How do people who don't know you well perceive you?

[progmom]

I'm talking "real life"
Can you sum it up in one short sentence?

I'm the tall goofy girl with all the hair.


Who are you?

[GOPisEvil]

1. The quiet one who doesn't say much. People also tell me to 'smile' a lot.

I'm in a perfectly happy mood on the inside, but apparently, on the outside, I look like I'm upset or sad. :shrug:

[Richardo]

49. I get that a lot too, GOPisEvil...

People ask me: "Why doesn't GOPisEvil cheer up?" :hi:

Not really. But they DO ask me "What's wrong?" or "Cheer up!" when I'm actually feeling just fine. :crazy:

[Theres-a]

57. Me,too

I hate when people tell me to smile.It's usually the same kind of idiots who say things like "Hot enough for ya?"

[Dervill Crow]

88. Me, too.

I like the Ringo Starr quote, "I'm not miserable, it's just me face."

[Bouncy Ball]

92. And you cuss a LOT when you are angry.

Like a lot a lot a lot.

:D

[GOPisEvil]

94. Yeah, you know when I'm pissed.

:7

[Bouncy Ball]

96. I guess that's a good thing, actually.

No guesswork with GOPisEvil. He's mad? YOU KNOW IT!

:rofl:

[Left Is Write]

108. That describes me too, doesn't it?

If I say the "f" word...well, you know what that means! ;)

[Wapsie B]

105. You too?

I get that all the time.

[Left Is Write]

107. I get told to smile a lot too.

I could be absolutely content, but my face in repose evidently looks angry.

[GOPisEvil]

109. That's the sentence I was looking for.

I could be absolutely content, but my face in repose evidently looks angry.

That sums it up perfectly.

[newportdadde]

2. Clean cut boy next door with a bit of dork thrown in.

I probably also look like a freeper, short hair, kakis, button down the front shirt etc.

[progmom]

3. nah - that doesn't make you look like a freeper

:hi:

[In_The_Wind]

4. aloof

[progmom]

5. i didn't get that at all

:hi:

[In_The_Wind]

27. that's because I already felt as if I had friends at DU

when I was a young adult in the late 60's I worked as a waitress in a busy upscale bar/lounge ... I can remember other cocktail waitresses complaining about the men patting them on the ass ~ I never had that problem ~ I have always projected an unapproachable manner to people that I don't know well

When I met you in Boston it was the first time since 12/26/01 that I've been around more than a very small handful of people at one time. I actually started my withdrawal from society in 1995 after a neck injury that left me with severe headaches 24/7. I picked a good bunch of people for my return to the real world when I met everyone on Friday night. I was in town a day earlier so the first DUer that I met was Will Pitt.

but ... bottom line ~ I've had more than one person tell me that I am the most "alone" person they've ever met

[GOPisEvil]

8. Sometimes my shyness gets misinterpreted as aloof too.

:)

[In_The_Wind]

33. mine too ~ I honestly have to push myself to be around other people

the evidence to back that up is very clear when I look at my posting times at DU. I connect with people on this site more than I ever have with people in the past... which is why after posting with some DUers I want to meet them in real time if it's possible because I've gotten over some of my shyness ... BTW I've also been told that I hide my feelings very well so some of the time that I appear to be self-assured I'm actually quaking in my boots

:hi:

[Moriarty]

63. Exactly the same for me. (nt)

[Misunderestimator]

28. I get that too...

:hi:

[In_The_Wind]

34. the gregarious me that you see me posting is all a bluff for the shy me

that's really inside here

:hi: Misunderestimator

[Misunderestimator]

35. I can identify with that...

I used performing to save myself from my shyness... it worked well, but it's always an effort until I know someone well.

[In_The_Wind]

36. sometimes my efforts are rewarded with new acquaintances ...

that might become friends

... and sometimes I just go home a feel like crying :shrug: what's the point ~ at least my parrot and my old golden retriever love me ... so there

[Misunderestimator]

38. Aw... a Parrot and a Retriever...

How cute. I look forward to meeting you someday JA... :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

41. I really would like to meet you too

:hug:

[kick-ass-bob]

6. DAMN! WHAT A HOTTIE!

:P

:D

[supernova]

7. Aloof, reserved

The more people there are, the quieter I become.

I'm much more lively around 3-4 people as opposed to a roomful.

[Jeff In Milwaukee]

9. People think I'm a Republican!

I'm a white middle-aged suburban male who works in Finance. I have to constantly reassure people that I really am a Democrat, and a damned liberal one at that. I think I need some kind of ID card, secret handshake, something.

[Beware the Beast Man]

10. The funny fat guy.

[Blue-Jay]

46. Oh, bullshit.

You're not THAT funny!

:D

[jmm]

11. I had this conversation with friend recently

She said when people first get to know me they think I'm earthy and eclectic but once they get to know me I seem intelligent. I guess that was a compliment :shrug:.

[progmom]

12. you definitely have that intelligent look about you

i don't think we talked much at all at the meet-up, so i have to go by appearances. but yeah - you give off an intellectual vibe. :hi:

[jmm]

26. DU needs more meet-ups so I can have more time to

talk to people. I don't take compliments well so when she said that all I could think was is she claiming one can't be earthy, eclectic, and intelligent? Did I not seem intelligent when we met?

[Zuni]

13. a weird zany character with a plaid fetish

:hi:

[progmom]

14. you have a plaid fetish?

[Zuni]

17. I love plaid

I wear plaid shirts nearly every day

[progmom]

18. are you my husband?

[Zuni]

21. I wish

:D

[sundog]

15. quiet

little do they know :evilgrin:

[progmom]

16. you have the warmest, kindest voice

:hi:

[sundog]

24. that's cause i was talking into my vocoder

i actually sound like joan rivers when i speak

[Zuni]

29. LOL

:rofl:

[JimmyJazz]

19. Serious and intense.

But that's because most people who know me outside of my home, know me from work and I can get a little "focused." I'm also a pain in the ass when I want something done.

[mopinko]

20. i'm the crazy lady

with the big boobs and the silver buzz. and the buttons.

[FLSurfer]

22. Most people think I smoke alot of pot.

Owning a surf shop, rarely wearing shoes, driving a VW van, has probably helped people make that assumption.

[texas1928]

23. I am a quiet shy guy.

Til i get to know you, then I am a character.

[stellanoir]

25. As someone who wears far too much purple.

No really I've no clue as I live in a small town where there is far too much unsubstantiated gossip so I stay pretty much oblivious because I've heard absolutely ridiculous rumors about myself so I've learned to try to just laugh it all off.

:

[murielm99]

39. I live in a small town, too.

We tend to get classified as a family unit.

"Those Greens...Those Smiths...Those Joneses...they always...they are all kind of..."

[stellanoir]

52. well it's slightly different here

as I'm from a relatively small family that's part of a huge clan so thankfully they can't really lump us all together.

[johnnie]

30. I would say

A smartass with messy hair.

[yvr girl]

31. Friendly but quiet

I think my quirky sense of humour comes through though.

[fudge stripe cookays]

32. Hmmmm....funny and perky are words I get a lot.

I'm pretty average looking, but people are usually impressed with my extreme in-your-face friendliness if I like you, and complete standoffishness if I get bad vibes from you.

People know where they stand with me from minute 1. I'm a very "out there" person, as far as my moods are concerned. No hiding anything.

And I'm the ballsy one wearing obnoxiously liberal shirts in the middle of freeperland just to annoy freepers. I get off on the hostility.

FSC

[tigereye]

55. hey FSC!

how ya doin'? :hi:

you ARE very friendly!

[fudge stripe cookays]

104. Hey sweetie!

Thanks!

I try! :hi: (<---being friendly again)
FSC

[ghostsofgiants]

37. People who don't know me too well generally think I'm a bit of a stoner...

Which is ironically hilarious.

Aside from that: smart, witty and harmless.

