My brother might marry a wicked woman, what do you think?

[Sequoia]

My brother is due to be married shortly but I was sent an email from my sister about her. What do you think?

"Seems Jack's new girlfriend has surfaced to be something she's not. Has an assualt charge against her for fist fighting with her neighbor, court date pending, and quit her job when she met J, being evicted from her apt for non payment, then being rude to Pipi (other sister) and telling J he doesn't have to cut Tara and Stella's (aunts, getting up in years) grass anymore, that has to stop, telling him, he has to come home for dinner, not eat with Pipi or Stella, then he has to sneak out to see relatives, she is rude and antisocial and trying to get J to marry her by July 1st. No church wedding, doesn't go to church like J who is a deacon at Trinity Babtist... telling him how to spend his money and all sorts of stuff. Also having these recurring dreams about the devil coming after him, dark side stuff which started when he met her...." (names have been changed)

I haven't met her, but I think he should get far away from her. Thanks.

[Kikosexy2]

1. Sounds...

like a wicked city woman--will she vamp you?

[MercutioATC]

2. Run AWAY!!!

Sounds like bad news to me...I wish your brother luck.

[ThomWV]

3. If You Aren't Marrying Her Then STFU n/t

[radwriter0555]

11. That sounds about right.

Guy is a grown up, he can make his own decisions.

[Catherine Vincent]

15. How rude.

[Sequoia]

19. Oh, so you're the wicked woman.

Take a chill pill.

[applegrove]

4. Ruuuuuuuuuuuun!

[FreedomAngel82]

5. Have you met her yourself??

Maybe you should meet her yourself. :shrug: Then get to know her and see what she's really like. Find out why your brother is in love with her.

[gratuitous]

6. Find out her favorite song

Learn to sing it backwards, then do a solo at the wedding.

It worked in an episode of South Park.

[rkc3]

13. That was the most inspiring episode ever. Reminded me of my first

marriage.

[atreides1]

7. It's his choice

If this is what he wants, then what can you do. If you really feel that he's making a mistake then get the rest of the family together and have an intervention.

Make sure you have all of the evidence that you claim to possess, and if everything you try fails then use his own religious teachings
and beliefs as a weapon.

Or just let him live with his decision.


Your choice, either way it's not going to be fun!

[Misunderestimator]

8. Is he desperate to be married or something?

All sorts of red flags should be up for him with this one.

[NV Whino]

9. If "J" can't figure this out on his own...

then he probably deserves what he most surely will get.

[KG]

10. TASER her!

[rkc3]

12. Sounds like my wife - where were you 11 years ago?

My advice for your brother - run, run like hell and don't turn back.

Seriously though, he needs someone to point out the things that are going on. Ask him if he thinks she's behaving this way because of pre-marital stress or if this is how he expects to have his life run.

[Catherine Vincent]

14. If he knows all of that about her, and still wants to marry her, then

that will be his problem. Maybe he thinks he can change/help her. Or she must be good in bed. :-)

[lumpy]

18. Hehe. Maybe a case of beaver fever.

Had that problem pop up in my family. Nothing but trouble.

[philosophie_en_rose]

16. Meet her yourself, but be honest.

Spreading second hand information to your brother is probably not going to change anything. You should try to meet his fiance and give her the benefit of the doubt.

However, if it's true that she's a beast, you have no obligation to be silent. Tell your brother that you realize he's in a tough position, but that he needs to figure out what he really wants. If he wants to mow Pipi and Stella's lawns, then he should do it. If he wants to marry a loser, he can. However, you respect him enough to be upfront with your concerns.

[CityDem]

17. Advise him to go on a long vacation

Maybe he needs some time to think about it before jumping into this marriage.

[Sequoia]

20. Thanks everyone.

[ieoeja]

21. Sounds to me like Jack's tired of his family.

Probably feels like he's put upon too much. I know I sometimes sick and tired of certain relatives calling me for this or that. Jack and I aren't going to stop, cause they're family. And we're not going to complain to them because we don't want to hurt their feelings. To others we complain.

Neither of us really wants to stop helping. It just that everyone gets tired of his or her responsibilities from time to time.

His girlfriend sounds like she doesn't understand this. This is, in fact, why I am not dating a certain female right now. She seems to think that I should dump on everyone who inconveniences me. Does she not realize that would include her? Probably not. Some people just can't see past their own narrow concerns, and that is what Jack's girlfriend sounds like to me.

So should he dump her? I would. That's up to Jack. If I were you I'd work more on the family's relationship with Jack and worry less about his relationship with nookie.