Question. Would you drive 3 hours to ...ummmmmm

[johnnie]

Am I wrong in thinking that driving 3 hours once in a while to spend the night with someone for a casual "encounter" just to have to drive that 3 hours the next morning to work is a little "pathetic"? Or is this a common thing? I'm not talking about a SO, just someone to do it with.
Personally I wouldn't do it, but maybe I am just not "hip" these days. What do you think? I'm just wondering.

[Lucky Luciano]

1. Well, if you need to get it out of your system and that is

the only option, then do it....but look for a closer friend.

[johnnie]

14. That's what I say

I would find someone closer.

[leftofthedial]

2. how good is it?

is there some reason not to "do it" closer to home?

need more info.

[johnnie]

6. Well

I know someone who does this. I tried to tell her that the guy is playing her, but she says "it's just sex". I don't really care what people do, but she seems to think that it is normal to do that.
She has other guys around her that she can hook up with, and she has, but she goes out to this guy's place too.
I'm not a prude, but I would think that if it is just to "do it" I would find someone closer than that.

[leftofthedial]

19. sounds like a "relationship"

not just doing it

or maybe he's, well, like a mule.

[tjdee]

29. Sounds like someone is kidding herself.

Three hours is a long way to drive for a casual hookup.

Sounds like she either values him as a friend, or digs him as something more. Especially if he's not driving to her.

[samplegirl]

36. Yeah

like about 3minutes from the urge!!!!

[Old_Fart]

18. I was thinking the same thing

I would drive from NY to CA if it was good :evilgrin:

[jpgray]

3. If I cared about the person--absolutely

I'm kind of pathetic that way. :)

[johnnie]

7. This is just casual

There isn't a chance that it can be anything else.

[MrScorpio]

4. I've travelled longer than that

Three hours is nothing

[johnnie]

16. Just for a casual affair?

[MrScorpio]

25. Yep

Actually it was for a month of casual affairs

[kid a]

5. hell yea!!!

[johnnie]

9. "Hell yea" it's worth it?

Or "hell yea" it's too far?

[swag]

8. Not pathetic at all.

I've driven farther than that for a very specific pork chop sandwich.

[johnnie]

11. Interesting

In my opinion, a 6 hour drive for a casual affair is a little too much.

[samplegirl]

28. Maybe

he should get a mail order bride

[GirlinContempt]

32. If I drove,

I'd drive that far for a good bowl of Fule

[MissB]

10. Pathetic

but I'm in my 30's, so maybe it is me that is pathetic. :shrug:

[johnnie]

12. The person I know is 40

So am I. I might have done it when I was in my 20's, but I don't think I would now.

[KG]

13. would I? would I?

hairlip, hairlip!

[jus_the_facts]

50. Mecka Lecka HIGH...Mecka HINEY HO.....

:rofl:

[KG]

51. heh.

was hoping someone would catch that!

yo, babe! :hi: :loveya: how's it hanging in north LA?

[jus_the_facts]

52. Yo' baby wasssup.........

.....hangin' loose...same shit different day...I memorized that damn show...."..it's on yer butt...it's on yer butt!!" :D

How's it hangin' in St. Pete?! :hi: :loveya:

[MnFats]

15. go. go now.

you will never find yourself 20 years from now saying 'gee, I'm sure glad I didn't waste three hours driving for an , um, close encounter.
go. not even close: go.

[johnnie]

17. Lol

It's not me. I wouldn't go that far just to get some. If I had a relationship with someone I dug, I would travel as far as I would need to, but not for a "quickie" with a "friend".

[Schema Thing]

30. You don't sound very horny right now. (eom)

[MnFats]

53. No. The Zoloft has seen to that n/t

[samplegirl]

31. 20yrs from now

you wont remember what happened yesterday.

[Old_Fart]

20. I would make the trip

What was the best sexual experience that you have ever had? Would you drive several hours to experience it all over again? :evilgrin:

[johnnie]

21. I can be a "hopeless romantic" too

But that is when I am in a relationship.
Honestly, I wouldn't drive that far for it, I don't care how good it is. I might do it once, but not once a month or so. Most of my encounters turned out pretty good, so why drive all night for it?

[Old_Fart]

22. I am a hopeless romantic "too"

But, I am old and pick-ins are slim so I would make the drive.

[johnnie]

23. Hell

Even at my age they are.

[samplegirl]

24. I wouldnt drive 3 minutes

for just a casual encounter. I must be a total square, but then
I dont think i've ever had to be that desperate.

[johnnie]

26. Desperate was the other word I was thinking

I wouldn't either..and I'm a man..LOL.

[purr]

27. I'd do it only if I was in a relationship...

Casual encounters are good for neighbors, etc. but not a 3 hr drive.

[GirlinContempt]

33. I dunno if it's common

but I don't think it's pathetic. If I found a guy who could do it for me I'd probably drive that far for him. If I drove.

[Tsiyu]

34. I bet this guy is just THAT good

When you find someone who knows how to tune your strings, you tend to want more of the same string tuning. Maybe the guys around her suck in bed or don't give off a vibe as if they will be sufficient as lovers.

Sex can be a very healing, spiritual thing. Even if it won't "lead to anything." If he makes her feel beautiful and alive, who are any of us to judge that?

;)

[johnnie]

37. I guess

Sex can also be overrated and a sign of deeper problems within ones mind. Some people also confuse sex with love and that isn't healthy.
I'm not really judging, I'm just asking what others think. I guess it's how far would someone go to "get off".
To me sex is "blah" without love, but I know that others think that any sex is just peachy as long as they get off, mentally or physically.

[Tsiyu]

39. It's different for each person at different times in their life

I used to be more judgemental (marriage to chronic cheaters will do that to a person) but as I age and mellow I see that each person has to make their own choice about these things.

Not having sex at all can be a sign of deeper problems. Anything can be a sign of deeper problems. I guess it's all her business in the end. :shrug:

[johnnie]

45. I agree...it's her business

I don't tell people what to do one way or another. I was just curious on what people thought of this. If they would do this.

[Left Is Write]

35. For just a thing? Just "someone to do it with"? No, I wouldn't.

But I probably wouldn't raise an eyebrow at someone who did. Needs is needs, I suppose, and it isn't up to me to determine how far is too far to drive for that.

[johnnie]

38. I guess I am just weird

Needs can be met in a lot of ways. Road trips for an "encounter" just seems a little much for me.

[Tsiyu]

40. Look at it this way

Some people drive hours to see musical groups they enjoy, when they could just stay in town and see local bands perform.

Some people wait hours in line to see movies or sporting events when they could stay home and watch a DVD or ESPN. Some people drive for entire weekends hunting antiques when they could just shop at yard sales in their neighborhood.

To quote Mr. Rogers: "Everybody's fancy, Everybody's fine"

[Left Is Write]

42. For me too, but that's me.

I'd drive three hours for someone with potential to be more than just a thing, but for a strictly casual encounter, I'd find that drive to be more trouble than it was worth.

[asthmaticeog]

41. There've been times I turned down just walking around the corner for it.

Maybe if it was someone so famous there'd be bragging rights. :shrug:

[johnnie]

44. I hear ya brother

I might wait for 3 hours for someone to come to me, but I wouldn't go that far when I could find it closer. Of course, like you said... if it was someone that I could have braggin' rights for, I might fill up the tank.

[xmas74]

43. No its not.

When you need it you need it. At least it's someone you know instead of a total stranger.

[sleipnir]

46. What part of the country?

Between Missouri and California= Not so lame.

Anywhere else= Lame

Northeast= Highly lame


It's just because in different parts of the country, driving time is subject to local interpreations of "a long drive."

If you're in Connecticut, say, driving more than 45 mintues is lame. But if you're in Wyoming, I wouldn't bat an eye at 90 minute drive for sex.

[terrya]

47. Sure.If you want to be with her. it's not pathetic. I think it's nice.

I think it's rather sweet. :-)

[Omphaloskepsis]

48. I would meet in the middle..

I think that would be romantic. But, I don't drive so I can't really say.

[sundog]

49. case sensitive...

depends on where i was in my soul at the time & what the mutual needs were... different needs at different times :)

currently, no... i'm so friggin tired at the end of the day, i can barely stay awake for a trip to the supermarket :P

[UdoKier]

54. Totally not worth it.

Unless you're very young and sex is still some big novelty to you. Or you're very in love. I'd rather sit home and take care of it myself than drive that far for a little slap and tickle.

Not pathetic, just impractical. Whatever.

[SKKY]

55. In my day, I would have driven 4 hours for a good booty call...