[SarahB]

40. I'm the blonde with the boobs.

:eyes:

I'd like to think those who know me more know that I very much am more though. :D

[In_The_Wind]

42. ahem ... I'm the other blonde with the boobs

and legs .. :shrug: .. whatever


:hug: SarahBelle

[SarahB]

44. It's nice when people see past that.

Part of why I like the internets too. My brain can actually be noticed a little too (not that I'm shy about the other stuff, but it's not so THERE). :D

[In_The_Wind]

50. I so totally agree with that!

When I was younger all men saw was the way I looked and when they found out that I wasn't a dumb blonde ~ I lost my appeal for most of them. I mean really ... how can a man listen to what's going on in my head if he can't look above my chest:grr:

[Pale Blue Dot]

43. You are so much more than that.

You also have glasses. :evilgrin:

Actually, I'm very honored to know the side of you most people miss - it's the side I fell in love with. :loveya:

[SarahB]

45. You're just saying that because...

you want someone to do the science and geography parts on your trivial pursuit team? :P

Actually, I know you see me for more. You always have. That's (a part of) why I fell back. :loveya:

[Pale Blue Dot]

51. I don't need your help!

What's that river in Eqypt, again? :shrug:

:loveya:

[Beware the Beast Man]

60. ...

[Kathleen04]

102. Haha

Sorry SarahBelle and Finnfan, but this cracked me up. :rofl:

[Shell Beau]

47. I am not sure.

I have been told I look like a sweet innocent teenager (I will be 27 next week), but I have also been told I look snobby. I don't know why I would look snobby. I am the complete opposite of snobby. :shrug:

[Blue-Jay]

48. Affable. Somewhat amusing. Ordinary-looking.

[tigereye]

56. aw

I thought you were cute and quite smart! :hi:

[Blue-Jay]

62. *muah*

Thanks, bebe! :blush:

[Jara sang]

53. The genius escapee from a government lab who starts fires with his mind.

This is a cry for help.

[sniffa]

54. that guy they Love to hate

[tigereye]

58. hmmm

1. that nice lady who's that tall kid's mom.

[Deja Q]

59. An insecure, intimidated, intimidating freak.

Trust me.

[khashka]

72. We can't trust you on this

Lots of other stuff, sure. Yourself, no way.

You insecure, intimidated, intimidating freak! (But cute as well)


Khash.

[Dervill Crow]

93. That makes sense to me.

I've been told by my boss that I intimidate people at work. I don't get it.

[El Fuego]

61. The blond.

That's it.

[datasuspect]

64. people are often suspicious of me

i get eye fucked a lot by mainstream types when i am walking around in the wee hours.

white women hustle into their doors quick or clutch their purses tightly when i walk past.

when i stand at a bus stop, i always hear the doors locking in cars at the stop light.

[eyesroll]

65. I'm the short, smart brunette with the glasses.

Or, depending on if the immediate situation, I'm the short, smart brunette with the glasses who (just fell flat on her ass) (spilled coffee all over herself not five minutes ago) (made a wrong turn and isn't here yet).

[Kathy in Cambridge]

66. The shy, retiring wallflower with a quiet demeanor

[progmom]

67. HA!

:rofl:

[GOPisEvil]

70. .

:spray::rofl:

[Kathy in Cambridge]

76. Aww, c'mon, you know I'm Caspar Milquetoast.

I didn't yell at anyone when you were in town, did I? :blush:

[progmom]

79. you are absolutely, positively...

one of the kindest, most caring and wonderful people i know.

but you were kidding about that other stuff....right?

[Kathy in Cambridge]

80. Aw shucks

:blush:

so are you, progmom. Yes, I know I'm not shy. I was kidding. ;-)

[Kathy in Cambridge]

81. Dupe

woops

[GOPisEvil]

83. No yelling. At least not that I heard.

But shy, you are not. :)

[WeRQ4U]

68. I'm the tall, intimidating prick who doesn't talk to those he doesn't know

I'm actually a very nice person, just a little shy and quite often in my own little world. Once you know me, you'll like me...........OR ELSE!

[Trigger Hippie]

69. shy, yet goofy

in another world....:hide:

[khashka]

71. Scary

That's the usual response. Tats, multiple piercings, a tendency to dye my hair weird colours. I usually wear cargo pants that I've cut up to make em comfortable, a ratty holey T-shirt, and flip flops.

