If the guy you're attracted to keeps calling you "dude"

[Kathleen04]

and you're not a dude and he's not a surfer, is that a bad sign? :freak:

[Floogeldy]

1. Not a bad sign

He considers you his friend and equal.

Don't panic.

B-)

[Kathleen04]

3. Okay, sounds good to me

I will accept that answer. ;)

[BikeWriter]

2. Hmm, that sounds somewhat immature to me... I can't recall ever...

calling a Lady "Dude" in my life.

[Kathleen04]

5. Well, we are immature for sure..

We're both 19, so that accounts for that..

[BikeWriter]

7. Perhaps so...

[jobycom]

4. No, good sign

He's trying to make you notice him, and he's relaxed enough that he doesn't act formal.

[the_spectator]

6. But all the young girls seem to call each other "dude" these days -

How old is he? Is it that it's OK for girls to call each other dude, but not for a guy to call a girl that? Sort of like racial slurs only acceptable when used amongst that racial group?

:shrug:

[Kathleen04]

8. Yeah, this is true..

I actually call my girlfriends "dude" and they call me "dude", but something about having the guy you're attracted to call you "dude" makes you go, "wait, I'm not a dude..do I look like a dude to you??".. :+ Not that I really take it that seriously, of course.

And, on edit: we're 19...

[the_spectator]

16. That makes sense.

Don't take it seriously. It's just a subtlety of contemporary usage ettiquette he hasn't figured out yet!

[LastKnight]

9. next time he does that

just grab him and lay a big sloppy one on him. right on the lips...

that or suggest to hang out alone some night... dinner and a date-ish movie. and when it comes time to say goodnight give him a hug and refuse to let go until he lays one on YOU, that usuially gets the hint to us thick guys... (that one actuially has been used on me, yea im one of those thick guys sometimes)

fortune favors the bold, they say.

[Kathleen04]

12. Haha

Well, that WOULD be interesting. :P

[LastKnight]

15. check the edit.

i put a more realistic option in there too... lol.

[Kathleen04]

17. lol..

That is more realistic. Perhaps I will try something like that. :)

[Crazy Guggenheim]

10. Maybe he could just call you friend ...............

:hide:

[Kathleen04]

18. Well, thats kind of what I was wondering

Is the direct translation of dude "friend" as in "just a friend"?

[Trish]

11. Well, I'm out of my twenties.....

and my guy and I both call each other Dude.....
Immature we may be,
but happy?? We are!
:)

[tarkus]

13. I say dude far too much, and I'm not a surfer.

And a "dude" isn't even a person for me sometimes.

But now that I think about it I don't really like it when other people say the word...

[LynnTheDem]

14. Hey it beats being called "dudette".

[WCGreen]

19. If he's calling you dude, then he's propably

clueless as to how to express his feelings....

I know a lot of young people, I'm an old fart, I can call people that age, 18-19, young people, call each other dude. Back in my day it was hey man, whether you were a dude or a chick......

So, most guys that age are totally clueless, I was. so just make the first move... Don't torture yourself trying to figure out what is going on inside his head,,,,,,,

[bettyellen]

20. i was proposed to be a man who called me "dude" sometimes....

he actually really disliked the name betty. he much preferred elizabeth but i was not going for that. i think we cycled through a half dozen pet names that i wasn't so fond of. dude i could live with, but him, alas i could not.

[ghostsofgiants]

21. Not a bad sign at all

I know I personally have a tendency to call everyone dude. I don't know why. Has nothing to do with thinking a girl looks like a dude or anything of the sort.

[hfojvt]

22. just tell him "you go, girl" n/t

[Kathleen04]

23. Haha

That reaction would be a good one. :rofl: