friends' loosely here) invited me to a party at their place a few years back. Their home is a two-hour drive from mine, I might add.

When I get there, the wife tells me that my ex is outside on the deck. They Knew He Would Be Coming, and didn't tell me, even though all our mutual friends have been inviting us to separate events for years.

So she asked me (in the kitchen) "what are you going to do?" Well, what Could I do? There were other people there I did want to see, and I'd just driven for two hours. I stayed. I said maybe two sentences to him when he intruded into a conversation, and ignored him the rest of the day.

I had some choice words for the wife after he left, let me tell you. I heard later from some friends that 'she thought it was time...' as in, time I got over it.

NOT her choice! It took me two weeks to get back on an even keel. Your Mileage, hopefully, will vary.

Have a drink tonight with your dinner, and be good to yourself this week. Remind yourself of how far you've come since you left him and all the good things that have come into your life. The "ugh" will pass.