I was smoking in my parents' backyard (can't smoke inside) and my mom had a friend over - she asked my mom why was there a homeless man in her backyard and should they call the police (I heard it).

A girl I knew told me she had always wanted to be friends but was afraid I'd kill her, chop her up in pieces, etc.

Me! Mr. Sensitive! Mr. Fluffy Bunny! Mr. I'll cry at the drop of a Kleenex! And people (lots of them) are terrified of me. Seriously. I'm totally nonplussed.

But I guess scary is the right description. I'm not a serial killer, I just play one in other peoples' perceptions.

Khash.

[Heidi]

73. Problem solver, consensus seeker.

And then, like you, progmom, there's the hair thing, too. :shrug:

But in reality, who I am has little to do with how others see me. Coinky-dinks happen.

[tenshi816]

74. I'm often perceived as gregarious,

when I'm really very shy and lacking in confidence.

Also, I'm another woman known as "the one with the boobs". Men talk to my chest a lot, which is kind of funny since I'm only 5'3" and most people already have to look down to talk to me.

Edited to take out a couple of words.

[progmom]

75. When I tell people I'm terribly shy, they think I'm kidding

So I think I know what you mean.

[tenshi816]

78. Yeah, it's weird, isn't it?

I'm an only child so I've always been comfortable being alone, but for me the result of having no siblings is that I was an incredibly quiet and shy child. Somewhere along the way it changed and people started viewing me differently, as a gregarious social animal.

As an adult, when I'm with people I'm comfortable with, I am talkative and confident, but I have to suss out any new social situation to get a feel for it before I open up (or not, as the case may be). Even if I appear completely relaxed and chatty on the outside, on the inside I'm still that shy little girl I used to be.

[u4ic]

77. I seem to have 2 personas

either "does she ever talk?" or "does that loon ever shut up?!"

The latter seems to come out in small groups or one on one. The former is reserved for larger groups or in some cases, people I don't know well.

[GOPisEvil]

82. Are you a Gemini?

Because that's my excuse. :hi:

[u4ic]

84. No, can't use that as an excuse

I just chalk it up to I yam who I yam. :hi:

[GOPisEvil]

95. Well, we're similar in that regard.

:)

[maveric]

85. As a Stutterer I'm often perceived as a "retard", or drunk/on drugs.

The first impressions often kill me.

[bicentennial_baby]

86. I think I'm a snob

or something to other people...it's not that, i'm just shy around people i don't know at all, esp. in groups.

One on one, I'm quite personable :P

...some would say too much so :evilgrin:

[Lilith Velkor]

87. They don't.

I'm the ninja. Nobody sees me up close and lives to tell the tale.

[slackmaster]

89. Bearded, long-haired techie who always follows through

They don't know what a slackass I am in my spare time.

[Dervill Crow]

90. Invisible.

I attended a fairly small church for ten years, and almost every week someone I had already met would ask me if I was new. I'm way too quiet.

[bridgit]

91. "real life", very well thank you...

a bit of a blessing, my technical reputation precedes me :thumbsup:

[MrScorpio]

97. The tall guy, with big shoulders who carries himself well

"You're ex-military, ain't you?"

[Individualist]

98. distant, aloof

[Lone_Star_Dem]

99. This is funny

They think I'm a social extrovert and well grounded.

That's not me, but rather just what they perceive me to be. The truth is I'm painfully shy around strangers, but I refuse to leave someone else sitting looking lonely. As for the well grounded thing, I'm a dreamer who seldom removes her head from the clouds.

[Kathleen04]

100. The quiet girl with the curly hair

People who know me know I'm not quiet. :)

[enigmatic]

101. I look like guy you'd cross the street to avoid..

Even though I'm pretty laid-back. But it's helped me more than once in a dicey situation..

[Susang]

103. I have no idea anymore

I have a feeling it varies from day to day and is extremely mood dependant. My mood, that is. ;-)

[Left Is Write]

106. I don't know. Really.