Oh God..I accidentally called my Dad's cell phone got his voicemail

[jus_the_facts]

...what a shock to hear his voice again.....I miss him so much. :cry: :cry: :cry:

[oneighty]

1. 180

((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))

[jus_the_facts]

5. ((((((((hugsback))))))))

....thank you. :hug:

[xchrom]

2. wow -- i know how that feels...

when my partner died, years ago now, i left his message on the answering machine -- i didn't get any phone calls for a few days -- and then there was one.

i was devastated -- it just goes like that.

sorry for your loss.

[jus_the_facts]

7. I'm sorry for your loss as well.....I'm at work and can't stop squallin'..

.....whew...thank you so much. :hug:

[xchrom]

9. hugs back at ya...

[Hav]

3. Sorry for your loss...

and that reminded me of 21 Grams...

[jus_the_facts]

13. Thank you....

:hug:

[Modem Butterfly]

4. I had a friend who died on September 11

He e-mailed me about what he thought was another car bomb. He wrote about how there was an annoucement to stay put, but people who'd been there "during the last one" said that if they didn't go now, they'd be stuck there for hours. He also said that he was going to try to use his medical training to see if he could help (he'd been an EMT at one point).

I got this e-mail days after 9/11, about the time we realized he hadn't survived. I think it was part of his company's disaster recovery efforts. After reading his e-mail, I just went to bed and stayed there for a couple of days.

My condolences on the loss of your father.

[jus_the_facts]

14. Thank you....I'm sorry for your loss as well...

....that must've been extremely tough. :hug: :hug:

[Misunderestimator]

6. Oh, I'm so sorry.

That must have been a shock :hug:

[jus_the_facts]

15. it was...his and Mom's numbers are only one digit different....

...it's been a while since I called their cell numbers and dialed his first...was a shock but he sounded so good...still so hard to believe he's gone...thanks Karen. :hug: :loveya:

[goclark]

8. Hugs!

[jus_the_facts]

16. Thank you...

:hug:

[supernova]

10. Hugs JtF

:hug: :hug:

Things will come up to trigger your grief. Just let it happen. :hug: Sorry for your loss.

[jus_the_facts]

17. Thank you....

....I'm sorta glad now...I even called back to listen to him again...oh how I miss him. :hug: :hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

11. Right after my SIL died

leaving behind a beautiful 15 month old little girl who is here with me this week, I called their house to check on my brother and got their voice mail. You guessed it, her voice. I was in shock for three days.

[jus_the_facts]

19. Oh that poor baby....so sorry for their and your loss.......

.....I'm feelin' some better now...the more I think about it I'm glad it happened and I got to hear him sound so healthy and alive once more. :hug:

[GOPisEvil]

12. Awww...Amber...

:hug:

I have Andy's phone number still saved in my phone too. It's the first name that pops up. Knowing I can never call that number and talk to him is sad. :(

[jus_the_facts]

22. Thank you David...sigh....I had such hope for both of them too be well....

...again and devistated by the stark reality of losin' my Dad and then yet another DU friend...the hurt wrenches my heart and soul beyond belief. :hug: :hug:

[WCGreen]

18. I had an answering macine message from my mom.....

That I accidently erased some years back, but I had it and would put it on everynow and then....

Preserve the phone

[jus_the_facts]

23. I already asked my Mom if there is a way to keep it on there.....

....I'll figure out a way to record it as now that the shock is over I'm glad to have been able to hear him talk to me again. Thank you. :hug:

[progmom]

20. i am really sorry

that would be a real shock. :hug:

[jus_the_facts]

24. Thanks...it was but now I'm thankfull to have heard him speak again....

....and sound so healthy and alive...last time I'd spoken to him he was really sick so now that the initial shock is over...it's comforting. :hug: :hug:

[Shell Beau]

21. That must be tough.

But, just from experience, you may cherish that one day. I lost a brother 8 years ago and I am afraid I forgot what his voice sounded like. I know this is still too fresh for you now, but save it b/c you may want to hear it again one day. I am sorry! :hug:

[jus_the_facts]

25. Thank you....

...I plan to record it and keep it always...so sorry for your loss as well. :hug: :hug:

[coffeenap]

27. I know how you feel--do keep it.

I lost my dad in November. My bd was 3 months before, just when he was beginning to fade. He managed to remember my birthday (my mom had always kept track and she died the year before) and was so proud that he did, since he was very depressed and disoriented most of the time. He left a deliberate and very Dad-like message on my answering machine. It is still there and I listen to it when I need it.

Best to you. m.

[jus_the_facts]

30. I'm going to record it and keep it always....thank you....

...and so sorry for your loss...I can relate all too well...the best back to you. :hug: :hug:

[Javaman]

26. If you can keep the recording...I wish I had my dad's voice.

My dad passed away 5 years ago this past sunday. I just wish I could hear his voice again.

[jus_the_facts]

31. Thank you...I'm sorry for your loss....gonna record it this afternoon...

...so I can keep it always. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[flamingyouth]

28. Oh, hon, I know how that feels.

It's so shocking. I'm so sorry. :hug:

[jus_the_facts]

32. Thank you....it was at first...now I want to keep it always......

....so I don't have to miss him so much. :hug: :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

29. *hugs* I can just imagine how weird and painful that would be, sweetie.

[jus_the_facts]

34. Thank you...it was at first but now it's comforting....

...as the last I was able to talk to him he sounded so tired and sick...it was good to get to hear him sound healthy and alive again now that the initial shock is over. :hug: :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

36. I have a videotape I made of the cheering competition that I went to

with my mom. I haven't been able to bring myself to listen to it because I am afraid that I will hear her complaining about the heartburn that turned out to be a heart attack. :(

[jus_the_facts]

37. Oh that would be heart wrenching....

....I understand your apprehension...maybe you could get someone else to watch it first and let you know? :hug: :hug: :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

38. I might try that. :^) Thanks!

[joneschick]

33. {{{{{{jus_the_facts}}}}}}}}}

my dad died 2+ years ago and my mom never changed their answering machine. Somtimes I can handle it, sometimes I can't.

[jus_the_facts]

35. Thank you....I'm sure I'll have the same reaction as you do....

....so sorry for your loss as well....now that the initial shock is over I'm feelin' better about it and want to keep it always. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Obamarama]

39. I'm sorry to learn about your father's death...

I remember seeing your thread a while back when he was hospitalized in Dallas and you were planning to drive there to see him. I have been off and on DU this summer, so I didn't know how things turned out.

I know how you feel. I ran across a casette tape a few years ago that I had made back in 1990 when my five-year old niece was fighting a brain tumor. It was of her and I talking, and I made it because I thought that if she didn't make it, I'd want something to remember her voice by.

After she died, I put it away. I couldn't listen to it. I also didn't label it and when I was going through old tapes, I ran across it. When I heard her voice I just melted down. All can say is that while it never gets "easy" to deal with the loss of someone so central to your life, it does get easier over time.

[jus_the_facts]

40. Thank you...so sorry to hear about your neice....

.......that's gotta be extremely tough to lose someone so young....I'm hoping that time will help me to come to grips with it as well. :hug: :hug: