If you had a boyfriend, would you go out to a bar alone?

[Deja Q]

For the sake of playing pool only and not looking for boys with "other sorts" of pool sticks and cue balls? :crazy:

[RPM]

1. yes

i have a wife, and i do just that on occasion.

have fun!

[supernova]

2. Yes, because what if

he doesn't like playing pool? Does that mean I should never pick up a cue again?

[khashka]

3. Yup

Bars, porn stores, malls, office buildings, train stations. Go anywhere, do anything.

Besides, my grandma taught me how to hustle guys at pool when I was nine and I need the cash for cigs....

Khash.

[skygazer]

4. Of course

I have a husband and I've been known to, as has he. People are not meant to be together 24/7, they do not always share the same intersts and if you can't trust your partner, you shouldn't be with them.

[Deja Q]

7. Or the other way around in reverse.

:D

(I was thinking of going out tonight... but I'm tired and it's going to rain, not to mention I just washed my car anyway...)

[tjdee]

5. Sure.

And I'm very much a prude.

It's quite alright I think, for attached persons to go to a club/pool place/bar without their SO.

[ovidsen]

6. Worthy of a survey.

Sure I'd let my wife go out solo. Trust is everything.

[lildreamer316]

8. yes.

I am perfectly capeable of telling multiple idiots that they need to F-- off. Other than that I usually go to hang out with my girl friend or a couple guy friends of ours (as a couple). All about my independence.

[Lisa]

9. yes -- and I would expect him to go out and entertain himself too

Especially if we were in separate locations, due to work or circumstance.

I'm not really a "bar" person, but I do go out to restaurants, movies, etc. -- especially when you're past adolescence, a grown responsible person should not be expected to sit at home waiting for the phone to ring. I had enough of that in high school ... and I've also seen male and female friends become virtually chained to their phones or e-mail, with a SO/spouse who expects them to have no social life.

It kind of creeps me out when someone "orders" a supposed life-partner to give up absolutely everything that s/he had before meeting that person. Not just the friends and family s/he hung out with, but hobbies and interests too ... like cooking, bird-watching, or book-collecting.

Funny thing is, I split up with my ex because he accused me of not caring enough about him, when I wasn't calling twice a day, and didn't put my foot down when he had a chance to go on lecture tour to Japan without me. In retrospect I still think I made the right decision. A wise friend told me that even if someone else thought I was being overly permissive and made a move on him, the crucial link was still my ex -- and that, given what happened, he likely would have been unfaithful even if I were right there.

[Withywindle]

11. Right on.

That sounds like very emotionally controlling behavior to me. He was upset because you DIDN'T get upset about him going to Japan?

I was with someone like that once. It turned pretty psychologically abusive - I wish I had seen those warning signs earlier.

[Withywindle]

10. I do it all the time!

Mostly when there's a band that I want to see and he doesn't or is doing something else that night, but sometimes just to hang out with friends (of both genders).

He does the same.


This is even a question? :shrug:


We live together, so it's good to get some social time independently.