My Mom is gonna kick me out and rent my half of the duplex.

[ifyouknewsushi]

I wanna get advice from any of you that have any. I will try to keep this short and to the point.

After my father died we had a duplex and my mother said I could have the other half as long as I paid whatever I could. I usually paid 200-300 a month which is really low. We have lived there happily and often cook out and party together. Often joined by neighbors.

She is a good dem but also old time Christan. Against same sex, pro-life, but otherwise very progressive.

Over last weekend I had a girl over for the night. And yes it was that way. She noticed the car overnight and saw this girl leave in the morning. I told her it was something I needed to try and It was not me. That was the truth. But she was not gonna hear it.

She gave me 2 months to move to either her side of the duplex or move to somewhere else. She said I can get 700 a month and you disrespect our house like that!

I don't wanna move to her place cause then I can't be me. I like to play music and sometimes make other self made sounds.

I have two interviews in the morning early so I can't stay to talk with you all. I really would like any ideas you might have!! I am so happy DU is here and thank you all.

Suzi.

I will chime in tomorrow and Thank You All!!!

[acmavm]

1. How old are you?

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[WindRavenX]

2. JINX

That was my first response.
If you're 18, and your mom is giving you shit about what you do in YOUR private life and she ASKS about sexual shit- fuck that noise. RUN AWAY.

[ifyouknewsushi]

I am 29 and I thought I was helping her.

Guess not. She always said she loved having me there with her.

[tjdee]

9. You thought you were helping her with 200 when she could get 700?

Honestly?

I'm sure everything was going along great, and she loves having you there (I think she'll change her mind), but do you really think you were *helping* her (unless you cooked for her, did her errands, etc.)?

[acmavm]

10. Holy frigging smokes, you're 29 and she's treating you like you were

10?

Really, time to move on and get a life.

You probably were helping her. But you were also helping yourself big time with the 200 - 300 a month rent. But if you know that's she's sort of the fundie type, and it's her property, why are you surprised.

Do you want he to know every bit of your business for the rest of your life?

[SW FL Dem]

5. My question as well

If you are 18 or older, it may be time to move on.

[neuvocat]

3. So...ever thought about going away to college?

Just wondering.

[roguevalley]

4. I don't know what to tell you. See if she is breaking a verbal

contract or something. Otherwise, honey, I don't know. I do hug you long distance though.

[ifyouknewsushi]

8. She always said how nice it was to have me there.

I think the gay thing hurt her. And I am not gay but I did check it out. Thanks all and any advice again is welcome.

Suzi.

[Lex]

15. But it also was a way for her to monitor you and try to control your

personal decisions--gay or not.

After a while, that kind of monitoring is just too constricting, imho.

[Misunderestimator]

21. You "checked it out" ??? You checked out being gay?

Something just doesn't ring right about this to me. Call me skeptical.

[tjdee]

6. Maybe she'll change her mind? That seems really knee jerk.

My mom isn't the most liberal lady on the planet, and she's kind of mean about things sometimes too, but she wouldn't kick me out over one thing like this. Maybe your mother was shocked and upset for mothery reasons, but after a day/week or two maybe she'll listen to reason?

It may be a blessing in disguise though. You don't want your mother all up in your shit, even if it is very safe and the rent is crazy low.

on edit: Is it possible your mom just freaked out in general? Like, this was the last straw and you didn't see the first few straws? Does she think you are a slacker (my mom thinks I'm one and I don't even live there)? This "having a girl over' thing might be an excuse.

[Floogeldy]

7. Deep down . . .

. . . didn't you kinda know this might happen if you had a girlfriend over?

Maybe this is a good thing and it is time to move on to the next phase of your life.

B-)

[Maddy McCall]

12. Yep, I agree.

[Rowdyboy]

11. Sounds like you were close....Give her a little time to cope...She's your

mom and may well feel differently in a week or two. Give her plenty of SPACE. Ignore her for a couple of weeks. No chats, no talks, no dinners, and maybe she'll realize she likes having you around. If not, there are worse things than spreading your wings and gaining your independence...

When you do talk to her, tell her about the neat "hellhole" apartment you found in a high crime area and how cheap it is. Maybe ask her to go shopping for "window-bars" and dead bolt locks with you.

[Maddy McCall]

14. I did that once.

It worked. :D

[Rowdyboy]

17. Great minds think alike!

I never did but it would have worked. My mom could never stay angry with me for long. Thats one of her better qualities that I inherited. I CAN'T stay mad long and I know how to say "I'm sorry".

[Lex]

13. When you pay your own way entirely, you'll be beholden to no one

for the decisions you make that are personal--like having an overnight guest.

It really is liberating to be out on your own completely. I highly recommend it.

[AngryAmish]

16. I'd move out

However, if you have to change your paper route...

[OffWithTheirHeads]

18. Sorry, life is tough!

Time for you to figure it out. Stop sucking on your moms tit and start living your own life. Trust me, you can do it! The rest of the world has!

[ifyouknewsushi]

19. Thank you all for your responces.

I just got off an interview and I think it went well. I am gonna start looking for my own place as soon as I get a good job.

I think it is time for me to move on and find my own place in life.

Again thank you all!!

Suzi.

[Misunderestimator]

20. "Against same sex"... Same sex what exactly?

She is a good dem but also old time Christan. Against same sex, pro-life, but otherwise very progressive.

Sorry, but it just struck me how blithely you throw that out as if it's insignificant in the scheme of things. How exactly is she a good dem?

And this... "I told her it was something I needed to try and It was not me." Huh? You needed to try what? Try being gay? And you decided on the spot because of a sexual encounter that it "is not you?" I sure hope you were honest with the woman you had over about your intent.