do you care when people talk shit behind your back?

[sundog]

Poll question: do you care when people talk shit behind your back?

[Kikosexy2]

1. Why...

should I let it....when I can do the same..."If you've got nothing nice to say about somebody...come sit next to me"--Steel Magnolias

[evlbstrd]

11. They swiped that from Dorothy Parker.

[jonnyblitz]

2. other. i dont care as long as i dont hear what was said.

i hate hearing what is said about me otherwise i expect people to do it. it's human nature. just don't tell me what was said. :(

[sniffa]

6. you sure?

:P

[jonnyblitz]

9. i hate hearing what people say about me, yes..

otherwise what i don't know won't hurt me...

[sundog]

7. good point.

some stuff can be pretty cruel. i get your drift :hi:

[sundog]

3. fuck no.

:7

[skygazer]

4. I voted "other"

For the most part, it doesn't bug me but if it's a case of someone badmouthing my integrity or honesty to someone who doesn't already know me and so might believe it, that can kinda bother me. Or if it's someone I thought was a friend, that's gonna bug me.

Edited to add - long ago, I adopted the policy of not saying anything about anyone behind their back that I wouldn't say to their face. It's kept me out of a lot of trouble because really it always gets back to a person.

[Maddy McCall]

5. That shit is bananas.

B.A.N.A.N.A.S!

Hi. :7

(I'm channeling Gwen Stefani. :silly: )

[Left_Winger]

8. In my opinion

they are only trying to build themselves up by tearing others down; they do not have the guts to say it openly and allow for a rebuttal.

[sundog]

18. ding

:7

[Elidor]

22. I talk trash about a co-worker behind her back

Not to build myself up, but to take out my frustration without making it impossible for us to work together. Just last week I was begging the boss to fire her incompetent, dishonest, manipulative little bitchy ass.

[Left_Winger]

26. OK, there are exceptions

My earlier statement was basically in reference to where I have worked.

[foreigncorrespondent]

10. Absolutely not!

I figure if they are going to do that, then they were never a true friend in the first place. Ad if the peopel they are telling their little stories to believe them, then they also are not true friends in the first place.

[Kerrytravelers]

12. Depends on who is saying what and who they're talking to.

When people talk shit about someone to me, it lowers my opinion of the shit-talker (usually.) For me, I tend not to tell them anything for fear they will use my words in their shit-talking... and include me!

[SOteric]

13. I used to, - like, - when I was a teenager maybe,

but I've long since quit giving a flying fuck at a rolling donut.

Well, - let me amend that. I care what a lover says about me behind my back. I'm deeply interested in what my boss says about me behind my back. It concerns me what a very few members of my immediate family say behind my back. And possibly a long time friend or two. But in general, notsomuch.

What an individual says about someone else really tells one a great deal more about that individual.

[sundog]

17. nice answer

:toast:

[Nikia]

14. Yes, it bothers me

Especially since I know that it has been going on at work since I got there. I know that they talk shit about other people too, but it bugs me.

[Solly Mack]

15. Most gossip is, and those who talk shit are, almost always

unoriginal in the shit/gossip they talk. Boring, tedious, and predictable.

If I'm to be the center of someone's universe (and people who talk shit behind your back make you the center of their universe) then the least they could do is expend a little effort and be original.

Short answer? Fuck no.

[bridgit]

16. i care about the social disintegration of our society...

the extent to which people are compelled by their nature to "talk shit" behind my, or anyone's back, is the extent to which 'the fabric' is undone. where that is nonetheless the case, they do not care for me in sum total; i therefore trend toward caring somewhat less for them, while it is i continue to have compassion for their immortal souls being so lost wuba-wuba ~

[sundog]

19. ah bridgit, nice point

a society in 'which people are compelled by their nature to "talk shit"'

always good to look at the bigger picture... in a sense it is a social phenomenon

[bridgit]

24. somebody talk'n shit about you, honey...

"why, i'll thrash'em from top to bottom-us..."

there are those clinical trails wherein people were placed in anonymous positions of authority with the means to meat out punishment and the fabric was soon undone with an amazingly quick dispatch & fashion.

"behind your back" is a poor man's...and woman's means, by which 'they' accomplish anonymity while at once being able to be as mean & cruel as they are in their hearts already as a, once again = natural course of events not merely imo

[Deja Q]

20. Yes. I know it's a human thing, but humans aren't nice and backtalk is WHY

we end up having wars in the first place.

[SarahB]

21. Oh, sometimes.

I just figure they don't get me. No biggie. :D

[Shoeempress]

23. I expect people to do it and if they aren't, then I am doing something

very wrong. But in the work community I am in no one ever says nice things about others, so if they aren't saying bad things I am beyond notice, and that is very bad. In fact I was introduced to someone today I have never heard of who said, Oh I've heard of you. So I must have done something to piss someone off and that is good. Man the people who are in my line of work SUCK as far as being friends.

[FuzzySlippers]

25. How did you know I was talking behind your back???

Get outta my head, sundog!!!:scared: :tinfoilhat:

[sundog]

27. it was your sig darlin

:grr:

[JimmyJazz]

28. It bothers me when people spread bullshit lies, but if they just want

to complain or vent to someone else to get something off their chest without deliberately trying to hurt me, I suppose that's not a horrible thing.

[Zuni]

29. I would much rather have it out in the open

because at least I can respond to any allegations :o

[Ikonoklast]

30. Great minds discuss ideas

Average minds discuss events.



Small minds discuss people.

[Mojambo]

31. I've got pretty thick skin

Besides I hate myself more than anybody else possibly could.