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some months ago i posted about a women(24) i(26) fell in love(we we're not toghether, child not mine), with kid (6) and notorious asshole bf. Unfortunately she is far from a perfect person by societies means. Drugs(nothing tuff though), freaking out, and generally unreliable. She is currently on the road straight down in almost every aspect of life. She lost her job recently, big debts, criminal record etc etc. Anyway as strange as the emotional trojan horse called love can be i still have the feelings for her. No i can't just remove my feelings like a harpoon from a whale. "Letting her go" is not an option.
Her brother a longtime close friend of mine, the father of her child and a kindergarten teacher are allready "conspiring" to initiate the mills of bureaucracy to put severe pressure on her or have the child removed from her care. Unfortunately none of them can care due to financial troubles and five digit debts, which means her son is going to the orphanage/custody family.
Unfortunately the little ones father, she and her brother pretty much can't argue civilized and it ends in nothing constructive - just yelling or even slapping and kicking around.
I fear she'd get into heavy stuff or commit suicide if she lost custody but sadly i see the necessity of action as well. i love her, her brother and her son...they're part of my choosen "family of friends" I am unsure what to do if anything.
I recognize it's not my battle but i'm substitute family to at least one so i can't just turn my back. But its hard to have to pick a stance. The problem i see in her lack of self-control, the others precision-of-a-battelaxe-diplomacy and my influence is only good with my old brother-friend.
Hints and ideas very welcome
Shitty situation. Why can't i have normal friends?
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