Self-delete

[MissHoneychurch]

it is better that way.

[Kenneth ken]

1. ask his wife if it's okay with her

if she's fine with, I guess go ahead.

Myself, I would give it a miss.

[MissHoneychurch]

2. I know his wife won't be ok with it

he really took me by surprise yesterday when he told me

[Kenneth ken]

3. okay

you could always get back together with you ex-BF - I mean, if you don't mind a being with a guy who cheats and lies. . . you'd be getting the same thing with the married guy, except you'd know he was cheating and telling lies; so what's the difference really?

[HamstersFromHell]

4. Take a pass on that.

Relationships were made for two. Can't see any future in sharing.

[MissHoneychurch]

6. I don't plan to have a relationship with him

and to tell the truth I don't feel good with the idea that he cheats on his wife with me. I just know the sex was good with him. I think I already made my decision to decline. I just want to know how the Lounge feels about it.

[HamstersFromHell]

8. Then I think you've made the right choice.

You're still way early into the "getting over it" part of being lied to with your previous b/f. Hooking up with someone you already know is lying to at least one of you (you and his wife) isn't the way to clear your mind of what you've been through, even if he could lick his eyebrows while breathing through his ears. :)

[MissHoneychurch]

10. Thanks

:hug:


that offer just goes around in my head since last night. But I already didn't feel good about it when he firt came up with it.

[LastKnight]

5. sounds to me

like he may be looking to take advantage of you. unless he was joking, but if that where the case and you knew it was the case i doubt you'd be posting. id pass if i were you.

if you do end up doing it; dont get attached.

[MissHoneychurch]

7. he is a good friend by now

we talked a lot when he had problems with his now wife and I told him about my now ex-bf.
I couldn't quite tell if he was joking or not. But I think I will pretend that I see it that way. I don't want to screw up our friendship.

[Robeson]

9. Listen MissHoneychurch.....

...please don't take offense, but I'm not sure I know what to say to you anymore. Once again, I'm going to give you some mature advice....Please don't start screwing the latest guy who is committed to another woman, after you have just dumped a guy for being committed/screwing other women.

Please look on the net, or go to the library and look up codependency. You wouldn't have even posted this, if you truly understood it.

And by-the-way, if he truly was a "friend", he wouldn't be trying to get into your pants. Friends would not try to have an affair with you if they were married. Married people that are worth your friendship are not people who would offer themselves to sleep with you.

I'm really at a loss as to what to tell you at this point.

[MissHoneychurch]

11. thanks for the advice

I think I can't really think straight at the moment. As I already told others I am actually not thinking about taking him on his offer. When I think about it I have a knot in my stomach and that tells me to say no.

[Swamp Rat]

12. Humans are overrated anyway.

Wie geht's? :D

[MissHoneychurch]

13. what do you think how I am doing?

angry and pissed about my ex. But otherwise ok.