My Wife (CYLRC) Had a Miscarriage

[JCMach1]

She had to have an emergency D&C last night. :(

She is okay and doing fine...

She had one of those weird pregnancies where apparently (easy to see from the ultrasound) the fetus was either reabsorbed by the body, or just completely stopped growing and disappeared.

She will no doubt be back to DU in a few days.

[auntAgonist]

1. how sad

I'm sorry for your loss and sincerely hope your wife's feeling physically better soon.

It's a rough situation to be in, please be gentle with each other.


:hug:

[Justice]

2. I am sorry, very sorry for you both

[burrowowl]

3. My condolences

and I hope she is alright.

[Der Blaue Engel]

4. I'm so sorry, JCMach

:( :hug:

[KT2000]

5. I am so sorry

this is a sad thing for you both - take care.

[elshiva]

6. SORRY! Hope she's back and healthy soon!

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

7. My best wishes for a speedy recovery,

I'm sorry for your loss.

[maveric]

8. So sorry.

:cry:

[DemBones DemBones]

9. I'm so sorry. Losing a baby is

a very sad experience and one that our society doesn't usually allow us to grieve. You don't have to have seen your unborn child to love him/her but many people expect you to just suck it up and carry on as if it never happened. :-(

:grouphug: for you both

P.S. I'm not sure how old your other children are, but be alert to them having emotional upsets, fears, etc., about the lost sibling. Many kids fear that their own ambivalence or negativity about a new baby disrupting their lives somehow caused the baby's death. They may also have fears about their mother dying, now seeing her as vulnerable, not immortal. When we lost our second child, it took our daughter at least a year to get over it.

[NMMNG]

10. I am sorry to hear that JCMach

Please give her my condolences :hug:

I'm sure this must be a difficult time for the both of you. I will keep you both in my thoughts.

With metta

[WCGreen]

11. Yea, we suffered through many mis

ourselfs....

You do need to grieve......

Check out your hospital to see if they have a counselor who can direct you to a local group....

I'm not a touchy feely type of guy but I did feel better after going to one session...

And I know Mrs. WC Green felt a whole lot better to talk about her feelings with other people who could relate.....

[uppityperson]

12. Sorry for you.

Sounds like one of those things. Take it easy, both of you, and don't be suprised if either of you takes it hard, or says it is just 1 of those things as both these are normal and common reactions. It happens to a lot of us, and it can be difficult. Sorry for you.

[deadparrot]

13. I'm so sorry, JCMach1.

That's terrible. Hope she feels better (physcially and emotionally) soon, and best wishes to both of you in the future.

[lildreamer316]

14. My heart goes to you.

Hug her lots & lots.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

15. Hugs to you both .

[alphafemale]

16. (((CYLRC JCMach1)))

:hug:

There's no words, really.

Hold each other.

[xmas74]

17. I'm so sorry for both of you.

[BikeWriter]

18. I'm so very sorry for your loss. :-(

[Bossy Monkey]

19. All condolences. Best wishes to you both. nt

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

20. I'm very sorry to hear this, JCMach1

Please send her my love and well wishes. :hug:

[bliss_eternal]

21. Oh gosh--I'm SO sorry to hear this!

This sort of thing is never easy on a woman or her spouse. I'll hold good thoughts for both of you.

:hug:

[Amaya]

22. I'm so sorry

Just be kind to each other.

Peace to you both.

[BlondieK143]

23. I'm so sorry!

My thoughts are with you and your wife. :hug:

[youthere]

24. So sorry to hear this.

I hope she and you will be okay.

[xultar]

25. CYLRC & JCMach1 I'm sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking about you

and I know you'll see brighter days and hear the pitter patter of lil feet!

[JimmyJazz]

26. I am terribly sorry for your loss

:hug:

[Debbi801]

27. I'm sorry for both of you...

you're in my thoughts.

:hug:

[ProfessorGAC]

28. Sorry JC

My wife and i went through that three times. Tough situation. Hang in there.
The Professor

[Maddy McCall]

29. Been through this myself. Several times before I had my son.

And my pregnancy with my son was absolutely normal. I'm not saying that to lessen your loss, but just to give you hope that even women who go through multiple miscarriages can have healthy pregnancies.

I don't know if you are open to advice, but I'm going to say a few things to you. First, and I don't know why, but society ignores miscarriages as if they are something shameful to go through. People will say ignorant things to your wife like, "There must have been something wrong with the baby," or "You can always have another," or "God knows what's right, and you can't question his decision to take the baby."

Hold your wife. Express your loss to her. Cry with her. Don't let her go through this alone.

When I lost my second pregnancy, a friend brought me a book entitled "Getting Pregnant and Staying Pregnant." I don't suggest the book to you because of the advice on the topic that the title suggests, but because there is some excellent poetry in it, written by women who have had miscarriages. That poetry carried me through the emotionally traumatic time of post-miscarriage. I still have the book.

Please give your wife a huge hug from me, and please tell her that she can PM me if she wants to just talk, to someone who's been there before. Give her my love, and much love to you, too.

:loveya: :hug:

[progmom]

34. Maddy - this was a beautiful post.

Having watched friends and family go through this, I think your advice is spot-on. :hug:

[Patiod]

30. Sorry for your loss

Friends who have miscarried have said it's rougher than they expected.

Sounds like you'll be there for her, though.

[Shell Beau]

31. I am sorry. I know

how it feels. I had an ectopic pregnancy last year. It is hurtful b/c you get so excited about it. I am in the process of trying again. It took me almost a year to try again (I had to wait 6 months)! Stay strong for her! I am praying for y'all!!

[progmom]

32. I'm terribly sorry to hear this.

You have my sympathy and love in this difficult time. :hug:

[AlGore-08.com]

33. I'm so sorry for your loss, JCMach1

I hope your wife has a speedy recovery.

[Richardo]

35. So sorry - my sincere condolences to you and CYLRC...

I know how you are feeling right now. :hug:

[Crewleader]

36. You have my deepest sympathy JCMach1 & CYLRC

...you and your family are in my prays. :hug:

[Misunderestimator]

37. How awful... so sorry.

:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

38. I'm really sorry to read this.

My best to you both.

[flamingyouth]

39. I'm very sorry for both of you

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

40. I'm sorry, JCMach1.

[Midlodemocrat]

41. So very sorry for your loss.

You and your wife are in my prayers.


:hug:

[underpants]

42. I am so sorry

Please give her our best (my wife and I).

[Chichiri]

43. I'm so sorry to hear that

:(

You'll be in my thoughts.

[fudge stripe cookays]

44. So sorry JC....

I have been there myself, and know that it is indeed emotionally and PHYSCIALLY painful.

Just be there for her. I'll be thinking of both of you.
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