tell me not to freak the fuck out.

[ulysses]

Got a call today from our adoption agency. Our current birthmom has had outpatient psychiatric care in the past, and the agency needs a competency statement from an MD before she can relinquish the baby in order to protect themselves and us from possible lawsuits down the road. She's fine with meeting with someone for the purpose, so no problem, right?

They can't find someone in her area to do a psych assessment. She's due in 12 days. Which means that we might have to do the adoption privately - more money and risk. Plus, under GA law, we wouldn't be able to help her with expenses beyond legal and medical, which we're trying to do.

:banghead:

[In_The_Wind]

1. please don't freak out

can't they keep looking for someone to the evaluation

[JimmyJazz]

2. I don't know what to tell you, except that I will keep you and your

wife and everyone involved in my thoughts. :hug:

[GOPisEvil]

3. Oh good lord...

...I do hope it all works out. Your struggles in this area will make your final success sweeter.

:hug: for you and Mrs. Uly.

[ulysses]

5. if we ever get to that final success.

This is match #5, y'know. We've long since passed the "what doesn't kill you" stage.

Thanks, David.

[napi21]

4. Can you find a psych analyist somewhere else to come to Ga

and perform the assessment here? If she's due in 12 days, she obviously shouldn't be traveling herself, but a Dr. could.

[Shell Beau]

6. I hope all works out! Good luck and have a hug!

:hug:

[ceile]

7. Have you tried your local mental health authority?

You may have to fib a little to get her an appointment, but you may be able to get it done.
Good Luck!!!

[proud2BlibKansan]

8. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you

It just has to work out.

[ulysses]

9. thanks, everyone

They're still looking (as are we, now).

[supernova]

10. Keeping you in my thoughts

Wish I knew what to tell you. I'm sorry. :hug:

[Lone_Star_Dem]

11. I'm wishing you the best of luck

I hope this is the last piece of red tape you have to deal with.

[SarahB]

12. I hope things work out.

I am so sorry this has been such a struggle for you both. :hug:

[leftofthedial]

13. I just helped my sister and BIL during a marathon

pain-in-the-rear, roadblocks every week for a year, bureaucratic BS adoption process.

They adoption of my new nephew was final on Friday.

I don't know how to help with your specific issue, but my best advice is to keep the child uppermost in your thoughts. Ultimately, these tests are the first of many problems you will face with your new child. Love will conquer all.

Hang in there. Best of luck!

[Spinzonner]

14. I would check with the local/state AMA

Quite likely they don't do referrals but they might have advice on how to find someone or get a referral through some other agency.

I'm really surprised that the adoption agency isn't more knowledgeable and aggressive about it.

[redqueen]

15. Let's hope that baby stays in there a while longer than expected...

and that they find someone to travel and do the psych assessment.

:pals:

[ulysses]

16. update

I just got a call back from a most helpful psychologist in town who's put me in touch with some folks in our birthmom's area. There's hope.

Thanks again, y'all. :)